What's the best thing to text message a girl you just met?

What should I say to a girl I just met and number closed, and how long should I wait to text her?

I like to text a girl with an hour of meeting her and say something that show your attraction, but isn't cheesy or trying to be too clever.

Sometimes something as simple as "It was great meeting you. -Bill" works great. Other times, being more flirty and direct works great. Texts such as - "Hey sexy - let's grab a drink next week"

What do you guys find works for you?

Bill

Whenever possible, I like to text within a couple hours of the getting the number and try to either make a joke about something that we talked about in the past, or recall a previously made joke or story. I don't chat for very long, and then I tell them that we should do X sometime in the next couple days or so. Then I don't text them for a couple of days. When I text them again, I try to get the next meeting set up, or failing that, build some attraction.

In the past two weeks I've number closed on three different girls, and each one I texted within a few hours doing the exact things. Not only has this NOT worked well at all, but I've been reprimanded by some of the female friends, saying I need to wait at least a day.

However, my own personal views still say that I should just start a text rapport pretty quick, before attraction fades. But that's my own opinion.

Maybe girls in Vegas are different, but after experimenting, it looks like waiting a day or two is the way to go. As for what to say, either send funny jokes/questions that will start a flirting convo, or send a "I'm going to this place at this time. You should come" texts.

I think it depends on what you text to them. I don't really try to be serious in my first, fairly soon after text. I just make a quick joke, or a short, "Hey this is me, just making sure I got your number right", type txt. I don't want to wait a very long time because they will forget me. I want them to have some expectation that I will be contacting them in the next several days so that there is a curiosity factor of when I will be texting them, and what I will be wanting to do.

maybe it will also help if you remind her who you were... so text instead

"It was great meeting you. -Bill, the Potterhead"

or add humor in it

"It was great meeting you. -Bill, the guy who looks like Jacob Black when you squint"



I never text, but my bro always starts a routine and then ends it in the text, like the c vs u shapes smiles, or something about her palm read, whatever.

What I love about text messaging is that you can be very creative. You still have a moment to think it over before sending the message the person(whether it is right or not). I've also experienced flirting with girls through text. It is fun.

i just met your twin.

and honestly, shes a lot more fun than you...(I dunno, I don't txt)

If you've had a lengthy conversation... maybe you could actually send her a nice or funny quote and just say at the end that said quote reminded you of her and you're looking forward to seing her again. Or just say something that refers to something you talked about. Even just a simple "Desiderata says to go placidly amidst the noise and the haste... here's hoping last night relaxed you enough to do just that and face another week of the crappy boss. ~ Solomon "

Girls like it when they get proof that they were heard. Just keep it nice and light, short and sweet, otherwise you might creep her out.

Good post Solomon. Rep +

that'll spike her curiosity and attraction

Think of something that may interest her and ask her what she knows about it.

Example:
Text, "hey, do you like carnivals? you know, those with rickety rides and all the cotton candy you can want.?"

If she says yes, and there is somewhere you can bring her, then good. Even the kiddie rides will give you both an excuse to touch each other. If there's no carnival nearby, just pursue the conversation through text or when you do meet, and talk about being in one as a kid... or the new rides they've come up with that you can't wait to try out.

If she says no, then you can say you don't like it either... or how can she not consider clowns and freaks as cute? how can she not consider almost barfing an awesome feeling? If she's got a good head, then she'll think you're funny, and not weird.

One thing:

Women use phones to talk to people. Texting is the same way. Men use them as tools. You want to use your texts to set up your next date, but you don't want to be too obvious about that. You need to make it appear as if you just like talking to them, and as an after thought you want to hang out and do X.

"(myname)'s number "

So she'll know your number when you call.
Don't say $hit afterwards unless she starts chatting you up.
Maybe minus the smiley face though


or "Hiya"

Simple I think to start. I'm actually ok with texting a lot now since recently i had a 1 year text ONLY 'relationship' with a random girl I met at a random place. We texted like 150 or more times the 1st night, I tried to get her over that night but that was a stretch she worked really late & wasn't a retard who would do that after talking for 10 secs @ work. Did similar every couple months (+ or - on the volume of texts) for a year completely at random and just recently did it again w/pics & everything. I think we're just gonna F*** as soon as we meet. Maybe not but her nicknames always involve "sex" something or "tiger" this so who f'in knows that was fun & I'll probably do again

Being creative and interesting in texting her would enhance attraction. If you had developed an attraction from her, feed it more by sending out messages. Being cheesy would be fine. I met a girl and texted her an hour later. She responded to my messages and invite her out. It worked.

I recently met a group of people at a bar and went back with them to party at someone's house. I number closed a girl there but could tell my night wasn't gonna end in the sack. I texted her the next day and said

Me: Hey it's Kenny. It was good meeting you last night, had a lot of fun. U goin out again soon?

Her: Yeah prob this weekend

Me: Okay I'll call you this weekend then. Save my number

I found out she has a boyfriend and am now playing the "it's cool if we're just friends" thing and she's texting me all day everyday. Keeping them short and sweet will get you in my friend

A friend of mine keeps things simple by texting and giving the girl a multiple choice sort of question. It goes something like... "hello, this is Pete's calendar texting. If you're free for drinks Friday night, text (back) 1; if you want to talk on the phone instead tonight, text 2 and the convenient time to call; if you're busy this week, text 3 and when he could say hello again; not replying in the next 3 hours would mean you want him to lose your number. Have a good day."


