Top 10 Stats
Latest Posts Loading... Loading...
Loading...
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
Loading...
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast
Results 11 to 20 of 31
Like Tree15Likes

Thread: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

  1. #11
    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 107, Level: 2
    Level completed: 14%, Points required for next Level: 43
    Overall activity: 6.1%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    33
    Points
    107
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    11

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Ok, the chase continues apparently.

    I took the initiative this time and asked if she wanted to join me to some live concert in a bar. The funny part is that she replied immediately (like 5 mins after my first sms) and that she said it was an excellent idea.

    And so we met again yesterday. I had prepared myself mentally to go for a k*close (it was the 3rd date after all, I couldn't drag this issue any longer).

    Unfortunately, upon arriving at the place, I realised that we would have to sit opposite from each other and not next to each other. It was kinda hard to Kino under these circumstances.

    We chatted for about 15 mins and then the band started playing (jazz). To my disappointement again, the music was too loud to have a conversation at the same time. So, I just laid back in my seat and enjoyed the music (there was also another HB8 chick in the room - sitting all alone! OMG, what a waste! - not far from me and I had the perfect angle to admire her pretty face without anyone noticing, lol).

    Everytime the band took a break, we started chatting again. We talked about anything really. Teased her a lot and tried to kino her whenever possible. After the second part started, she looked a bit bored, so I made a small plane with the bill and threw it to her. She said it was crap and and actually improved it, lol! We then started a contest where we had to make a paper boat. While we were chatting and struggling, I brought my "boat" closer to her and brushed her fingers quite a few times. No great achievement here but it was fun anyway.

    I learned a bit more about the chick btw. She is indeed as boyish as I had thought. She even went through this black metal period in her youth, where she would dress only in black. She knows what she wants and isn't afraid to express her opinion. Quite a strong personality.

    When we left, it was raining. So, I took out my umbrella and she immediately grabbed my arm and pressed her against me (the pressure she applied was kinda surprising). So, we walked under the rain like a couple, haha.
    Then, we took the metro and had to split up at some point. Given that I hadn't managed to build enough rapport, I thought it would be weird to go for a k*close, especially when she was in hurry to leave the wagon. So, I kissed her on her cheeks as usual, but I put my lips on her cheeks, this time around. Yeah, I know, I am a coward...

    She wants to take me to another movie (she's the cinephile type of person) on Wednesday and said she will contact me again early in the week.

    Well, I learned I had to pick better venues for my dates, where I can interact more with my target and finally build some rapport and go for the kiss. Do you have any ideas where I can do that? She is not much into dancing btw. How about bowling?

    Thanks for reading.
    To be continued...

  2. #12
    hyp
    hyp is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,354, Level: 52
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 196
    Overall activity: 80.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Australia ==> Melbourne
    Posts
    946
    Points
    6,354
    Level
    52
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    309

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    was there a table or something in between you two? no way of telling her to move her chair next to you?

    So, I took out my umbrella and she immediately grabbed my arm and pressed her against me (the pressure she applied was kinda surprising)
    she was ready to be kissed on the lips

    just make out with her in the movie, or before it and then start up again during the movie (y)

  3. #13
    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 107, Level: 2
    Level completed: 14%, Points required for next Level: 43
    Overall activity: 6.1%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    33
    Points
    107
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    11

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    was there a table or something in between you two? no way of telling her to move her chair next to you?
    Yes, that's exactly it. And the place was too crowded to get next to her.

    Quote Originally Posted by hyp View Post
    she was ready to be kissed on the lips

    just make out with her in the movie, or before it and then start up again during the movie (y)
    A friend of mine told me exactly the same thing this morning. How could I have missed that? I feel like I missed a golden opportunity and I might be losing her now... grrrrr

    Not only did I feel like sh1t all day and a lot of sh1tty things happened to me today, to top everything, she seems to have lost interest in me. There's a vacancy at the place I work at and she asked me a favor to have a look at one of her friend's cv. Anyway, I replied to her (not immediately of course) and added some funny comment about my day/almost falling asleep in meetings. She still hasn't replied (probably won't)... Curse my female best friend who urged me to send her a text message today. I told her I should wait but she really insisted that I do it today... Never listen to girls for advice...

