I recently watched a seminar given by AFC Adam (The man is a champ, seriously) on qualification. The material was so great that I wanted to reiterate and expand upon some of his ideas. So let me give proper credit to him before sharing my own take/ interpretation + extension.
When you hear the word, “qualify,” what do you think? Personally, I think of sh1t tests and questions. i.e. “You just want me for sex!” or, “What makes you interesting?” “What do you do for a living?” and “How do you spend your free time?” You know, the generic stuff. But it doesn’t have to be that way. You can qualify women through pre-selection. Not the pre-selection you are thinking by definition, but by choosing the right target before working any further game. It seems like a hard concept to grasp, but once explained practically (through a real world situation) it’ll make a lot more sense to you.
Let’s start with the most common of goals: a ONS.
So you go out. Hit the club; the bars; a party. What’s step one?
Step 1: Select an appropriate target.
Adam says you want to be THINKING game in reverse. If the ideal end result is sex, you want to first find a girl who is up for a ONS. Pick a girl and approach. After a short while (but not too long) you want to drop your first qualifier. Direct could be, “You remind me of a girl I had sex with once.” You would then proceed to tell a story of a girl you hooked up with. Indirect could be you telling a similar story, just not such a strong attention getter. Either way, the point is this: you want to make it apparent that you are a guy who is up for a ONS, so your story should convey that by having done so previously. If it doesn’t faze her (she tells a similar story, laughs, etc) that’s a green light and continue your interaction. If it sends an interrupting ripple through your current, she doesn’t qualify. Eject and try with another girl.
Step 2.1: Disarming the Obstacles, (Adventure and Spontaneity)
Once you have selected a thus far receptive target, the next step is to make her indirectly prove herself as willing. You could straight up ask her, “Would you consider yourself adventurous and spontaneous?” Indirectly: “I’ve never been to this club (bar, house) before. It’s nice to constantly be trying new things.” See where I’m going with this? Get her to admit to being adventurous/spontaneous. Not only is she indirectly qualifying herself, but this might come in handy later when dealing with resistance.
Step 2.2: Disarming the Obstacles, (Her Friends)
Odds are her friends are going to p*ssy punt (female cock blocking.) Hopefully you won her friends over so you won’t have to deal with it, but just in case use this technique: “You aren’t a sheep girl, are you?” If it doesn’t come up in conversation, maybe comment on a group of women nearby. Adam calls them “sheep girls” which is good because it’s funny too—girls who follow the crowd like sheep. Always listen to their friends. Stays in the group. Isn’t an individual. ßUse that (obviously you’ll be explaining it to her.) She’ll qualify herself. No, she’s different! She does what SHE wants! Just like Step 2.1, this too will come in handy later when dealing with resistance.
Step 3: Dealing with Resistance
When you Isolate/extract to a seduction location you may need to blast through resistance. If her friends aren’t so keen on the idea, just give her a look. A look that says, *I thought you were an individual. I thought you did what you wanted*. She’ll come, and if you hit some LMR at your place or wherever you may be, bring up the fact that you thoughts she was *spontaneous and adventurous*. Foolproof, isn’t it?
See what you did? It’s like inception. You planted an idea in her head that she believes to be her own (kind of dark stuff.) So what she thought was just playful banter was actually you prepping for further escalation. Keep in mind you want to keep this subliminal.
Step 4: Prevent Flaking
Let’s say you had the best sex of your life. Let’s say you stayed up ‘til three in the morning playing Mario Kart, talking spirituality, and having an overall blast talking to this girl. Let’s say both. Maybe you want to keep her as a booty call. Maybe she’s even girlfriend material. Either way, when it’s all said and done, whether it be the next morning or still the night of, say this: “I hope you’re not like all the other women I meet.” After all your escapades, of course she’s not going to want to be like all the other women, regardless of what that means!
“What do you mean?”
“Most women flake, which would be a bummer because I think we could have a lot of fun together.”
She’ll say she’s different. When she later proves so, reward her good behavior.
Obviously this is just a guideline that you should tweak to fit your style, but I hope you all learn something from it and implement it into your game! Cheers Fellas!