need help with attitude

Hello people,
I start to think about what am I doing wrong that I am not closing anybody when I have the best freaking chance to even f-close somebody. I found out what it is. So, I really want you to help me out on this one.

My problem is, I care about people. I don't think about anything like "is this guy her bf?", "does this girl like me?" none of that crap. My problem is I approach the girl, attract the girl, qualify the girl, get her into Comfort where she just sees me, nobody else. I get through all those stages. I become good at kinoing where I don't get my hands taken away from her body by her. But, when I need to close I puss out. And the reason for that is, I think "im gonna ruin her life." a lot of my friends tell me to not care about it. but they don't tell me how. So, I really need your help. If anybody had a problem like this, please let me know. How do you get away from that kinda Mindset. Any kinda mind exercise or something that can make me get rid of it. I've had chance to f-close like 2 girls in 3 nights. and I missed all of them. The reason in all 2 of them was, I feel like I am being evil. Maybe, my personality of being alpha male is not fully formed... So, please help! I want to hear opinion, advice, anything. Just help me get rid of it.

Thanks,
Nerd

P.S If its not the right forum to post this, let me know. I'll change its current forum.

The misconception that you're going to hurt someone sounds like a serious issue that originated from something far more personal than you'll identify through a forum.

Forums will tell you the same, simplistic answer your friends are saying - just ignore it.

You have control over your own state. Your attitude. Your philosophies. Dwelling on past baggage is self-inflicted. And spreading that baggage to others makes them victims.

Find a way to control your emotional state. Study. Get a library card and read some self-help books about depression, defense mechanisms, coping, stress management and so on. Then you'll have to start a long-term experiment. It's a trial & error phase of finding out what works for you by testing everything those books recommend.

If you don't take care of yourself, start doing it. If you don't have at least one hobby that relieves stress, find one. If you neglect any major aspect of your life, stop.

Erika Awakening, Hypnotica, Ross Jeffries and Elizabeth Egan Everett all have various products and services about addressing your subconscious flaws.

That's all I can recommend for you. You know yourself better than anyone else. Utilize that.

I would seriously avoid Erika Awakening, but Ross has some good stuff.