This way, he says, he need not wait indefinitely for a response. Plus, girls usually reply... they even add their own choices. Cool, huh?

I love the concept - but I think the question are a 'bit' needy.

I would prefer:

1. Meet for a quick drink tues night.
2. Watch the football game with me at xyz on Sunday.
3. Help me pick out some jeans at Diesel thurs.

Well yeah. I guess also intimating that you're willing to wait till next week or so suggests you have all the time in the world to do so, hehe.

^ Your a busy guy, with lots of other options and women. THAT is attractive.

I normally wait until late the next day to text after a number close..

I always try to..
Provide a cue which allows her to remember who i am and what a great time we had


The last text message i sent after a number close

" hey T-bone! I ate steak for dinner and remembered that i said i'd text you today. I'm heading out on thursday, come down and i'll show you how to dance again, how's that sound cowboy?"

t-bone = gave her the nickname after we where talking about what she ate on christmas and she replied just a piece of t-bone steak.

cowboy = used in my opener ' haha geez!! did you come dressed as a cowboy? That hat looks like something clint eastwood would wear'

"I forgot to tell you something important... but it can wait till drinks next week."

Spikes her interest because she wants to know what you were going to tell her and sets you up for a date.

"Just confirming that there is no sex tonight" .....Only a joke. just kidding.
I just wanted that wonderful smile to grace those lips with the warmth that
brings joy. It's great that you have a sense of humor and like silly stuff



I don't text.... but I've used something like that after I walked a girl to her door, I replaced sex with coming in for a spot of tea.


Lots of laughs and I did go in after all

In my experience, texting a girl about an hour after meeting her is successful
i'd usually say
"hey it's me, let me ask you a quick question. How many stars are on the Australian flag?"
she would often reply with her answer, whether it be right or wrong, it was a question which didn't come across as sleazy or too flirtatious but as interesting and provided a conversation starter
btw, the australian flag one works well if you live in Australia

whatever time frame you want to do this, doesnt matter, but i usually do it when im bored or when im gonna set something up for the night for the 1st time with her:

"do you speak text?" - my favorite
"this class is sooo boring, tell me a joke if you make me lol and get in trouble you win ."
"boo"
"STOP IT!" shell reply "what" then say "thinkin about me " if she goes "?" or"huh" just send "OMG, STOP IT!" shell give in and ask what.

try ask her to go shopping with you at the fresh markets

I did this once and kept it open ended, bt my text goes " hey, it was fun meeting u 2nyt, oh an i met yor look alike she was bit more fun than u bt u can do better "

How did it work out?

How about, Are you walking down main street right now with a duck? Or is that your twin?

there is nothing like being reprimanded by a female 'friend' and she has that attitude of you can't possibly argue with me - I am Woman!

It's sorta like No (bitch), I felt like talking to you. I have something to say. You went on about shit to me several times this week so I felt like just using this moment when you come up for air to get a quick note in from another point of view. Not necessarily a male point of view, just another person's.

They can be very self righteous and indignant these women. No wonder there are so many chumps out there when we get slammed into the fence everytime we let them know we think something. And its humiliating to cop a pasting from the ladies cos they can shut us right down. Our laws in Australia are all about the woman's rights and that all violence is done by bad men. Its crap, we have women who were having babies for the $5000 baby bonus grant by the government and they weren't fit to bring up kids. We have cops who screw a woman and bash her bloke.... oh sorry! so would I but i would never be a cop

Sorry Ambition,

was just saying i feel for you on getting called out by chicks when they say you did something that they say you did.... wtf

it works like a bomb Instinct. i get replys almost instantly an they start qualifying themself they start dhv just like i hope it would go. go ahead give it a try seeing that you never text. an by the way im talking bout 8s & 9s. let me know how it went .Enjoy

I agree with Smash. Keep them short and sweet. For the first text I write the girls name with a question mark like this "Sarah?" the next day to test out her response. It's a good sign if the response has emoticons.

On another note I read somewhere (maybe Men's health) that emoticons are a bad idea because their not considered masculine but I've noticed you guys use them. What are your thoughts on their impact on success?

ryeblonde i like it... or something along those lines

whether it is one too many txts or not.... i don't want to become annoying to her. keeping it to the point and setting up the next meet... dilly dallying and stuffing around just makes one look weak. taking charge by text or email etc.... yeah i cant afford to stuff around once i have closed her for something

yea i wonder the same thing.. never used to use em... now i do! what do people reckon?

I use a similar technique...

I ask a pretty interesting question (maybe - "what is the opposite of love"), but before she answers I say "it is not the obvious answer. tell you what, why don't you think about it a bit and tell me the answer next time we meet".

Future projection, mystery, etc.

Good times.

interesting. gonna have a think about reframing it for a situation i have and send it off this arvo. we sorta have a standing date so i guess i can load it up a bit the way i should be