Guidance on a HB8

Basically, I've known this girl a couple months now. Met her through a friend on twitter. We hit it off on there, I # closed. We been talking through text for about 3 months now. We arranged to meet at a club she likes but I had to cancel on her twice. Now yesterday, we just so happened to be at the same club, I knew it was her & she wasn't sure if it was me. Now I had been drinking heavily, so i was in no mind to game her there. But she called me over & said "what's your name?", I told her my name & she knew it was me but she immediately retreated & ignored me & continued to chat with her friends. So, I just casually walked off. Then later on, I bumped into her again, we exchanged smiles then she came over & asked to see my abs cause i work out etc & it's a little joke we got going. Like how ripped my abs are. She felt them, we flirted a little & she walked off.

So the whole encounter was brief. I ran no routines etc. We just had a few exchanges & that was it. But now, I'm wondering how should i approach this from now on? Should i text her now (the day after we met) or wait for her to contact me etc. I'm stuck. Help would be much appreciated.

u shouldnt have jumped thru her hoops. she didnt talk to you but then she asks to see ur ripped abs and u comply. fark that. make her work for that sh1t. she was just feeling a little horny and wanted some eye candy!

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Why was sheep stand offish. Figure that out before you move forward. It might already be to late to try it.

Crob is right though you totally jumped through her hoop.

I agree with both of y'all. I did jump through her hoops. But the main thing which threw me was the fact i didn't expect her to be there & i was wasted.

& i forgot to add, she actually text me while i was in the club asking if i was in the club, if that makes sense but i couldn't respond because i couldn't get any signal. So it came across to her as if i was playing hard to get or being an asshole.

I pretty much had her eating outta my hand prior to this unexpected meeting. I haven't spoke to her since we saw each other in the club, so I'm wondering what my approach should be cause no doubt she'll be playing hard to get now.

yeah u need to figure out why she was stand offish and then try to work the hot body thing against her more. like just now. i just got done working game on a girl and had her jumping thru my hoops, qualifying herself left and right. has her already thinking she wants to date me and all i did was work my online game! feels accomplished!!!

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Yeah, I appreciate the advice man.

I just can't get my head around her behavior. I've never come across this before. She was so distance but open at the same time cause she called me over & asked my name, I told her & she backed off straight away without even saying I'm so & so & introducing herself in person & then she started talking to her friends again. So she basically froze me out after finding out it was me for sure.

All i can put the Freeze Out down to is:

• I wasn't what she expected.
• She wanted me to acknowledge her but at the same time be distant cause she thought I was being an asshole by unintentionally ignoring her.
• She wanted me to notice her & then backed off cause she wanted me to do the chasing.

It's just so tough to figure out why she did that. I'm just wondering if I should text her & see where I stand now cause I doubt she'll text me first, she'll 100% be waiting for me to make the first move & I'm reluctant to initiate contact first. So we're at a stand off.

lol well she showed some interest by approaching you and obviously wanted you at least sexually cause she wanted to see and touch ur abs. what u need to do now is try and turn it around and start getting her to chase u. so start mirroring her. be standoffish, freeze her out but then show some interest and use the abs thing against her. and then act like she is getting punished for being standoffish on you.
her: blah blah blah. something and wanting you to do, if its abs or not.
you: no ur going to have to earn it. i gave u a freebie and you totally just used me for my abs.

you can say some sh1t like that so she starts changing her behavior to get what she wants!

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Damn, I wish I had seen this advice yesterday. I totally agree I should of mirrored her & got her to chase me. But...

I text her last night, to basically test the water. & it makes sense now as to why she stood off. She was no longer interested in me. My problem was my friend is seen as more attractive to women than I am - based off the amount of female attention he gets without even gaming them. & when I text her last night she was more concerned about talking about my friend who I was with & the minute I tried to bring it back onto the subject of me & her, she didn't text back & from the minute she text me back her responses were short & disinterested & she only really wrote a lot when talking about my friend. It's a real kick in the balls. So I guess this situation is dead now. I don't see how I can turn this around without coming across as needy & texting her again. Any final suggestions? You been a real help man!

lol ok the only way you can really bring her back is to be better than your friend. all you have to do is be fun and different in your text and then see if you guys meet up again but then neg her like she isnt your type and she is the one chasing you. so if you can try and start and interesting text convo one more time. and really be funny. and if she is still short and disinterested test the waters with a "hey me and my friend are going out and wanted to get some people to come with." then if she turns around again and starts being interested in ur friend. fark her, its her loss. after that just help out ur friend for him to get in there

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Yeah, I agree with that advice. That's basically what I've been doing. Being better than my friend. But.. Instead of texting her & being really funny, I commented her twitter post with something really funny & tried to keep it normal like she never ignored me or nothing & she still didn't bite back & ignored me. So I'm thinking I should call it a day or else I'm gonna come off needy/desperate, which I'm far from. You agree?