GunsnGlory's Ultimate Texting Guide

I've had a lot of luck with texting and gotten many women who I only briefly met to sext me, send me nude photos, do phone sex, and then meet up with me and basically tear my clothes off for sex all from only texting. For whatever reason I have a knack for it. I only wish I were even as close to as good in real life game. One thing I see a lot of guys focus on is how to open someone with text, or how to move from one phase to the next, but never a comprehensive overview of how to become a god at texting. That is what I want to remedy. Now I will be the first to admit that I probably didn't discover much or any of this first.

This guide is going to be long so I am going to do it in pieces (one a week). I want to give back to the community that has given so much to me over the years, and which has turned me from a loser who couldn't even talk to women, to a guy who gets better than average results, and can on a good night, get pulls that rival his MPUA friend's pulls.


SECTION 1:
Before I get started, I need to explain my goal in texting, and how it differs from the philosophy and practices of many pick-up artists. Generally the “rule” with texting is to use it as a means to generate just enough attraction and familiarity to then meet up with the girl and continue normal game. I used to believe this too. However, it soon became apparent to me that this was not the most opportune way to use texting. I am not particularly good looking, I am very busy in my professional life, and I still struggle with being witty and building attraction in real time. Therefore, I wanted to see if I could adapt my text game to allow me to establish myself as an incredibly attractive person, with high value, and get the women primed for sex long before I actually really hung out with her. I wanted to get the girl so horny and in to me that when I actually met her, all I had to do was be myself. I experimented with several things and finally hit the golden formula. I even considered writing a full ebook and trying to make a buck, but I figured it was only fair that I give back to the community. At some point, providing others find my methods useful, I might yet do a proper, more in depth book.


This section is going to be a bit “textbook” like, and a lot of review for most people, but I'm a firm believer in getting the basics down first. Let's go over the guiding rules for texting which are almost immutable, and which you should use to guide your every text conversation:

1. Keep your texts short:
   There are multiple reasons for this. First “brevity is the soul of wit”. Much like you will grow tired before you make it through this huge section, you don't want the girl to feel like it is “work” to read your text. Furthermore, the shorter the texts, the easier it is to have a conversation because she can ask more questions, and it takes longer to cover things. Also, each time she gets a chance to interject, she will reveal “hook points” which I will explain later. Finally, short texts convey that you are just having fun, and that you aren't too invested in her...this is a good thing.
2. Use ambiguity and double entendre:
   Your ultimate goal, besides establishing that you are not a creep and that you are an attractive person, is to make her laugh and then build Sexual Tension. One of the easiest ways to prime her for sex is to “unintentionall y” slip in lines which could (but don't have to be) taken in a sexual way.
3. Do not respond to every one of her texts. Do not always initiate conversation. Do not always respond immediately:
   Violation of this rule will kill your chances faster and more surely than anything else. In my experimenting, without fail, if I violated this rule, the woman would either lose attraction for me (considering me already “hooked”), or she would relegate me to a texting buddy (this is analogous to being “good friends” in real life, only it is even more impossible to get out of).
4. Deny or ignore all attempts for her to categorize you as a “good” guy. In general be wary of sh!t tests:
   This is a general pick-up tip but it is even more true of texting. Women will feel bolder on the phone than in real life (something we will exploit), but they will also use the impersonal nature of the phone to try to dehumanize you and turn you into “that guy I totally could have nailed if I wanted to”.
5. Don't let your conversation become an interrogation:
   One of the quickest ways to stall out an number is to turn it into a rapid fire question session. It is easier to do than in real life, and just as likely to get you nowhere.
6. Never let on that you are emotionally invested in the outcome (this goes back to rule 4).
7. Never stay on the same conversation or the same realm of topics for too long (unless you have gotten her totally in the sexual zone):
   Much like real life conversations, you don't want to bore her. More importantly, texting requires an extra level of being entertaining to keep her hooked and responding. One of the things we want to do with our texting is Anchor the woman's emotions (covered in more detail later), to do this, we need to both figure out how to elicit her various emotions, but also make her comfortable with feeling a wide range of emotion while talking with us. Finally, much like bouncing a girl from venue to venue helps build trust and familiarity, texting a girl on a wide range of topics while she is in different locations, and keeping her curious, helps establish value and build comfort.
8. Don't let her stay comfortable, or lead the conversation for too long:
   This is a one way ticket to text buddy hell. I'll explain how you figure out how much comfort to build later.

