Made a big mistake with girl I like

Hey guys. Last night I went out to the club with a couple of buddies and their gfs. My plan was to hook up with this girl jasmine ( really cute petite blonde) that I met at a party over the summer. I got soo drunk before and when I got there all these girls were getting freaky with me and trying to get me to go to their car with them but I was trying to stay focused on jasmine. Me being the drunk idiot finally gave in and had a couple make-outs with a few different girls and I am pretty sure jasmine saw.

This one girl I stayed with for the rest of the night named Holly and her friends are telling me to call her now. I woke up today and feel terrible, not from the hangover but because I didn't even talk to jasmine. How do I tell holly that I like jasmine and how do I start talking to jasmine? I don't have her on fb or anything...

Dude that doesn't sound like a bad start to me! You just exhibited a ton of game by going with those girls, and probably flipped on a few preselection switches in that girl jasmine u seem so into.

She doesn't know u like her i guess, and if she does who cares that you didn't talk to her, it's likely to make her jealous seein u have fun with those girls. If u see her again just say hi don't put her on a pedestol. It's not your fault that you like to party and girls will go for you , if she mentions it asks why she didn't stop those girls from abducting you or something ha. I'd like to think the preselection triggering could work to your advantage here. It's not a big deal, and you don't have to tell her friend u like her either.
cheers

Haha thanks dude. Huge confidence booster. And you are right. Jasmine and her best friend both added me on Facebook so she's down forsure. I just have to tell this holly chick off. Thanks again.

Let me guess ,what stopped you from approaching her.... An invisible wall i also like to do that ,i wait for the oppourtunity . You got the right strategy dont go to her ,let her come to you. Dont worry about approaching her ,you will ruin your chances psychologically.

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Stryker I don't know what Ur saying. I said I was too drunk to realize that I was hooking up with the wrong girls till later in the night. All my buddies gfs said not to approach her now that I hooked up with 3 girls right in front of her haha so I never approached her. The next morning she added me on fb and I said this: me: hey how was ( club name) last night? Her: heyy it was ok I guess . Me: why just ok?? Her: I didnt have that much fun . Me: tbh I didn't either haha why didn't u save me? . (Today my friend said they told her to dance with me but she never did.) her: haha I couldn't hear what (my friend) was saying all I heard was my name, and I didn't even realize he knew my name and then he said something about you . Then 2 minutes later before I can reply she says she has to go and she signs off fb. Idk how to take this...

Glad to hear the booster man- don't overanalyze the facts u still had fun right and she's talking now so just let it be and she'll come back around I bet!

been there, done that. I know how you feel and here's EXACTLY how to play it if you want to do it right.

She somewhat likes you, you somewhat like her. That night, you hooked up with multiple women which to her could mean more than a few things but most importantly:

1- you have sexual value and that you are an alpha male
2- you are easy, not too classy. Forget about this point though, i'll explain why.

When you FB messaged her, you showed waaay too much neediness. She didn't get attention from you that night so instead of her having to work for your attention, she is somewhat flipping this all around on you by putting you on a guilt trip. Don't buy it or fall for it. She says she didn't have that much fun..Uh yeah, it's her hint to you that she's still interested in you because she's obviously upset about what happened. Doesn't matter though, she isn't entitled to anything for just liking you. Nor are you entitled to her, keep that in mind.

From now on, act like nothing happened that night and **treat her like a platonic interest**. When you show girls limited attention by hanging out with them and texting them while not actively showing signs of interest, it keeps them on their toes and you'll go much farther with them that way.

Now back to that point #2 where I said id explain- If you act like nothing happened, she won't judge you so much as try to chase you. If you do and try to chase her like you are right now, she'll judge you instead of try and chase you. Girls aren't logical, she won't care about what you did that night if she's attracted to you.


When you FB her, only do so when you want to go have a bite with her, or to meet up with her. Same deal with texts. I only text girls at night.

Hell, do everything wrong but DON'T be needy.

Thanks onyx! I am going to approach her at lunch tomorrow just to let her know I'm still interested. Another dude is hitting on her and i havnt talked to her since that convo on Sunday. It's now Wednesday here so I think just approaching her in person and flirting a little will keep her from goin for the other guy ( who I know is a loser but she doesn't). I have also been with most of her friends so that is probly another problem haha but she seems interested still...