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Default Making the Jump from Introvert to Extrovert

I'm not sure if it was a thread or a book I recently came across, but in it it had steps to become a more extroverted person.

That is perhaps my greatest weakness. I simply don't have the necessary social experience to engage and hold someone in conversation. Now in this aforementioned book it gave a list of actions to do on a day-by-day basis that would eventually break down all social barriers.

For instance, one day tasked you with saying "Hello!" to 30 people on the street. On another, you'd walk through town in a dress and bonnet. And on another day, you'd pull pranks on 5 people.

If anyone has any idea what thread or book I may be talking about, let me know. Or if you have any advice to get a person out of his shell, go for it. I appreciate it.



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I do not know if you can simply jump from introvert to extrovert but you can surely try. To be honest, some things can't be changed and shouldn't be changed. Some people draw energy from being alone while others draw energy from being with others.

It's something you develop in your childhood and it kind of remains fixed for the rest of your life.

What you can change though is your level of social comfort.

And how do you do that?

It's simple. One step at a time. Don't become or want to become a party person overnight. First become the person that can say hi with ease. Second, someone who can engage in small talk with a stranger and so on.

Without trying to promote anything here, the exercises on Style Life (it's an website from the guy that wrote "The Game") helped me and helped others too. The first exercises are like saying hi to people you know. Then it moves to making 30 seconds of small-talk in the elevator. Then making prank calls. It's fun, safe and works mostly.


 
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Default Re: Making the Jump from Introvert to Extrovert

Everything you say, do, feel, and think is all based on how you perceive the world. You perceive something and react to it in a certain way based on your personality. Now lets say you reversed this... Instead of perceiving and reacting you perceive and proact. Here's an example:

Haze is ask by a group of coworkers to go to the bar after work and watch the basketball game.

What he perceives: social situation, with on on one conversations

How he reacts: turns them down and makes up excuse, because he's afraid of these situations.

Personality type: pessimistic loner

Now lets flip this around. When he starts thinking proactively

What he perceives: social situation, a chance to see a new side of the guys at the office

How he reacts: agrees to go, because he's tired of sitting around and wants to have a good time

Personality type: optimistic yet reserved

See how merely changing your perception on a situation causes you to make a different choice, which in turn changes your personality for the better. Like mark mentioned though you don't and shouldn't change from an introvert to an extrovert because that's one of your inner most things that makes you you. However it switch your view from negative to positive thinking which caused you to act more like an extrovert.

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