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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    i have to agree with hyp on this one, you need to be non-reactionary. if you feel that she used you then why the h3ll are you still trying to get back with her? she sounds to me like a manipulative b!tch! she seems like the type who will just manipulate you in any way she can to get whatever she wants. CUT HER LOOSE !!! she isn't worth your time, you deserve better

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Aero, just a question is this chick your first? cause it's a lethal combination if she is and what Meteora described above, unfortunately for me my ex was exactly like this (she was my first) and it took me a while to stop the shenanigans almost 2 years with 1 year no contact, i laugh on it now but she was the biggest mindfqck to get rid of so if you do decide to let her go then stick to your guns otherwise you'll relapse

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Ok, something really weird happened this about an hour ago. I was relaxing at home after a day of hard work and there she calls me out of the blues (so far, she has only texted me). She wanted to apologize for not writing earlier, she had an overload of work and that she had made a checklist and that she had planned to write back to me earlier.

    Of course, that could mean anything. From genuinely forgetting, to playing games or simply being a bitch. The only thing I can say is that she didn't date me out of interest for her friend as she only learned about the vacancy at my work after the 3rd date.

    I gathered my cool and said I was super busy as well (pretending not to have noticed) and told her jokingly that she owed me compensation for that. She answered that she will see what she can do. lol
    Maybe the next time I see her, I will ask for a kiss on the cheek and then withdraw myself while saying that I ain't so easy (I have read this line many times on these boards and it seems to work).

    I also said I was going to Paris this week-end and she seemed "annoyed", like I go way too often. Well, I guess I made my point that I have a life and friends and that she doesn't get all my attention.

    So, shall I continue gaming for the sake of gaming? Experiences like this will eventually help me grow. How about I take her to bowling next time?




    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    i have to agree with hyp on this one, you need to be non-reactionary. if you feel that she used you then why the h3ll are you still trying to get back with her? she sounds to me like a manipulative b!tch! she seems like the type who will just manipulate you in any way she can to get whatever she wants. CUT HER LOOSE !!! she isn't worth your time, you deserve better
    Quote Originally Posted by hyp
    Aero, just a question is this chick your first? cause it's a lethal combination if she is and what Meteora described above, unfortunately for me my ex was exactly like this (she was my first) and it took me a while to stop the shenanigans almost 2 years with 1 year no contact, i laugh on it now but she was the biggest mindfqck to get rid of so if you do decide to let her go then stick to your guns otherwise you'll relapse
    You guys are right, but what now?
    The truth is I didn't like her initially but I started liking her more by the third date.
    I have been in a 3 year relationship before and it has been 3 years already that I have been single. While I used this opportunity to get a solid career boost, I really feel lonely. True, I shouldn't settle for the 1st one that comes my way (PUA is meant to make me be the one that chooses).
    Anyway, I guess I should continue playing as long as it's not game over. I can always learn something more and disappointments like that should make stronger in the end... I should simply not over-invest time in this girl, that's all.

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    no offense, but i wouldn't waist any time with this girl, she will only end up teaching you that you care way too much about her and that you need to be less needy, i would move on and find better girls to learn from. sorry to be blunt, but its a fact that she is no good for you and will only end up hurting your self-esteem nore than she already has.

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    i'm not sure about you, but you're going to Paris...french women are hot, atleast the one i spoke to in Melbourne haha use that as an opportunity to meet other women (dunno if they speak English there considering their main lang is french or you speak french?) Je't'dore - use that along those lines :P

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Yeah, you guys are definitely right. I will give it more thought this week-end and see what I will do from now on.

    I might try to see her one more time, just to verify if I have the balls to k*close. That would be a great improvement from my side.

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Hey aero, i am a newbie here and this is my first post.

    I have been reading, and reading and reading. An outside perspective if i may. She sounds like my ex. Wonder if she isn't, just kidding. Don't drop her, but take the chance to hone your skills and get what you can. Take charge of your emotional state and stop letting woman control you. You decided in the beginning that you didn't like her but yet your emotions controlled you. If you followed your gut then you would not be in this mess now. So take charge and do what you can to get those badass skills to improve and just don't care what she thinks.
    I think you will be surprised when you take a stronger, no care attitude with her, you will see her trying to close for you.

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Thanks TomBacardi! You hit the nail on the head, mate!

    I took some time to order my thoughts this week-end and reached the same conclusion as you. I should give it a go and not care about the outcome. I do not know why I got over-attached/over-emotional in the first place. Possibly due to my lack of gf during all this time... I took her sudden distance as a blow to my ego.

    Anyway, I decided to try my luck and asked her out (she had promised to take me to some movie - she kinda likes underground stuff). Funny thing is that she again replied immediately and said it was a good idea. I went to check the movie on imdb and noticed the keyword "lesbian nun". I texted her back saying ok and making a joke about what I found out and asking her if she intended to take me to a porn movie, lol.

    She called me a bit later telling her that she found my comment very funny and she tried to explain a bit the movie to me. Seems like she's still interested.

    So, I really have to k*close this time or I will look like a moron. I am wondering when the timing would be right for that: during the movie or when walking back together... For the time being, I feel relaxed and do not worry too much about the date.

    It's in a couple of days, so I will keep you updated on how it went.

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    who the fqck cares what you'll feel like, because next time when it happens you won't feel as bad because you'll have prepared for it next time around, familiarity

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    Default Re: 1st date after reading PUA - field report - bleh

    Ok, guys, I think it's time to bring a conclusion to this topic!

    So, I went on another date with her, tried to tease her more but couldn't gather the courage to kiss her in the end (went for the usual kiss on the cheeks thing). Dunno, something inside me blocked me but I mainly felt that it would feel awkward to go for a k*close when I hadn't done proper escalation. She didn't seem too open for a kiss anyway...

    I suggested that we go for bowling 2 days later and she agreed. So, I sent her a text yesterday night, to which she replied almost 24h later. Basically, she got drunk the day before (yeah right, she told me she had to study for an exam) and that it was probably too late to meet now (how convenient). This was the last drop and I won't even bother ever again.

    You guys were right by the way. After getting to know her a bit better, I clearly see she's not gf material. To be frank, I dunno why I made a whole fuss about her. I guess it's probably because she's the first girl to have shown interest in a while and that my lack of confidence and my neediness were pushing me to get into a relationship asap.

    Anyway, thanks a lot for the help and advice! Life goes on and I just make sure to enjoy the holidays for now

    Cheers!


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