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    Default A really f*cked up situation. Please help!

    Hello,
    I met this girl at a dining hall 3 days ago. We started hanging out and everything started going really really fast. But there is one big problem. I do not understand what this girl wants. Every pua stuff I do I see the results. I open all the attraction switches and emotional switches with her. I made out with this girl for like 5 hours (still sleepy from that lol). Here is the problem:

    This girl got out of a relationship 3 weeks ago. Second time I met her she brought that up that she doesn't want to be in one. But the 3rd day I'm in her apartment going crazy with her. I couldn't have sex with her that night though. I should've done the Freeze Out but I just didn't. And I have a reason for that. She said she doesn't have sex with people unless she dates them because she doesn't like using condoms. Maybe it's the truth maybe it's a lie but I don't wanna risk anything. She said she takes the guy to STD test before sex. I feel like I'm a rebound for her because sometimes I get weird vibes from her. She brought up kids to conversation six seven times on the 2nd day. She said she hates them but she would ask me questions like "why do u like kids?" "whats the thing about them u like?" I don't know If she's playing or if she wants me to be a father. I'm scared.

    Please help me out! I actually want this girl. But Im confused.

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    Default Re: A really f*cked up situation. Please help!

    What are your expectations from this relationship? Do you want to date her or just fuck her? And how long was she in the previous relationship? But ultimately if you are getting weird vibes from this girl walk away from the situation. Vibing is important, and if this girl is emotionally unstable you don't want that.
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    nerdprince is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: A really f*cked up situation. Please help!

    I usually only wanna have sex but this girl has something about her that makes me wanna be in a relationship with her. She tells me she doesn't want it but I know that she does. She just had a fucked up one 3 weeks ago and she broke up with him. At the same time, I feel like I'm the rebound. Idk. I think we rushed things a lot and it was not a good idea. I told her that and it kinda made me more comfortable. I can't tell if she's emotionally unstable but emotionally we move really fast and it gets out of control. I have known this girl for like 3 days but the emotional progression pace had been intensely fast. I'm trying to slow things down. If u guys can give me any more advice I would appreciate that. I really want this thing work out, so please help me out.

    Thanks in advance!

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    Default Re: A really f*cked up situation. Please help!

    Maybe try some Push-Pull techniques. When I find a girl who is dating material (monogamous/exclusive relationship. Girlfriend material, not hit-it-and-quit-it) but is in a rough spot with her life--i.e. just got out of a long-term relationship, dealing with some emotional baggage, etc.-- here's what I do and it always has positive results. Also I've always done it via text (text message, FB chat, skype). It gives them time to read and re-read it since it's the last thing you'll be saying to them for a while.

    When you're talking to her, say something along the lines of this:
    "Hey ________, you know I'm really into you and would love to go exclusive, but I just feel like you're at a place in your life where you need to sort some things out. You mean a lot to me, and I hope likewise, but I don't want to be a rebound. It's not fair to either of us. I want you to take some time to do what you need to do (get over her ex, come to terms with her emotions if she's dealing with something hard atm, like a family death or something) and get back to me when you're ready. I'm serious about this. I don't want to talk to you until then, not because I don't care about you but because I want to give you the time you need to focus without any distractions. Get back to me when you're ready/in a better place."

    Every girl I've done this to has always come back weeks or months down the road. It's a huge dhv. You're showing that you respect her, know what you want, and are setting the pace for what she can expect in a relationship with you. Don't bitch out though, you have to commit. She won't like the idea at first and will probably say you're being an ass, but she'll realize how great of a thing you did once it sinks in.

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    Default Re: A really f*cked up situation. Please help!

    Omg that makes so much sense. I'm gonna tell her that soon! Thank you!


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