Is confidence really the most important trait to women?

I like to think that I'm the type of guy that every girl wants...attractive, caring, respectful, funny, smart, etc. But I know my flaws. I can't Approach A Girl in public at all and I don't like to make the first move. I know guys who are downright jerks that get more girls than me. I didn't understand it...

But then I read this article. It said that "players" or guys that don't care come off as confident because because since they don't care, they have nothing to lose. If they miss out, oh well, on to the next. Which is understandable...

My question is, how to I come off as this. I'm not one of those types of guys, but how do I give off this sense of confidence?

Dont worry so much!!!! Never in history confidence just popped up out of worries or being a jerk or even Comfort.

It is not something you can achieve, it is something you have to take or make. It is a choice not a mindstate.

The same counts for being happy. Now no1 has ever achieved happines by being a jerk or a player because jerks and players usually are also bad friendships, collegues and relatives. Being a jerk and gaining status by it is a form of (sad(istic) pleasure and will not less long.
In the end you will lose it and it will be a short road to that end.

How to BE happy and confident:
- make your day a wonderful day: you can do this in numerous ways and once you do it you can only get better at it:
*lift someone up!
*learn something new/show interest
*meet some new people
*practice peace and patience
*laugh at least 10 times
*do something nice for yourself and another
*Be gratefull for all these blessings and the things you will while you move through space

this advice comes from 101 Things Ive Learned In My 50 Trips Around The Sun and are the written thoughts of Michael Angier




You will not achieve happiness by being a jerk or a player only a little sad(istic) pleasure, and pleasure is definitly not happines

Basically you want to portray yourself as a "bad boy" there are books out there to teach you. It's also apart of game, it's not something that you can learn, it has to be apart of your personality. And confidence is VERY important! Without that, then we would all be pussies