i dont wanna relationship.

K so I met this cute young lil indian girl in class. She had been showing me interest from the get go n i kinda was playful with her and acted like she was jus a pain in my ass. So yesterday we were working in the same group in class and I decided I want to get to know her better. I give her my phone an say put ur # in here. she does and she even calls her fon with it w/0 me asking. After class she asks what im doin for the rest of the day and we plan a mid day date. cool we go our separate ways.

So we meet up an hr later at my place, i bring her up cuz I had some software i needed to c if was done installing (wink) So she sees my place and my view of chicago ( amazing) we then go to a thai place and have dinner. we hit it off.

we finish dinner and she asks well what now? we goin to ur place? haha of course we r ( but im like well i suppose) so we get to my place and she jumps onmy bed we talk wreslte and just play around, i didnt try to eff close cuz I didnt have time. I had an appt to make. so we just hang for a bit and then part ways for the night.

My question is How do i tell ehr i dont wanna relationship, I just wanna hang and bang. she is cool but a lil to young for me to have as a gf. Yes she is legal, in case ur wondering. I would never do anything with a minor, but im 26 and she is 19.

Don’t express interest in a relationship. Just keep having fun enjoying your time and whatnot. If she brings it up have a clear explanation of what you want. Just make sure you are congruent with your desires and your actions. DON’T LIE ABOUT IT! Biggest thing is to just be honest. Know what you want and live what you want. The rest will fall in place…. Hopefully.

yeah lately i have been telling the girls i talk to everything i am doing and what i want and they havent cared one damn bit. haha its funny cause ill be like well im not really looking to date someone right now but you are really cool and attractive that i want to keep talking to you = fark closing within thirty minutes haha

tcomea2- i like how you end with hopefully! haha thats the truth tho. Yea I'm just gonna keep moving forward and show no interest in the relationship. If she asks I have no prob being honest, I just wasnt sure if this was something u should talk about before sex.

Other than that this has been a nearly perfect pickup, wish they all could work this easy. At this point I have her convinced that I told her No to sex and had to pull her off of me. She thinks she gets everything she wants, therefore I have made myself a challenge and now she MUST get what she wants. hahaha love it! thanx for the assistance guys!

Yeah I never ask. If you bring it up its just going to jack you all up.

Glad we could help!

Listen to me discuss this exact topic on the world famous Chick Whisperer Program (Episode 39).


http://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/t...en/id218155493

Like what was said on the podcast bill. Helped me understand what direction i need to take in terms of keeping this relationship informal.

Unfortunately, as with psychology, not all things work out as planned lol. So as soon as I figured I had escalated sexually she says we need to have a talk bout sex ( this was not in bed as I tried to push boundries, she initiated this convo in the park as I tried to play the question game) . She asks if im in it to win it? So I tell her well thats not my primary motivation for our interactions but, yea I am interested in winning it. So she begins to tell me that she is abstinent and has only had sex with 1 person and had something bad happen. She wants to wait till its right, like with her husband. FML. I like this girl thus far but I don't know if im willing to a) wait or b) be that guy that makes it right.

yeah its up to you. i mean if she is really fun i would maybe stick with her for a little but also me im the guy looking for the right relationship thru pick up. still havent though

Nothing wrong with that crob, thats what Im looking for to. Man I just hate the possibility of waiting till marriage. Its almost a deal breaker! haha Is that immature?

That's not immature it's just that you have a different value set from your target. Not saying she is right or you are just different out looks that's all.