There are many more rules and tips but they all relate more specifically to your game plan and how to avoid getting stuck in certain zones. This will pretty much cover it for section one. I'll start in next week with the getting the number, and the initial contact session of this tutorial. If you found this first section to be only review, please read the next section before you call it quits. Until next week, the above stuff will definitely help keep you from stalling out right away.

Thanks for the info many of the rules you stated I have used in the past, waiting for what you have for next week

SECTION 2:
This week I'm going to be talking about how to get numbers and how to do initial texting contact. Alright, let's jump right in. Many PUA's will tell you that a Number Close is a waste of a perfectly good opportunity to seal-the-deal on the spot. They are right BUT...If you're like me you are always busy, and you often don't have 30 minutes or longer to move a relationship forward when you are out running your daily errands. Also, sometimes you just aren't feeling The Vibe, or she won't have the time to stick around. These are all great times to number close.


First of all there are two entirely different ways to go about a number close. The first way is the one most PUA's teach. In this method, you are trying to generate enough attraction that she will either volunteer her number, or it is trivial to get it from her. In this scenario, she is giving you her number because she is flirting with you, and she wants the possibility of future sexual Escalation. There is nothing wrong with this approach, and I will point out the differences from the other approach as I explain my approach. There are, however, several drawbacks to this method. First, it requires you to be good at approaching women and building attraction. It also requires significantly more time on both of your parts before you have built enough attraction to get the number. Finally, it establishes a high point of attraction, which you will then be force to immediately build in your texting conversations, which is more difficult. If you don't establish that level of attraction almost immediately, she will lose interest because she will subconsciously be comparing her first experience with the texting experience.


My approach, which is similar to Paul Janka's method, is much more relaxed. In this method, you will be following these steps:

1. Some excuse to talk to the woman
2. Establish your friendliness
3. Establish some common interesting
4. Find excuse to leave
5. Introduce yourself
6. Use common interest to make an excuse for why you should stay in contact with them
7. Get their number almost as an “afterthought”

This method requires far less attraction, and it sets the woman's initial expectations much lower. Because of these reasons, I've found that this method is not only easier, but less likely to get you rejected. Furthermore, you can often get a number in under two minute, which you can easily fit into your schedule no matter how busy you are.


Let's go through the steps one-at-a-time and discuss them.

1. Step 1 is the hardest part. You have to come up with a reason to approach a woman. Often this will happen organically (a friend introduces you, or you bump into someone, ect), other times you will need to force an exchange. The easiest way to force the exchange is to try to catch their eye, smile at them, and then point out something happening around you. It could be an interesting carpet design, or something about their matching purse and lipstick). You want to keep it casual and impersonal. So if you mention something like their purse and lipstick, you'll want to say something like, “Dang. I couldn't help noticing your matching lipstick and purse. You must be more awake in the morning than I am...it's all I can do to get matching shoes on!” Ideally, something like this should be said while you are occupied doing something else (for instance, looking at a rack of clothes that's next to you). If they respond positively, or give you any conversation, you can proceed.
2. In step two you want to continue your conversation by expanding the premise, but make sure that you incorporate something from their response. At this point it is fine to finally engage them more directly. So for instance, if she giggled and said something about how she just got off work, you could respond with something like, “Well luckily we don't have as strict of a clothing standard where I work because pink lipstick just wouldn't work on me!”. Now you have a conversation going, and she gave you an initial topic (she just got off work). If she doesn't throw you anything in her response, you can now jump back to this topic. You could ask her what she does for a living, ect. Building a little attraction here doesn't hurt, but focus on being more friendly, than actually trying to flirt.
3. Let the conversation flows for a little bit, but look for a common interest. It doesn't have to be great. Using our example, she might have told you that she's glad to get off work because it's stressful. In that case you could tell her that she should do what you do, and hit the mini golf range. Even if she isn't that interested in mini-golf, it's not a “typical” response and it should peak her interest. If she say's no, you can tell her that she can't knock it until she see's how you play mini-golf.
4. This step is only important if this is a completely random meeting. If you are in a social group with friends and time, you should probably be using the standard PUA approach and work on going farther than just a number close. If that isn't possible, then focus on build a little more attraction and otherwise just being personable. In the event that you need to number close quickly, you should find an excuse for why you need to take off. Much of the time these will be obvious (you need to get off at the next bus stop). Point out the excuse.
5. Pause for a second, then introduce yourself, and get her name, and tell her it was a pleasure to meet her.
6. Refer back to your common interest. (I should text you next time I hit the mini golf range!)
7. If you get a positive response, act like you are taking off, then say, “So what's your number?” When you do this, pull out your phone casually, and have it poised ready to take their digits. Then look up at them expectantly. This will subconsciously encourage them to give you their info.
8. At this point, you have their number. Tell them it was nice talking to them and that you'll text them later. Now get out!

