im away for 2min and shes with a buddy.. wtf

in a party, i made out with a girl for like 10min, got her #, had some sexual touching going and told her ill be back in a bit cuz i needed to get some fresh air and meet my buddy (obviously not for that reason lol but u get the point)
i come back to the dance floor and she is making out with one of my buddies.
now me and this guy dont really know each other but the names.. i mean we hang out like twice maybe but never talked for long to each other. so i see him making out with her and i tell him from his back "come on man.. bro's before hoe's isnt it?", he took of and i really appreciated it, and i got respect to him now. i take this girl upstairs and we having a bit of talk about how i left her for a sec and shes with someone else.. but i wasnt mad at all.
she goes "i dont even really know you, i mean we are here to have fun right?"
me: "yeah, and im not saying dont have fun.. go ahead.. i would love to see you having a good time. but i really felt like there is some chemistry between us."
her: "there is.. i just flirt and u should do the same"
me: "im not like that.. though, and how can i trust you now after you tell me all this?"

anyways.. stupid convo.. i felt like an AFC breaking up with a girl that i thought was 100% mine and realised how stupid i was for even bring all this up.

i end up somehow giving her and her friend a ride home and i asked "will you text me tomorrow moring, first thing when you wake up?"
she said yes and she did! she texted me "blabla.... hope you got home safely blabla.."

now my question is, this guy saw me with her, he saw the whole thing. then as soon as i left he went for it.. how could have i handled the situation better?

and dont get me wrong, i kept on doing my thing.. it just that i want that girl in particular.

Had you just met her too? If so I wouldn't even give her te time of day especially the satisfaction of seeing you upset. Look at what you did when she pushed you, You folded. You have got to stay in control. If she wants to makeout with someone else go open another set and k close her. I'm nit trying to dig on you to bad here but when u ask her to text you and drag her away from the party to talk about it and all that stuff, If you just met her that's really needy. As style said best way to get over a girl is to fark 12 others.

Do you like her? If so you have major damage control to work. If you do want to see her again i would back way off. Like dont call, text, anything for a while. You need to show her that you dont need her. You have reestablish your alpha role. Your gonna to have to "punish" her for her actions. So when you do see her, neg her. Make her work for your attraction and attention. make her contact you. And when she does dont be as soft get your self congruent and hold to your frame. She is gonna test you, its what they do, let her and show her that you are strong and alpha.

Listen you blew it pretty bad. Don't sweat it, but know EXACTLY what you will do next time it happens. (She sounds like a cool girl, just having fun - which is what you should have been doing).

When you saw her making out with him, you should have moved on and made out with someone else (or talked to other girls or guys). I mean you JUST MET HER and you have immediate one-itis?!?

Bad move man.

I had a similar thing happen a few years ago at a beach share I had off long island ny, but instead of getting pissed (she was kissing some other tool - and I had just met her that night)... when he stepped away I walked over again and said - let's get out of here and led her away. If she didn't want to leave with me.. ok no worries.

Listen - you gotta love her attitude - she is just wanting to have fun.

SHE IS NOT LOOKING FOR A BOYFRIEND or a guy to control her (you were playing the part of both).

When girls want to have fun... HAVE FUN, but don't expect more.

Don't let this happen to you again (sliding to a full AFC and becoming so damn needy).

Any girl who likes you and makes out with your buddy is just a fun girl, not a relationship girl.

INSTEAD you should have moved on.. and high fived your buddy later for sharing her or teased him about how your spit tasted or something.

In short: Be a DUDE, not a wuss man.

Sorry for the tough love.

BP

Well I hope you've moved on and not waited for the girl to be gf material because you've seen her kiss another guy and you still went after her. I just really can't see anyone getting 100% respect back after that.

Sorry, bro.