Ya the Tension's staying strong and it's not escaping from something they're doing. I'm inadvertently throwing a wet blanket on the fire by getting nervous.
I think that I'm getting nervous because of overthinking. Some things that go through my mind are stuff like, "This girls great, even though I want to ratchet things up a few notches, don't because then you may blow a chance to see her again." or "If I make a move and strike out, then this girl is blown for me." or "This isn't the perfect time, you're going to f it up" etc... I'm also afraid of making a move and getting rejected in front of my friends, other people at the club and the wait staff who I'll probably see again.
I quit drinking a while back and now that I'm sarging without the liquid courage it's a bit harder to make a move in a relaxed sort of way. Not drinking's definitely sharpened up my initial game, framing, opening sets and all that but I used to be fearless when it came time to close the deal. Now I'm scared to death of coming off as too predatory or something. Maybe that's a reaction to all those sexual harrassment classes we had to sit through in college, the military and the office.