Bookstore ?

This is my first real post, I'm really trying to take this seriously and get out there more.

Anyways, this is non-sarging related, kind of just fell into my lap. I was sitting in the bookstore this evening reading The Game, and this HB8 working there smiles and says hello as she walks toward where I'm sitting, and then she stops and bends over to start shelving books on this display, maybe 20 feet away. This is in the basement on a Sunday night, so there really aren't many people around.

Anyways, I figure approaching with The Game in my hand is not smart, so I read it for another 30-60 seconds, and then go to shelve it.
- I walk up past her from the front/side, abt 45 degree angle, and ask her if she's having an exciting evening.
- HB smiles, talks about how it's her job to create these displays, so it's alright.
- I ask her if she's in her favorite section (she's shelving self-help).
- She smiles, says (not seriously) she likes shelving books on weight-loss, self-esteem, relationships, etc.
- I say "Oh, so all the things you need help on!"
- She takes a second to get the joke, but then kind of smiles.
- We talk another ~1 minute, then I wish her a good evening and leave.

My thinking was it would be a little AFC/overeager to immediately try to get a number/date just because someone says hi in a bookstore. My plan is to go back next Sunday evening (only like 2 blocks from where I live) and get her number. I also thought if she was a little disappointed when I left this week, she would be more excited to see me next time. Cat-and-string theory.

- Thoughts on not pressing tonight, is it better to just try and escalate on the spot?
- What if I had approached with The Game in my hand and joked around about it?
- Also, any thoughts what to say/open with next Sunday?

Thanks for your help, this = my first post.

You seem to have negged where you shouldn't have in telling her that it's all the things she needs help on. You should have said something related to your interests so you could screen her, like, using myself as an example, "what about books on philosophy, politics or suspense novels?" If clings to either of those, such as philosophy, you just successfully baited her into the conversation and built some rapport.

If you neg, and it's unsuccessful, if she isn't angry, and you continue the conversation, be sure to compliment her on something unrelated to her genetics, such as her sense of humor, "good energy," style, etc. You probably want to drop such a compliment anyway at some point.

It is not AFC or overeager to try to get her number at all. It's more AFC not to try. You should have talked to her for 4-5 more minutes if possible, if you could bait and bridge the convo, and flirt well with her, then asked her if there was any way you guys could continue the conversation, which is in order to get a number or even a Facebook.

Putting The Game down was a good idea. If she opened that book later on out of curiosity, chances are high, especially if she opens to something like Style's first threesome, that she will not like what she sees, and will think you are interested in learning to "manipulate" women or whatever. It is better to escalate on the spot, and Kino is good if done lightly and rarely enough. Perhaps you could open next Sunday with "hows the self help section looking tonight? If I had your job, I'd love stocking the xxxxx (your favorite) section." Something like that would naturally start a conversation, and if it doesn't, just tell her to have a great night and move onward.

So I went back to the store this weekend, headed up to the History section. Picked out a book and read it for a few minutes, the same girl comes by.

I used the "Are you having more fun up here than in the Self-Help section?" Opener. It led to a conversation. She majored in Poli Sci at school X, wondering if she should go to grad school. We talked about what books sell the best, how she chooses what books to put on the main display, etc. She seemed pretty cool, would definitely like to know her more.

We talked for about 5 minutes, I light Kino'd her once, nothing much. When I was leaving I asked "Shall we keep in touch?" and at this point she said, "I wouldn't feel right giving my number out while I'm working here. We can talk here though." or something really similar to that. She did make it sound as if she wouldn't mind if I stopped by again at some point.

I'm thinking I'll go back one more time. NOT in the next couple of weeks, but maybe a month from now (I will be out of town for X-Mas). Talk to her for another few minutes and then leave my first/last name if she wants to look me up. Not that optimistic, but in case she was telling the truth above?

- I'm thinking she shot me down. Or maybe she really doesn't want to be seen giving her number out at work?
- Any other thoughts? Is it worth talking to her some more and giving her my first/last? Assuming if I do so, I should wait a few weeks so she can tell I have other stuff going on?

I'd consider it a rejection. If it is true, then she would never, ever give you her phone number unless you happened to bump into her outside of work. Besides, it's a little foolish, if I meet a girl on the job, I don't care if my boss sees me give or take a number, and he wouldn't either, and no reasonable boss or co-worker would care. Also, no one attracted would really care what others thought.

However, just because she said no now does not mean it's impossible. Richard Nixon got rejected a few times by the woman who would become his wife. I would wait 2 weeks and I would talk to her again, but not go for a number or anything and see how it goes. She sounds friendly.