I made a mistake and slept with her

I really like this girl, Michelle. And over the weekend, a big group of friends and I were out drinking and I took home this girl Donna. Donna is hot, but I really like Michelle so I shouldn't have done that. I want to make sure Donna is ok though. I am not really sure what to do. I haven't seen her since she left my place. we had sex twice. I sort of want to fix the problem as soon as possible.

should i just tell Donna I like someone else and ask her if we can be friends?

Honesty is the best policy. I get into things with girls, letting them know what it exactly is. I never promise a relationship. I never promise bf/gf material.

I mean, if it was a night of drunk fun, then maybe she thinks it is just sex too (highly doubt it). But considering the circumstances she probably realizes that you two were both drunk and it might of just been sex for you.

If you are really concerned about it, I would play it off with words. I am not sure how slick you can be with your words and expressions, but I have done this numerous times when I sort of regretted something.

What I do, and I do not recommend doing this all the time, is I tell them I feel so horrible about the whole thing and that I am not that kind of guy and I shouldn't of necessarily done that because it puts "us" in an "awkward" position because I don't even know what was/is going on in my head.
What that does is pretty much put this whole twist spin in your mind that she may (or may not) realize as you being just confused. What tends to happen for me is that the girl then tells me it was okay and not to worry about it.

It's a real mind game, truly, and I really really hate doing that kind of stuff because it just sort of makes you feel scummy after, but it's a solution needed sometimes. In your case, you genuinely feel bad so it may definitely work for you.

Ok i texted her saying i like someone else.
I told her i want to be friends
when i asked her what she told her friend (someone who saw us go home together) she said its none of my business
she clearly is mad right? she's pissed. i told her that i am sorry that i have hurt her, and i think i am going to contact her friend and say whatever she said was a mistake

To be honest, you were really straightforward, you shouldn't have told her you like someone else.

Think of it from her POV- she gets a text from a guy she hooked up with saying literally that he wasn't interested. That's rejection for her, no matter what's going on in your life. You pretty much lost her cooperation there.

You poured more fuel to the fire when you asked her who she told. Odds are, her and her friends will find out who you like and, well, gossip about it.


My suggestion to you- DO NOT talk to her friends. It's over. Nothing you do at this point will help you so just back away from all of it and forget it all happened. If Michelle somehow does find out then so be it, life happens.

dont talk to donna or her friends ever again. dont look, dont respond to txt or pick up calls. DONE

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Brada u should have played it cool ,no one actually saw you have sex did they ,you could have had both knowing that if the gal you want where to disappoint you ,you would have donna now you ruined it ,but you can fix it ,nothing is unfixable

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Dont have routines as the cards in your deck ,have skill instead ,because once a routine is done ,its done ,you cant do it again in the same interaction ,but skills can be done over and over ,so then you could play a card twice.

yes because life is governed by nothing besides an individuals OWN choices. and the best thing i can tell you is live and learn.

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-Pierrot

Next time just re read what you wrote and you should be able to answer that yourself.

Also do Pierrot said, he's pretty spot on. You kinda ruined it.