    I swear, it's one of those days you are better off staying in the bed and do nothing...

    I am acting like an AFC, I know... I know I should be doing Kino, escalation and building sexual tension but something inside is blocking me. These things don't come naturally to me and I always end up doing nothing. You can't imagine the number of opportunities I have lost like that... I have always been kinda shy but that is no excuse... I really to fix that aspect of my personality, but I am still struggling after all those years...

    What's wrong with me? I think my case is hopeless...

  4. #14
    meteora's Avatar
    meteora is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 14,800, Level: 78
    Level completed: 88%, Points required for next Level: 50
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    Location
    west virginia
    Posts
    1,667
    Points
    14,800
    Level
    78
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 20 Times in 17 Posts
    Rep Power
    685

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    What's wrong with me? I think my case is hopeless...
    nothing is wrong with you!!!!! your are a normal person just like everyone else, but the the fact that you think something is wrong with you is killing your inner game. you are far too worried about what she thinks of you when you should be worrying about what you think of yourself. i highly recomend that you do some things to improve your self image. (like working out, dressing nicer, eating healthier, listening to music that puts you in a better mood, and doing anything that makes you feel good in general) you need to remember that you are more important than any girl you will ever meet.

  5. #15
    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 107, Level: 2
    Level completed: 14%, Points required for next Level: 43
    Overall activity: 6.1%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    33
    Points
    107
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    11

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Wow, I re-read my post and I realise I acted really as an AFC yesterday.
    I just had to vent somehow: my handwatch broke, got some bad news at work, had to pay a fine and had to deal with that chick's attitude to top everything.

    After getting some rest, I thought about what had happened more calmly. I guess my ego took a blow and I couldn't accept that. I was feeling bitter...

    I guess I will cut contact with her for a while. On the positive side, a new chick I recently met, came up to me and asked me out. And she's even better looking than the previous one!

    There are plenty of fish in the sea and I shouldn't feel too bad about what happened. I can't help feeling angry nevertheless... grrrrrr

    Meteora, thanks for the support. I have a history of being bullied, cheated and humiliated by other people. As a result, I have a serious lack of self-esteem in interpersonal situations and I haven't managed to overcome that no matter how hard I tried. The thing is that it takes me a while to open up to people, but once they get to know me, they love my personality. The problem in seduction is that I never have enough time to feel comfortable and show my true self. As it seems to have happened here, the chick lost interest. Have to work on that again.... mmmmmmm

  6. #16
    hyp
    hyp is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,354, Level: 52
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 196
    Overall activity: 80.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Australia ==> Melbourne
    Posts
    946
    Points
    6,354
    Level
    52
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    309

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    ... Never listen to girls for advice...
    that is correct unless the chick herself is a player, the rest always try to give advice that will ultimately make you come across as AFC if you follow it :P that's why you have us here...if i ever get a females opinion on women it's from a player cause they know the ins and outs (but that's a fine line there cause i got screwed over by listening to one...haha)

  7. #17
    meteora's Avatar
    meteora is offline PUA All Star
    Points: 14,800, Level: 78
    Level completed: 88%, Points required for next Level: 50
    Overall activity: 0%
    Achievements:
    Social10000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Jul 2012
    Location
    west virginia
    Posts
    1,667
    Points
    14,800
    Level
    78
    Thanks
    11
    Thanked 20 Times in 17 Posts
    Rep Power
    685

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Meteora, thanks for the support. I have a history of being bullied, cheated and humiliated by other people. As a result, I have a serious lack of self-esteem in interpersonal situations and I haven't managed to overcome that no matter how hard I tried. The thing is that it takes me a while to open up to people, but once they get to know me, they love my personality. The problem in seduction is that I never have enough time to feel comfortable and show my true self. As it seems to have happened here, the chick lost interest. Have to work on that again.... mmmmmmm
    look man, you can't be afraid of being yourself around people you don't even know, who cares what they think, you don't even know them. the only opinion that should have much weight in your life should be your own. every person i have ever coached had the same problem they cared too much about people they didn't even know. they would say things like "but what if she think's i'm a....." or "what if she doesn't like me..." my simple answer to these questions is always "who cares..."
    these girls should have to prove themselves to you before you even consider caring about them. be fast to flirt, be fast to have fun but be slow to fall in love. no girl matters that much unless your like married to her. as i said earlier you are more important than any girl you will ever meet