At this point you have a number...nothing more. Some women will give numbers out like candy. It's not even a sign of attraction (especially if you used my method above). Furthermore, even if you used the other method of building attraction, the number really doesn't mean anything. You should always assume that you have zero attraction built up before your first text. I can't stress this enough. You will bomb many perfectly good numbers out of the water if you assume that there is attraction that doesn't exist.


So what do you do with the number now? Wait about an hour, then text the girl a short message, basically saying, “Hey! I'm [name] from the [however you met her]. Here's my number. I'll catch ya later.” No matter what she sends you, don't respond that day. If you do, she will wonder if you are attracted to her, a stalker, or otherwise creepy. If you wait, it will throw her off. She won't know what to think. Furthermore, when you text her later in the week, it will reignite that initial excitement over meeting a new person.


That will pretty much wrap it up for this week. Next week, I'll start on the actual building of conversations, and building some attraction. This is where the real magic starts. Good luck, and let me know if you have any comments, questions, or suggestions below. I'm certainly not perfect, so I'm always up for improvements ideas or criticism.

Next section is coming this week, I just haven't had a chance to finish it...

-GnG

SECTION 3:
This week we cover how to start building conversation topics while texting. This will be fairly generic information that should work in the majority of situations. In a later week I will like speak more about fringe cases and how to deal with them specifically.


The first thing I always do when I initiate texting is to send a message like “Hey there :P”. It's non-committal, can be taken as a little bit flirty, and lightly suggests that she should reply. If she doesn't respond soon, you just wait and try again later. I know a lot of guys make the mistake of trying to initiate with a “canned” texting game, but you blow some great material if she isn't at her phone, doesn't have the time to chat with you, or just isn't in the mood.


If she responds, one of two things will happen. Either she will give a rather non-committal response back: “Hey”, or she will tell you something about what she is doing. Occasionally a woman will acknowledge you, but then say she is too busy to talk at the moment. Most of the time this is a good thing. If she actually doesn't want to talk to you, she won't respond. So in this case, just eject gracefully by saying something like: “No prob. I'll catch ya later.”


If she responds to your initial text with a non-committal response, follow it with a “So what ya doing?”. This is different that “What's up?”. You want to phrase the question so that she is less likely to give you the traditional “Nothing” response. A lot of PUA's will tell you to not start with “boring” questions like these, but I feel they are crucially important in the early phases of texting a girl. This is a common texting sequence that they are used to, so you shouldn't get much resistance, and at this point, you haven't proceeded so far down the generic texting route as to have her put you on autopilot. The reason we want to go this route is to get her responding to us, to help us generate some early conversation points, and most importantly, so we can formulate a rough idea of where her mind and attitude are at the moment. At this point, if she still isn't giving you anything more that quick, useless responses, bag on her a bit. Say something like, “You're being boring. Can't you at least try to sound excited about [whatever she said], lol!”.


At this point, either she initially gave you a little preview of where her head-space is, or you cajoled it out of her. About forty percent of the time, she will already have given you a good “hook” to work with. “Hooks” or “Hook points” are important words or phrases which give you items you can use for further conversations. The magic of hook points is that you don't need to capitalize on them immediately. In fact, you shouldn't always snatch them up. When the current conversation thread gets boring, or you need to lighten up the conversation, just bring up a previous hook and change the topic. Another use of hooks, is to intentionally seed your responses with items that are easy for her to pick-up on and use to create new conversation. Later, in another section, we will discuss a more sneaky method of using hooks to help bring up sexual topics. Here's an example with several hooks in it:


ME: Hey there!


HER: What's up :P [Notice how she is putting the burden on me to carry the conversation]


ME: I'm just eating a delicious curry I made, and texting you. So what are you up to? [I've given her some hook points, and also turned the conversation back over to her. This is really “nice” of me. While I've put the responsibility of carrying the conversation on her (thus we will learn about her), I've given her topics if she needs a life line. Notice that the second hook point is also a dhv. It establishes that I not only cook, but that I cook exotic food.]


HER: OMG! That sounds so amazingly good right now. Curse my diet! [You'll notice that the hook points she leaves for me aren't near as easy to spot as the ones I intentionally left for her...get used to it. The first hook point is kinda subtle, but from it, we can derive conversations, about how I'm going to have to invite her over in the future for dinner, what type of foods she likes, if she can cook, ect. The second hook point, is a lesser hook point, but we can use it to discuss how we are going to take her out to celebrate once she finishes the diet.]


