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Originally Posted by crobinson1 im wondering maybe how to start it out. cause i have to try and get her to hang out with her boyfriend not there but also make it not feel like a date and then make it something that i can teach her so i can get close and use keno and also up the s3xual Tension. i was thinking indoor rock climbing. I like that, i know how to do it so i can teach her. Its active and it can be seen as a thing to do while hanging out. So maybe help me make a plan. I know that i have to teach her how to tie the knot and i can do that by coming from behind her, putting my arms around her and then showing her first hand, as long as i have a real warm energy and that im doing it just to show her. She will constantly be thinking about the s3xual tension while i show her how to tie the knot.
Some other ideas on how to get close, cause s3xual tension but also make it seem like im not after her?? |
Rock climbing can work. However, you are making several mistakes. First, while getting her by herself is the ultimate goal, show her that you are not afraid of her current boyfriend, and don't be afraid to hang out with her around him. She needs to know that when she comes to you, you are gonna be able to deal with this loser, otherwise she will never consider you. Don't get in his face, but call him out if he acts like a douche, but otherwise hang out, but pretty much ignore him.
Secondly, don't ever plan out dates. Don't plan out how you are going to work things because the events will never work out the way you imagine, and then your mind will only use it as an excuse to fail. Not only that, but it will close your mind to opportunities that arise. You can plan some conversation topics, some funny little games, and general activities, but that is about it.
Finally, you are not going to go from your current relationship to girlfriend in one hang out period. You want to establish the playful vibe, and build a little
Sexual Tension on the first hang out or so. Go out, have fun and more importantly, let her know she can hang out with you while having fun and letting her hair down. To introduce the sexual tension, just joke with her. Highfive her. Pat her on the back for encouragement. Hold her gaze for a little too long. Give her a hug. Look at her eyes, then slowly let your gaze fall to her lips for a half a second. This stuff will build sexual tension and make her think about the possibilities without freaking her out the first time.
When you go rock climbing, make sure you future project. That means, make sure you mention how next time you go do X, you are going to have to try Y. This will help her picture you guys together in the future.