i was the dorky kid in middle school straight A student till 7th grade, then when every1 had a gf and i dindt, i started to change. Changed who my friends were, hit the gym a lil by high school i was kinda popular, had lost my virginity by 8th grade. the 1 thing i can say that helped me out alot was dont think about what ur doing just do it, u dont have to be the best looking dude in the room but if ur comfortable and happy with who u are people notice that and are drawn to you. We had this chunky kid 5"7' 230+ pounds yet every1 loved him, pretty gf and was enjoying life and i wondered y, and i came to the conclusion that he was just being himself and loving every part of it. As for girls although getting alot of pussy is fun you will never get the satisfaction of a long lasting relationship, the love the care that, that 1 girl who truely cares about u can give. But if you are just trying to get laid go to the busiest part of ur city/town/village and just start complimenting girls, walk around and just say something like "o i like ur shoes/shirt/hair" "where did u get that ......" and just have some conversations with strangers, if you cant approach girls yet talk to some random dude, "wow nice car how much u pay for this beast" then move to uglier girls, then better looking girls till u dont have a problem talking to any1, then i would start trying to Pick Up Girls. My cousin just did this and he just got his first gf at 19 by just going out in manhatan and doing this. But im glad u decided to change urself thats usually the hardest part, just keep ur head high and think im 1 of a kind and only the luckiest girls have the chance to be with me.