I apologize for the long post... you'll deal, lol.
Back story: I am an EDM DJ (chicks love that, riiiiight? lol) at my last show I met a girl who I met previously at a mutual friends birthday party. I consider her an HB8.
Anyhow, at my show that weekend I played cool, throwing out dhv and quickly applying kino. 20 mins and we were attached at the lips. Things were going great until her "guy friends" showed. I laid back and watched. Blockers. All around. Ended up sleeping in her bed that night, I denied sex.
Over the next week we moved to facebook chat, as she had no phone at the time. She flaked on the first meet-up w/legit reason. Froze her out, she called for a meet-up. Ending with a kiss close. (I helped her pick out a phone and helped pick up things for a baby-shower she was attending. Multiple IOIs. "Awww we look like we're expecting," etc.) Flakes for the meet-up that night with yet another confirmed legit excuse. I immediately Freeze Out and persue other options. Four days into the freeze out she texts, I ignore and she calls the next day, I ignore the first attempt, she makes another call and I answer. "I'm just so sorry I haven't called or anything I've just been flaking on everyone." (exact wording) As I'm closing the conversation she throws out that she is meeting her dad at the beach for a show.
M: "I haven't been to the beach since Ike hit." (gulf coast dweller)
H: You wanna come with me?
M: Sure, why not.
I meet her and we head to the beach. Score points with dad by being exactly who I am. Drinks are had, Kino Escalation. Late night swim. then comes the dreaded CONVO. Apparently, she's been doing her research on me. There's drama. Other guys saying I'm throwing salt in their game.
M: "Look, you're interested in me, I get it. But, you're not ready for a relationship. That's fine. I'm not either."
H: "How did you know?"
We end up discussing how to avoid the drama. Kiss close. Sleep in separate beds, at my discretion. Her dad is there after all. RESPECT.
The ride home other guy starts calling, she complains about how she's not interested.
Now she's non-responsive. Freeze out and explore? or give benefit?