How to make friends with girls - Need a social life!

Hi,

I am starting out in all of this stuff and have met some PUA's (or beginner pua's) who do day and night game. problem is, they are all just into getting laid each week by different women. Thats not an issue here, but it seems to be the ONLY thing they care for. I noticed they dont have any other girlfriends. Their social network is just the other pua's. Then its the current girl(s) that they are having sex with.

I am actually interested in meeting girls as friends. My dream is to go to a club, open a set of girls, connect with them and then get invited to their outings the week after. Is this possible? I swear, this should be easier than seducing a girl, shouldnt it? But information on this seems to be hard to find!

It's actually very similar

Just get to the Number Close, invite them out next time, and get rid of the physical Escalation. Kino and stuff is fun like friendly banter, you're just not tying to kiss close them

My best friend right now is a girl I met by gaming her but quickly decided she was a little too crazy to date

You will end up with many "orbiters" if you do it right they may be interested in you, but that's totally cool! Gives you social proof anyway, you just kinda blow it off

Oh If it helps too invite them as groups, hey my friends and I are doing x you girls should come

Does that help? There's no pattern I run on girls to be friends, it's similar game and confidence I just don't kiss them or f them

As a follow up too I've met man guy friends opening mixed sets. A lot of times they are together Or on a date and I dont pursue the girl, but they're fun to hang out with so I invite em along with my group anyway, end of the night it's the same "hey we should go out again sometime..."

I moved to a new area with my ex and we split up so I started making new friends, just focus on being sociable and you can

Instead of trying to make friends with mostly vapid club chicks who are partially there to meet guys like your friends and not there to meet dudes trying to literally be their friend, you should be trying to find new guy friends. It seems to me that you just don't like the whole PUA scene or the idea of sleeping with a bunch of women. That's fine, but you need to leave that scene is if it's not for you. I would also caution against trying to be good friends with girls, unless you have a particularly feminine personality (no knock, if that's what you have, it's what you have).

I would leave those guys and join a sports team, MMA or boxing gym or other place where you can meet new friends. Don't try to "connect" with club girls so you can hang out with them later. Damn dude, if you're anything like a normal man you would absolutely hate hanging around a bunch of women just as friends, unless you had some other motive such as sleeping with one of them or just using them as social proof. Really, you have to be a feminine person if you're going out of your way to open sets just to make friends with girls...

Unless you're feminine, I don't understand the urge to open sets to make friends with girls. Why is it your dream just to open a set to "connect" with chicks as friends???

And the Red Baron has the right Mindset. Just focus on being sociable and make friends with men and women alike. But it's just pretty weird if you're trying to make friends with women for some reason.

i dont agree with red baron 100% although that is one way, u can still be sexual with girls. and even have them as fark buddies, as long as u build a connection with them at first, build some real similarities with them
you also qualify them to see if they are even up to be for friends with benefits or just friends, than go from there.

if you just dont get sexual with them at all than they often will think you are either 1)Gay or 2) too pussy to make a move. u can be the "straight gay friend that doesnt count" meaning in this roll u can touch them all you want and still be friends. i have a few of these myself, its so much fun and their stories about how guys try and be cheesy and clingy with them and they brush them off is even more funny.

I think perhaps the OP is just looking for some social acceptance? He seems to show distaste for his "PUA" friends and their revolving sexual conquests, and a desire for "connection." If his dream is to make friends with some girls who will invite him to hang out again, then perhaps he needs to focus just on being sociable. Like I said, get away from those friends and go make new friends. Get involved with stuff, and you'll make female friends automatically. I don't get why a guy who isn't gay would literally seek female friendship. Just make friends as you go about life and don't go sarging sets for companionship.

Thank you for the response Red Baron. It definitely does help!

I just need to now get over Approach Anxiety and actually go and talk to people! Which is the toughest part. Especially knowing what to say lol.

Its not that I don't like the PUA scene, I just have different goals. Ill be honest though, on a seperate note, my long term goals are more about me being in a relationship rather than sleeping with different girls.

I wouldnt say its my dream to just open a set and connect with girls. Its more like this. I see people in mixed sets, talking and having fun. I would love to be a part of that. So its not just girls. But I do have some guy friends just very few girlfriends. Also, I am not very social with girls. For the last few years I have been isolated, living in my room and rarely going out. So my interaction with girls is terrible. Thats why I am prioritizing on meeting girls over guys. Ideally, if I could be part of those groups that go out with mixed girls/boys to dinners, clubs, bars, movies etc etc., that would be great! I just want a social life I guess, but not one thats always in groups of just males.

I am somewhat a feminine kinda guy, but not to that extent. I am feminine in the sense that, when it comes to a relationship, id like to get into a long term one and just stick with one girl (even though I know in reality thats not always possible lol). I certainly wouldnt have fun engaging in conversations that about womens fashion or make up! I think the real reason for me saying "I want to open sets of girls and interact with them" is because I am just not good at communicating with women. I see guys who can talk on a friendly level with women very well. I would like to have that. Talking to girls, having girls invite me out to their events (be it movies, club etc) which would involve not JUST girls, but other guys too.

Unfortunately my life is quite bland right now and I dont do enough to make friends through other means. All I got now is going out with PUA guys to clubs. One of them has similar goals to me, so thats good. The others are great, but we have different goals.

I hope I am making sense here lol. I guess the main points are:
1. I want to be a person that people can talk to and socialize with (I want to be social) - especially with women because I think I am okay with guys
2. I want to have more friends, which arnt JUST guys but also many girls.
3. I would like to go out to events with these friends and have fun with them and also just meet other people through them. Girls or guys, doesnt matter. Just hopefully not TOO many guys and hardly any girls
4. I would like to also increase my skills in interacting with girls, so when I come across a girl that is right for me, I can get her attention!

Yes...so I want a really good social life! lol