  8. #18
    hyp
    hyp is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,354, Level: 52
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 196
    Overall activity: 80.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Australia ==> Melbourne
    Posts
    946
    Points
    6,354
    Level
    52
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    309

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Dear Meteora,

    these girls should have to prove themselves to you before you even consider caring about them. be fast to flirt, be fast to have fun but be slow to fall in love. no girl matters that much unless your like married to her. as i said earlier you are more important than any girl you will ever meet

    this is gold and i am going to drill this into subconscious, it made me

    Aero, i'm trying to do that on a conscious level but it's hard and you'll relapse but you need to stay strong (sounds cliche) but if you don't you just fall into AFC thoughts until you fqck them off

    keep trying and eventually one day it will click, and that's when the magic happens i've had my dribs and drabs of it

  9. #19
    aeromyth is offline PUA in Training
    Points: 107, Level: 2
    Level completed: 14%, Points required for next Level: 43
    Overall activity: 6.1%
    Achievements:
    100 Experience Points
    Join Date
    Sep 2012
    Posts
    33
    Points
    107
    Level
    2
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    11

    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Thanks guys! Really appreciate the advice! Makes me want to improve myself even further!

    Just one question as I need to be prepared. How should I react if she ever contacts me again? I understand that it would be very AFC to act as being angry or displeased because she didn't reply sooner. Should I act as if I didn't notice? And then what?

    The thing is that I am trying to figure out what could have happened. Either she lost interest because I didn't kiss her or she's playing mind games and expects me to write first.

    I am just pissed at her because she asked me a personal favor for a friend of hers and I did my best to help him even if the final decision was not depending from me. A normal person would say at least "thanks for trying anyway". So, not only is she playing games, she's also rude and ungrateful. I hate being used...
    All in all, I didn't lose anything, but I didn't win either

  10. #20
    hyp
    hyp is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
    Points: 6,354, Level: 52
    Level completed: 2%, Points required for next Level: 196
    Overall activity: 80.0%
    Achievements:
    Social5000 Experience Points31 days registered
    Join Date
    Oct 2012
    Location
    Australia ==> Melbourne
    Posts
    946
    Points
    6,354
    Level
    52
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 0 Times in 0 Posts
    Rep Power
    309

    Cool Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    I understand that it would be very AFC to act as being angry or displeased because she didn't reply sooner. Should I act as if I didn't notice? And then what?
    act like you don't give a fqk, because you don't

    she asked me a personal favor for a friend of hers and I did my best to help him even if the final decision was not depending from me.
    don't mix work and friends together, it usually never works out (eg mates trying to get other mates jobs - causes ripples --that goes for even your own friends

    So, not only is she playing games, she's also rude and ungrateful. I hate being used...
    which means you do not care about her or want her because of her low quality?

    All in all, I didn't lose anything, but I didn't win either
    AFC thought there, you didn't lose and you learned what not to do next time (or at least you will)


Page 2 of 4 FirstFirst 1234 LastLast

Similar Threads

  1. First Field Report for Decorus
    By Decorus in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 4
    Last Thread: 11-24-2012, 05:34 PM
  2. Never though this day would come...my first field report!
    By Konstantin in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 09-03-2012, 05:59 PM
  3. My first field report.
    By JoePistone in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 18
    Last Thread: 11-20-2011, 05:54 AM
  4. My most epic field report to date
    By Mars3b in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 6
    Last Thread: 01-16-2011, 05:27 PM
  5. Second Field Report
    By Sektor in forum Field Reports
    Replies: 2
    Last Thread: 06-30-2010, 06:55 PM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •  
DMCA.com