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    Default Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Hi all,

    I met this girl at a bar last week and we got along really well. We chatted for about half an hour, and although her body language said that she was ready to get physical, I choked, and she ended up leaving the place. However, i got her number, and for the last week or so we've been doing some cutesy text message flirting. I asked her if she wanted to get lunch next week and she said that it sounded good. There's a catch though - she told me that she was very busy, and that there will be a couple of her friends there as well. To me, this sounds absolutely awful - worse than if she had flat out refused to see me. Her friends will undoubtedly be suspicious of the guy from the seedy bar, and I won't get to be alone with her at all. To use David DeAngelo's terminology, this seems very much like a meeting that is going to increase affection, as opposed to attraction.

    What's your advice, PUA Forums? Go along and try to play the long game, suggest an alternative meet-up, or bail altogether and call this one a lost cause?

    Could really use some help with this.

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Bring some friends of your own, 2 can play at that game. Then befriend her friends while somewhat ignoring her.

    She will be begging for your attention within an hour.

    You got this

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Winning the friends is always important. If you make a good impression they will approve of you, Be social! after all meeting new people is always fun. As JaySonic said if your too uncomfortable doing it alone arrange a group thing, just tell your friends that your date is off limits.
    Take her off that farking pedestal!

    “The truth does not change according to our ability to stomach it.”
    ― Flannery O'Connor

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Enjoy the opportunity and take this as a social experiment. Go have the lunch and have fun, mess around with her friends. And what ItsJaySonic says, ignore her a bit and see how that plays out

    I know, you have HER in mind, and the friends just seem to be obstacles. But this kind of thinking is just not gonna help. Not in getting her in bed, and not in having a great time and enjoying the afternoon.

    Try to take a mindframe of relative ignorance towards your target. Go in with no expectations. At least you can get some fun out of this. And another new experience. And hey, maybe you do get her hooked after all, not sure, but this kind of approach and mental state would probably be your best chance for that to happen anyway.

    Good luck and let us know

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Yea man go ahead with the meet. Have confidence and make her friends like you. Just have fun and be social. It will earn you major browny points. Friends have an amazing influence on which guy a lady dates so if her friends like you, you should have no problems with her

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Mystery once said "gaming 10 women will get u 10 women... gaming 1 will get u one."

    Have fun with all 3 ... act alpha to them all and u dont know what will happen. Just be the life of the party. Run some cold routines. Call the whole group trouble. Tell them your on to them, that your suspicious that they might try to take u home. Make the girls characters... as in friend1 is the quiet protective one, friend 2 is party girl etc. Or ask them who is the serious one, the crazy one etc. There is always one of each to a group of women (especially in a three set).

    Not saying you will score with each of them, but dont stop gaming. You are still the prize. Even if the friends are just coming to meet u, dont view it as a court case lol...like your on trial. Be fun, show a bit of a soft side once in awhile and keep gaming. Remember you already are gaming the one girl, so changing up your personality now would show you arent who u say u are.

    Ps. The friends might also be hotter than her. In the off chance the original one has friendzoned u (unlikely), u could end up getting the friends numbers. If the original girl liked u even as a friend, she probably has told them about u...how your cool and all. This will get the friends thinking about u until they meet u. Unless u totally blow it, their attraction for u could go pretty high
    Between men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship.
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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    Thanks for the advice guys, would never have been bold enough to think of that without your help!

    I guess my concern is that by inviting me to have lunch with her and her friends, she's already friendzoning me and that my window to make something happen with her is closed. I mean, this was a girl I met at a student bar last week, flirted with constantly and then texted cutesy shit with for a week. Surely she realises that I'm interested in her - but she wants me to have lunch with her and two friends? It seems kind of weird.
    Pretty sure I can get this friend to join me who's really into the PUA scene. He's a good guy and he won't hit on the girl I'm into. I'll try to get talking to her friends, and hey, you never know, if the target isn't keen then I could try it on with one of them.

    That said, this girl is also almost certainly going to be out this weekend, so I might try to hang out with her at a bar. I'm a bit of newbie and I'm a LOT more confident when I drunk, so I might be able to make something happen then.

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    I would advise against the drunkeness lol.

    Always be unconcerned about the outcome. If she just sees you as a friend, she might help u get with her cute friends. Its called a Pivot.

    Having women around even if just friends can always be made into something positive
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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    LOL @ liquid courage, I feel you on that one. Careful though.. I did that a lot and it kind of became a crutch for me... I felt I couldn't be successful unless I was drunk, just make sure you dont go down that path. Super sober game is scary but the most rewarding.

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    Default Re: Most uncomfortable lunch date ever?

    y r u worried abt her friends... if it makes her feel more secure - then so be it.

    better that u win her friends over so that they can help u.

    GL


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