Being Picky

Hey guys, I haven't posted in a while. I read The Game almost a year ago now, and I have to say it's been an interesting ride. This time last year, my outlook on life (and women) was completely terrible. Then I read the book, and of course went through that phase where I could be a Master PUA. I went out and sarged, and after a lot of fails started to get better. Then I got a lot better. I was no superstar or anything, but I definitely got to the point where I could go to a party and had a pretty good chance of walking out of there with a chick. I even changed my diet and started working out; not so it would be easier for pickup, but just because I liked who I was more and felt I deserved to be healthy!

Here's the thing I learned most though, and this is one of the reasons I haven't posted in a while; most of the chicks I've met are farking annoying! A lot of chicks, especially hot ones, have always kind of sounded dumber than I'd want to associate with anyways, but now that I've been spending way more time around them, I find that the next morning I'm so annoyed with these chicks that I never want to see them again. Unfortunately, I'm a nice guy and still try to be friends with these girls, but the more I'm around them (not even sleeping together) the more I find that I don't want to have anything to do with these girls.

To top it off, the better I got at pickup (and I'm really not even that good), the less of a challenge it seemed. Just knowing that with the right words/actions/etc. I could close at a pretty good success rate made me respect these chicks even less, and thus I have even more trouble caring about what comes out of their mouth.

My question is, what do you do in this situation? I'm at the point where I'm really interested in meeting a girl that I'd want to actually talk to again. I've tried going to networking events, parties, bars, work events....it all turns out the same. Are all (hot) women this annoying? Where does one go when they want to pickup a girl that will actually be intellectually exciting as well as hot? I'm tired of waking up the next morning, looking at a girl and thinking "man, you really have no clue what's going on in the world, do you?"

First off Rep++ for asking one of the best questions I have seen on here in a long time! I wish more guys inside the community would think about this.

I struggle with this too from time to time. Reason being is that I want high quality women in my life. Because of that I take a different out look on PU then some guys and ill try to explain it here. When I got into PU I did so after a my marriage fell apart. I wanted to get my game back and wanted to have some fun. So i read the game (of course) and started to learn. I started getting fcloses and had tons of fun. But I realized that the goal should be just to get the girl in my bed, it should be to get her in my life. So I changed my approach. Now I screen a lot more, I qualify harder, and I make sure that the quality of woman I am with is where I want it to be. I also want to have those women that are in my life enrich my life and make me a better person, and I hope I can do the same for them. No im not going to lie and say that I don’t enjoy going stretch my legs and work my game just cause I can sometimes, but over all I don’t give it up that easy. Call me a pussy cause of it whatever, but my values guide me to where she must be worth my time to even get in my bed. If she doesn’t meet my standards then so be it I don’t need her. That is why now I have an amazing girlfriend who treats me like a god.

Style said it best that to win the game is to leave the game. I don’t disagree. Not everyone has those goals, and im not advocating that they should. Each person must find their own way and follow their own path. But when it gets to a point where you don’t even want to talk to the chick the next day and look at them like they aren’t worth you time; then it might be time to make some changes. Maybe look for a higher quality woman. Write down the things you want in a mate, and the characteristic that you find attractive beyond just looks. Then when you sarge, look for those things. Find you a challenge. Someone that wont just buy in to a1-s3. Look for someone that you have to work for, and chase. Im not saying go all beta and loss what you have created, just something that’s not so easy. When you work for something it makes it more enjoyable when you get it.

The unfortunate part of being a PUA is it makes you look down on women sometimes. I think we should do that. Women are beautiful creatures that can drive us crazy, but can also sooth us and Comfort us when needed. They should be respected, not looked down upon. And it should be that when you wake up in the morning and you roll over you find someone that you want to invest in. When you find this I really think you are winning the game.


Disclaimer: I love to sarge and you guys know that. And there are times where a One Night Stand can be fun and enjoyable. But this isn’t my goal to be able to sleep with a different chick every night. But sometimes it can be down right fun.