ME: I love Thai food...especially the eating part! What's your favorite cuisine? [I picked a route and got a conversation started that will lead to further conversation. I injected a mild bit of humor. In this scenario, I didn't pick the conversation topics that would have easily been steered to sexual areas, date topics, or future projection. The reason I avoided these sections right now, is that I barely know this woman at this point. I want to establish some Comfort and a wide range of conversation topics, before I start raising very much attraction. Also, remember what I said about coming back to hook points. If we text for a bit, and things are going well, I may come back to this opening statement (providing better hooks haven't come along), and future project about me cooking Thai food for her after her diet ends.]


I'm going to wrap this section up because we have covered a lot of stuff. This section is one of the most important parts of texting. There are lots of tips and trick that I will get to eventually, and we still need to cover how to build attraction, but I've just covered about 80% of texting. In review, you now know how to keep an interesting conversation going, how to illicit further information out of her, and get a bit of a handle on her mood. You've learned how to give her topics for future exploration, and how to control the conversation flow. If this is new to you, I recommend reading this section a couple of times. Feel free to ask me questions below, or PM me if you don't want to ask in “public”.


Next week is probably going to be mostly talking about the finer points of what I just covered, so if you are still a little confused, don't worry! We may actually get to building attraction, but we'll see...

SECTION 4:
This week, I want to talk about some specific issues you can run into, in the Comfort building section of texting.


The first item I want to discuss is what to do if she doesn't text back very often, or she is slow. The first thing to do, is remember the rules from Section 1. Don't start texting her a bunch of times in a row, hoping to get a response. You will look desperate. You also lose a certain amount of status every time you let her end the conversation. Be on the alert for when the conversation feels like it is winding down, so you can eject first. It's easy, just make some excuse for why you have to go. If she is prone to stopping a conversation in the middle, this is a good way to get out gracefully. When she doesn't respond for a long period of time, send her one more text telling her that you “have to go, so you'll talk to her later.” Also remember that it is okay to let her end the conversation once in a while, just don't make it a habit.


Ultimately, we want to limit women from relegating us to only when they have “time”. Remember, most women won't text you if they truly don't want to talk to you at all, therefore, if she texts you telling you she can't talk, it means that you aren't a high priority to her, but she does want to talk to you. From last week, I covered making your texts shorter, and always leaving thoughts unfinished, or ending with questions. This is the first thing to check, when you are having trouble with getting responses. Are you remembering to almost always end your texts in cliffhangers? Second, are you adding plenty of easy hooks into your texts so she can easily respond? Finally, think about the woman's day, are you always texting her at a bad time of the day?


If you are still having problems, use this technique. When she doesn't respond, text her with a really big cliffhanger, something like “OMG this is insane...” There is an implied story there, and it could be something huge. Now, when she finally responds later asking about it, refuse to tell her, at least at first. Say that it's too late, and she missed it. Be sure to bag on her, and tell her that she should have responded sooner, but also do it in a friendly, joking manner. One of my favorite ways to finish this up is to say, “well...actually I would tell you what I was talking about...but I don't remember...” It keeps you from having to make something up and establishes that you have a life above and beyond texting her.


While I'm on the topic of who should break off texting, remember that it is perfectly acceptable for you to ignore her texts too. On a semi regular basis, you should just stop responding, and respond at a much later time. You want her to not ever think that you are sitting round waiting for her texts. Finally, if you don't formally end a conversation, it gives you a nice topic to begin with when you are texting her in the future. In this same vein, time your text response time to be slightly longer than hers. It's okay to occasionally respond quickly (especially if you want to speed up the conversation), but as a general rule, she should be waiting more on you, than the other way around. It is one more way to establish dominance in the conversation.


The final thing I want to talk about is a common texting trap that is especially prevalent in the attraction stages but can also happen in comfort building. Women like texting because it is impersonal enough that they can feel comfortable flirting with guys over the phone. Don't be taken in by this flirting. We will use this later, but never assume that she is as attracted to you as she seems in a texting conversation. There is a whole class of women out there who like to play with guys through texting.


A lot of guys will immediately start pouring on the flirting, and trying to go hardcore sexual in a text conversation because the woman has started flirting with him. Most times this won't end well. He'll either creep her out, or he will discover that she is only playing with him. Once again, refer to the rules in the first section. Until you are very close to meeting and sealing the deal, you want to avoid responding directly to openly flirtatious or sexual texts from a woman. Think of them as a series of $hit tests. Also notice my choice of words. “directly” is key. We will respond, but we will do it on our terms.


Next week, I believe I'll start on attraction, and transitioning to it...

