The 4 C's

I'm reading all these AMOG threads on here; how to become one, how to beat one, how to spot one. I find it funny because the moment you start asking "how do you become one?" or make yourself look like one, your simply putting yourself behind on the social scale (or devaluing yourself if you will).

Alot of people will say that you have to hold/carry yourself right, do this and that. But to be a leader of people, the core elements can be put into what I like to call the 4 C's. It's very simple to remember and gives you the basics to learn to interact with society if done well, and by extension, learn how to Pickup.

You should always remain Cool, Calm, Collected and Confident. These tie in with one another so if you don't have one aspect you cannot have all 4 properly:

1. Cool: this means that you should always seem like nothing affects you in a negative way; like you're a block of ice. If a guy comes up to you and tries to break your hand in a hand shake, who cares? if you act like nothing happened the guy automatically puts himself on your level (or visa-versa) regardless of what he says, thus half of what you might have been worried about to start with is gone. Acting cool allows you brain to stay;

2. Calm: remain calm at all times. This will keep you thoughts together and will prevent verbal diarrhea. It will also show that anyones attempt to de-rail your brain won't work. This allows you to stay;

3. Collected: Keep yourself together and understand what is going on in the social situation both in front of you and around you. Try and collect as much information about the situation as possible. Staying collected will give you the information that helps to remain;

4. Confident: This is one of the more discussed of the four. While its got plenty of definitions I'll give my quick explanation. You should believe in yourself to such a degree that you know that there is nothing that you could stuff up, and even if you do stuff up socially, the other 3 C's will keep you sitting pretty.

The whole thing is a bit of a circle really. And I find that other men that don't have one or more of these attributes don't have the ability to be a great leader. Whilst sure you can add/take, modify or discuss any of the points above, these 4 core parts are the best way to remember how you should be thinking and acting.

These 4 concepts won't just improve your game if done properly, they have the ability to help and improve all aspects of your life (from your work to your family life).

So there it is. I know it's a bit of a long post but I hope it helps someone understand themselves a bit better.

Excellent post. REP +++

yesterday evening i met up with a girl i had been talking to on myspace for about 4 days. after leaving the gym late in the evening she texted me and suggested we meet up at a restaurant. i freshened up a bit and after we met things were going well, she even touched my chest and stomache and was open to talking about sexual fetishes and things were going well...until
the typical jock strolled right up to our table and introduced himself to us and sat down right next to me. at first i was sure they knew eachother but apparently they were within the same circle of friends and he felt comfortable enough to AMOG the situation. i was confident and cool for the first half hour, him and i were conversing and we both were giving her a hard time. during the course of the first hour her and i were texting eachother from across the table and were playing "hard footsie" and we even texted about a fantasy that included me bending her over the table. but an hour and a half into it i was tired of the banter and this asshole wouldn't let up. she eventually closed up to me and instead of continuing our Kino and text she layed across her side of the booth. i excused myself kindly and went to the bathroom because i had been holding it for over an hour and texted her saying "last chance to get outta here and find a different place to hang out". i waited about a minute for a response and nothing...i went back to the table and spoke to the jock for a bit and suggested we hang out sometime. then she stood up and gave me a hug and i walked away...
i can't be mad at this guy, i'm man enough to admit that his game was much more organized and he was every bit as confident as i but he certainly had the drive to continue the banter...but on the other hand i was also man enough to know that i was better than that and i didn't deserve to be her "dancing monkey" and make her feel good about herself.
the next morning i texted her and we talked back and forth, i suggested she invite me out and she said that she "was a lady" and it was against her nature to do such things...honestly can anyone give me some advice on how to persue this and maybe get a sex close so i can hate bang her and up my confidence after the events of last night

well first off you should have figured out within the first couple mintues whether he was a friend of hers. if not shut down his game. you know her better and she out with you. to keep this from happening next time, i have actually made up a thing where only the best can stay calm cool and collected. you hit on him. yeah i said it. He comes and sits down next to you, you make it awkward for him and fark up his game and get him to leave. then he becomes the joke between you guys. like a little inside joke. so he comes over and sits down. your like " damn, hey sexy, why you got to come sit down like ur the man. i love a man who is in charge. whats ur name"....lol then he will feel awkward. keep it up and he gone and then you can joke. like "omg he was so sexy right...lol jk" then just continue throwing your game. it shows confidence but that you also take charge but dont do it in a d1ck way

thank you, that's definately one i'll keep in mind for the nexttime around.

I haven't been on here as much as I would have liked, stupid commitments.

Interesting story. Sounds like you did pretty good.

Personally I would have been a bit more aggressive with this guy. It sounds like he was being a bit of a d1ck but was being very calm about it. Next time that happens try and be a d1ck as well but in a calm way. I agree with crobinson1. You needed to find out how they knew each other within the first 5 minutes to find out what sort of a relationship your dealing with.

If after 15-20 minutes he is still trying to AMOG you, stamp your authority down on the situation in a friendly but assertive way. Maybe say something like "Look bud, my friend and I are having a nice dinner/conversation, I don't mean to be rude but can you leave us to our night? we can hang out later." Then use your body language to block him out of the conversation.

The key with something like this is to say it like you don't expect him to reply in a negative way. If he is an okay guy he'll back off, if he kicks up a fuss just continue to stamp your authority on him and eventually he will either lose his cool or see there is no point in investing much more energy as he isn't getting past you.

The best part of all this is that chicks dig guys that can stand up for themselves and what they want. Don't be afraid to stamp you foot down, broaden your shoulders and tell another guy where to stick it. Don't apologize for being a man

thx,man

good system

Basically watch californication.

And be like this guy