Guidance on a HB8

yeah screw her!

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she is more worried what her group of friends think of her than what she is of what you think of her. i always say its not my business what they think of me but when you are dealing with a group reality you can deal with a lot of their 'cultural' crap.

Mystery's stuff was originally about breaking into such groups and disarming them. its a good study or social dynamics and psychology so maybe start having a look into it...

Bro, you just hit the nail on the HEAD. Her friends definitely influenced the situation. She wasn't there with her friends, she was actually there with her sister & her sisters friend. So it wasn't just friend influence but FAMILY influence & that was the night that everything turned sour with her.

I did end up getting her to open up though, she said she expected me to be different in person saying she expected me to be more chatty & "things". I don't know what she means by "things" though. But I explained to her I didn't expect to see her & I was also drunk & she didn't really give me the chance to even speak to her. At then she ended up saying "I'm not looking for anything at the minute". So I don't really know where to go with the situation now. Any last advice in general? & also, how to get out of the "I'm not looking right now" zone?

when they have others there it means you are up against more than just her baggage. to get to her you have to deal with her negative influences and try and win over some of her entourage. sometimes i am not in the mood to be landed in her group when we go out and if we dont perform then we are stuffed. its not fair being the new guy. i try and remove her from all outside disturbances which is why having a car is a must.

she doesnt know what she is looking for mate. females are not great at deciding anything though if you confront or oppose her she will decide that she doesnt want you. she doesnt know what she wants and she has no choice in whether she is attracted to you or not. attraction is not a choice. she will find herself still interested in you as she was upon first impression.... that will stay, its no choice.

pick up another too. maybe even see if you can use her as a Pivot or to inspire a bit of jealousy...