The i only have sex with guys im in a relationship with quote.

So, there is a girl i recently started talking to. i met her on Facebook, she is actually the one who messaged me first commenting on how nice my hair was. so i get this story about how she recently broke up with her boyfriend whom she loved very much, and how he doesnt want to see her any more. she has showed many ioi's to me, we even went to the movies after the first few days of talking, where i recieved even more ioi's. but i am starting to get the gist that she wants a relationship, because she has told me that she hates womanizers who cheat, and she only has sex with guys she dates. she has already shown signs of sexual Comfort towards me, and its obvious that i have this in the bag. how can i smash and dash and get past this "relationship" idea that she is throwing at me?l.

I'd just let her believe you guys are in a relationship, smash it, and carry on with your life while having casual sex with her. If she gets too clingy, tell her she's too clingy and you don't want to put up with her anymore.

Wow wow wow, Viper, hold on there. The main two things that separate PUA's from womanizing players are:

-PUA's have learned how to attract and seduce women because we couldn't before and thus know the value of such power;

-PUA's do not cheat on or lie to the women we're after. Some small 'flirty' lies in openers are OK, but don't tell her you're dating her exclusively and then fark other girls behind her back.



On to Aeons's question. She said she hates womanizers who cheat. And she only wants to have sex with guys she dates. You don't want to date her exclusively so you're going to have to make a choice:

Choice 1: You give up the idea of casual sex with her and date her exclusively.

Choice 2: You tell her the truth about your intentions. Just be straight-up honest with her. Tell her you'd like to date her, have fun, and have sex. But you don't want an exclusive relationship and will be dating other women as well. If you want to look up more info regarding this choice, here's a thread.

Those seem to be my only choices, she's starting to seem a little clingy too. so i feel that if i tell her my intentions she will just think that's all i wanted all along, and give me the whole "i'm not a slut" speech. but only time can tell, i'm going to see how this turns out. i think i have an idea on where to take this. more feedback would definitely be appreciated though.

If you want to remain non-exclusive, confronting her with the casual sex ide is going to be inevitable. Think about it: you're going to have to propose it to the other girls as well. Every time you choose for a non-exclusive relationship you'll habe to tell her your intentions and they always might give you that speech. So if you're planning on remaining non-exclusive, just go for it.

Definitely, she wants to see me this week, so that's going to be my goal for that day. do you think it would be a good idea to bring up her recent "break up" and relate to it? then i could bring about the part where i say, " yea i definitely know what you're going through, that's sort of why im just trying to find the right person before i completely commit to a relationship" or something along those lines.

Tell her the truth. If you're really trying to find a girl for a monogamous relationship, but want a non-exclusive relationship first, tell her that. If you just want to date, have fun, have sex and remain non-exclusive to each other, meaning she can date others as well, tell her that. Good luck.

I don't know, man...Just go out with her. Give her a shot. Try her on for size. You may not think you want a relationship now, but you might once you're in it. At least for a while. Just see what happens. Life's too short to not take a chance. You'll regret your hesitancy later, trust me.