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Thread: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

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    Default Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    I've gotten to somewhat know this girl in one of my classes at school and she has made a number of various moves to get my attention throughout the semester(like emailing me notes when I was late one time w/her number attached)since then I've been gradually texting & flirting with her. From all of this I had a very strong feeling that she was into me.

    Also, a couple of days ago she admitted she liked me and had "dirty dreams/thoughts" about me. She also said that she likes sex and would like to experience it with me.

    However, she seems to want to take it "slow" and doesn't want to do anything until we are in like a relationship situation I guess. Which is something that I completely understand and something I'm not pushing. Although, every time I try to push and tease a bit she seems to resist, something which I find confusing.

    I do like her in return though as she is a nice girl in general and fairly good looking to boot.

    I like some feedback. I hope I haven't been too vague as I'm typing this in a hurry tonight.

    Thank you in advance for any opinions shared.

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    Stop worrying about what she wants and start worrying more about what you want. I would actually bet that she is talking about taking it slow and being in a relationship because she feels she scared you off. I've never had a girl respond to me that forward that didn't want to hookup fast. Unless your in high school that would be my take on it. Start getting more familiar with what you want and leading with that than waiting for 15 green lights from her.

    ~ Dom

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    It seems like she has been a doing ALL the leading. Emailed you first. Gave you her number. Then tells you she wants to have sex with you. So when you make a move to escalate you're attempting to reverse the dynamics that you are leading and not her. She is obviously not having that. Don't worry, I'm sure she will eventually sleep with you. Just don't be surprised if it takes a few months or if another guy comes in and leads her away from you. Otherwise you have to "man up" and start leading. Period.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    Quote Originally Posted by BatMan View Post
    It seems like she has been a doing ALL the leading. Emailed you first. Gave you her number. Then tells you she wants to have sex with you. So when you make a move to escalate you're attempting to reverse the dynamics that you are leading and not her. She is obviously not having that. Don't worry, I'm sure she will eventually sleep with you. Just don't be surprised if it takes a few months or if another guy comes in and leads her away from you. Otherwise you have to "man up" and start leading. Period.
    Makes sense I suppose,

    So if I'm getting this correct she wants to be the one doing the leading then? And all this talk about waiting to do it, not wanting to get pregnant, or being with "right person" is all bs then?

    If she is the one wanting to lead then? How do I assert myself?

    I'm supposed to go to the movies with her tomorrow night so I'll see how it goes.

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    Quote Originally Posted by Dommer View Post
    Stop worrying about what she wants and start worrying more about what you want. I would actually bet that she is talking about taking it slow and being in a relationship because she feels she scared you off. I've never had a girl respond to me that forward that didn't want to hookup fast. Unless your in high school that would be my take on it. Start getting more familiar with what you want and leading with that than waiting for 15 green lights from her.

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    Dom,

    It's a very odd situation, I mean she comes onto me, stays on me, and then resists when I try to take the lead.

    I'm going to try making a move tomorrow and see how it goes.

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    People (especially women) tend to rationalize things based on how they feel. If she feels secure, happy, sexy etc. when she's around you, then she could tell herself that you are the one. If you make her feel uncomfortable, insignificant, etc then she will rationalize that you are a player or something. Take care of the emotions first then the rest will follow.

    I think what you need to do to get it to be your frame instead of hers is become mysterious. She already knows that you are willing to sleep with her. You have sexually solved yourself to her, which makes it her choice as to when she wants it because she knows you're just waiting. But if you confuse her about where she stands with you, then she could become curious and potentially chase you trying to figure you out. You want to show interest, then take it away. Show some more interest, take it back. Push/pull. Back and forth. It's mental and emotional stimulation.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    I have one word for you, Intrigue! Don't be the guy that has already solved instead be unpredictable and create sexual Tension without being obvious! That should do the trick and when starts chasing you then start your leadership I.e choosing the place and time for the date!

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    BatMan and Dommer always have good input, so listen to them! One thing to mindfark her is when she is ready for sex, deny her and take the lead. If you know what I mean. It's hard to resist it, but if you resist and then wait till another time you're taking the lead. I've done this with a girl before because YOU want to be the one wearing the "pants" in the relationship. It's you who must be in control. You control the times and the places that you have sex. Since she denied you sex the first time, you're going to deny her when she wants it.

    This is my frame at least. Could be bad info but I'm giving you what I think. Best of luck!

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    Quote Originally Posted by Lust View Post
    One thing to mindfark her is when she is ready for sex, deny her and take the lead.
    Pro tip right there.

    A great pattern in general to get more compliance from people intent on holding onto control.

    Have people who won't comply with you (Lost frame)
    Keep convincing them to play ball (concede that they have the frame)
    They finally throw you the ball (they use their control of the frame)
    You smash the ball out of the park so the game can't be played (deny and effectively take back control of the frame)
    You immediately play another game (use your control of the frame)

    "You do what you're told if you want me to play with you."

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    Default Re: Girl def likes me...but trying to figure out where this is going?

    I'd invite her over to watch a movie/study. If she wants you it will happen by "accident"


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