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Originally Posted by prjav yes when i said my wife as realist because of religion that was messed up. Because of religion she was Idealist which is a trait closely related to Idealist/Denier types and ill go on a limb and say most very religious gilrs will be I/D/N. |
I dont understand. Why is religion about R or I? I thought it was about J or D (like sexually repressed or not). Or do you mean: religious girls are more into traditional relationship roles and less into career than atheiists? Maybe as well. Maybe also more investors than evil testers. So NDI, like you say.
I read the strategy guide and everything just seems so complicated and somehow contradictory at first. Vins says. Dont stereotype. Still I think it is needed. Otherwise the content cannot be applied in the field, because it is just too heavy.
So I think it makes sense to have a label for the types which is more telling, but maybe not as cool as the ones used in the system. It also makes sense to have ultra short descriptions. (see below).
One problem I have is to understand the system. Basically I can always better memorize a system by understanding the mechanics than by learning by heart.
So what are the rules - My hypothesis:
Girl behavior is made up by the three dimensions + how this projects into the world and what reaction the world (guys) give to it. Basically what you then have to do is to provide value and do the opposite of what most other guys do with this type. Makes sense ?
Playerette - Introvert party girl (cool observer)
TDI: Open indirect with situational
Opener (TD). No lines. Hold back sexuality, instead have good mood, create intrigue and have good conversation. (DI) Deep conversation allows to persist with
Escalation in privacy (D)
Social butterfly - Extrovert party girl (social flirty)
TJI: Open fun confident way (TJ). Be cool unaffected teasing guy. (TJ). Be physical but in a playful, dominant not a romantic way. (TJ) Sexual attraction does the rest: try to have sex with her as soon as possible. (J)
Example1: Social butterfly. She is or has become very confident being a tester and being a justifier. That is, she has decided to date around (T) and to sleep around (J) with guys and to handle it whatever society says. She is young, still learning more about guys and not so much concerned about business but rather romance/psychology/relationships (I). So she is confident + extrovert.
If she is pretty (and these are the girls we are interested in) she thus creates a lot of attention, which she becomes addicted to (attention whore). Her reputation also gets a lot of guys interested, who see her as an easy target. But she does not want these guys, but the guys that add to her lifestyle (being fun, dancing) without distracting her from her lifestyle (monopolize her for deep discussions). Guys that appreciate her for her hidden personality not because of obvious sex appeal seperate themselves from the rest. They are allowed to escalate sexually quickly.
Example2: Playerette. She is: sexually not open + protects her image because she is inexperienced, religious, ... (D), interested in romance rather than business, again because she is young or because she is more traditional (I), and dates around because she loves attention and/or she does not like to commit to one guy (T). So you have a girl that is interested in romance and loves attention but which is insecure/inexperienced. Because she is insecure she does not take action but keeps more passive and lets the guys come. Since the guys have no clue what she likes (poker face) they are either too boring or they overcompensate by being too romantic (I), too sexual (J), or using lines. What she wants is attention and fun (T). And see that the guy is not too much emotionally attached and special (T). Therefore teasing. Interest is created through talking and romanitzing (I). In privacy more can happen.
So you could say the social butterfly is just a more experienced playerette, who is more extrovert, more active, more curious about people. For this reason everybody sees her as sexual object. She needs to weed out the sexual needy guys to get the fun guys she really wants.
Makes sense? Please comment!