Thanks bro

SECTION 4.5:
This section is really short because I'm taking off on a vacation, so I don't have time to write a long section.

One quick tip for the previous section:
If you have trouble getting a girl to respond with useful information that will allow you to continue a conversation, try this:
Make a false judgment on her, so that she will feel compelled to correct you. Don't make it too insulting, but make it completely wrong or a bit unflattering.

Example:

YOU: What's up :P
Her: bored...
YOU: Yeah, how come? (many better things I could probably say here, but for the sake of the example...)
Her: idk
YOU: Well you should go jogging. I strike me as a super health nut. I bet you probably go to pilates or something like that every week.

Now this isn't overly insulting, in fact it's a subtle complement, but in this case I would be saying something that I know isn't true about her. It's really hard for her to respond with only a monosyllable or even one sentence. If she does, you can always tease a longer response from a "Really?" response.

The first step to transitioning to attraction is to learn to relate. When she says something, use her response to tell a story that somehow relates to what she says. Some of the most powerful examples involve stories which show how you felt the same way as she does. These stories will get her involved, start building attraction, and get her to open up to you. I'll go into this more next week, but here's a quick example:

HER: I just started my new job today. Little scary...
YOU: I totally know what you mean. When I started my last job, I was so nervous my first day, that I managed to trip and spill coffee all over my boss!
HER: Really?
YOU: I bet your first day didn't go that bad :P
...

Now you told a little story about yourself. You are showing that you guys have somethings in common, it's a bit self-effacing, but in a really "cute" way. Finally, you've given her a way to talk about her day without sounding like her psychiatrist. Every second or third response, you can relate what she says to yet another story (btw, especially if the micro stories, they don't have to actually have happened.) As always, you want your texting topics to be diverse, so never feel like you have to get back to the original topic. Mostly you want to keep her involved in the conversation.

REMEMBER: Interviews are bad! Don't let your conversations become an interrogation.

Hope that helps some of you out there. I'll try to get an extra long section next week.

This is awesome. Nice work man.

SECTION 5:
Today we start talking about attraction in earnest. Before we do, I want to reemphasize the importance of last week's post. Building Comfort via relating is key to longer, better conversations and also to building some initial attraction. Once you learn to relate, you will be automatically building some attraction if you are doing it right. Most of this attraction section will deal with techniques that are either the same, or similar to real life sarging.

Future projection:
Future Projection is the technique of talking about things that you and your target will do together in the future. This subtle suggests attraction, and also helps with the comfort aspect, as the woman will subconsciously pick up on the implied commitment of such statements. Future projection makes it "safe" for a woman to agree because it isn't a direct date, it is just a vaguely implied date. The great thing about it is she subtle gives you some attraction points just for the thought. It also subconsciously conditions her to say yes to a real date in the future. It provides you with a valuable "hook" for which you can future "randomly" text her to hang out.
Future projection also has the added benefit of providing you with a way to test the waters for various "date" ideas in the future.

Here's an example:
...
HER: I love the rain!
YOU: Me 2! Next time it rains, we're totally going to go walking in it.
HER: Lol kay.
YOU: You'd better wear your boots, cuz I'm so going to throw you into a puddle :P
...

Okay, here's some things to note about the above sample. First (and obviously), the future projection. Notice how it isn't a huge thing, it is small, fun, and light. Notice how I keep the conversation flirty and non-committal. Notice that there is some lightly implied physicality and sexuality when I joke about tossing her in a puddle (as a side note, I could say this even if we weren't friendly enough for me to actually really pick her up and toss her in a puddle. In fact, this would be an excellent time to use this statement as it implies that we will be that friendly at some point in the future). I might never actually do the above "quick date" but it already served it's purpose, however, it is a good idea to keep these faux dates in mind. Next time it rains, I could text her, and ask her if she's ready to go dance in the puddles with me.

Final notes:
Make sure that your Future Projection statements are made as if they were a done deal. You will look very weak, and very beta if you future projections sound like suggestions or like you are asking her permission. If she rejects them, just lightly neg her by saying something like "Aww...you're no fun!".

Don't Future Project too many things too close together. Once again, you will come off weak, if you do. You sound like you really want to ask her out, but you are too scared so you are instead suggesting future things in the hope that she will take you up on one of them right away.

If used correctly, Future Projection is one of your most powerful attraction creation tools. Later, when I get into more direct sexual Escalation, I'll show you how to use a form of Future Projection, to get a girl very horny, very quickly.

Next week we will talk about the attraction techniques of innuendo, and false assumptions. They are related, otherwise I'd cover one of them right now.