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    Default Very Awkward First Date

    Okay guys I recently went on a really awkward date. Met an 8.5 online built a lot of attraction flirted and talked a lot. She seemed genuinely excited about meeting and I was surprised when we first met as she is much better looking than the pics on her dating profile had me believe (initially thought she was a 7 at best). Anyway the date was really lame, we had planned on dinner or drinks and then going back to her place (I travelled over an hour to visit her) and she was very open to the idea of sex however I was unable to arrive in time for dinner (we didn't have any specific plans other than first meeting each other) so we ended up hanging out at her place watching movies.

    About an hour after I arrived she told me she wasnít really in the 'mood' as her ex boyfriend of five years had earlier called her that day asking to meet the following day. Apparently he was grieving over the death of a family member. She was really apologetic and told me she would feel awkward given she was meeting her ex the next day. I insisted it was fine. At this point we hadnít done much except for talking although the same comfort we had built through messages wasnít there. I hadnít tried any Kino and after what she had told me it killed any kind of romantic thoughts so we simply sat beside each other awkwardly watching movies with random conversation in between. As she got tired I even offered to sleep on the couch as I felt awkward being close to her, neither of us made any moves there was no holding hands, no cuddles, kissesÖno contact at all. I left early the next morning she thanked me for visiting but I honestly could not say I had any fun and simply told her no worries and to have a good day. We havenít messaged each other since. A bit rude on her behalf given I went out of my way to visit her. The entire time I kind of felt she was a bit out of my league and maybe I wasnít attractive enough or below her standards. I feel as though I turned a certain f-close into the most akward date I've ever been on.

    So what do you guys think is the best way to handle the situation from here. No contact? Wait for her to message me (if ever). I felt we had built a lot of attraction before meeting but Iím not sure if the date being so awkward was partly due to her being disappointed in me. Should I ask her this? I hope it wasnít and I would really like to see her again despite how awkward it wasÖ(preferably at a time she doesnít plan on seeing her ex afterwards). Any advice please?

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    I'm not sure if I posted this in the correct forum. Heres a bit more info.


    Iíve been on many first dates like this one and have managed to f-close but her Ďexcuseí (I see it as an excuse, I get the feeling this wasn't the real reason she wasn't interested and she may try and friend zone me) kind of made me question myself and think maybe she doesnít find me attractive enough or something. The whole time I didnít really notice any ioi. I also think I could have lost confidence after seeing how she is actually a lot more attractive than I thought. It was easier being confident and letting her do most of the chasing before we met and I thought she was nothing more than a 7. The fact that she hasnít messaged me since is a massive IOD. Should I acknowledge how awkward the date was and suggest we try again next time doing something other than simply hanging out and watching movies? I reckon had we actually gone somewhere or done something first it wouldnít have been so awkward.

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    Need advice guys, not sure if Freezing Her Out straight after a date is the best idea?

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    I couldn't help but notice she told you she was meeting her ex about an hour after you arrived.

    Why didn't you try to do anything physical before she brought that up?
    .-* WWWEEE *-.

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    Thanks for the reply. I can't remember exactly how long after I arrived it may have been sooner. But given it was the first time we had met I didn't want to try anything unless I felt she was comfortable. We had already sexually escalated through messages maybe I was a bit slack and thought things would just happen our intentions were pretty clear and I thought it would be a guaranteed f-close. I probably should have tried Kino before she had said anything but after mentioning she no longer wanted to do anything I gave up on the idea completely.

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    Quote Originally Posted by Viking12345 View Post
    Thanks for the reply. I can't remember exactly how long after I arrived it may have been sooner. But given it was the first time we had met I didn't want to try anything unless I felt she was comfortable. We had already sexually escalated through messages maybe I was a bit slack and thought things would just happen our intentions were pretty clear and I thought it would be a guaranteed f-close. I probably should have tried Kino before she had said anything but after mentioning she no longer wanted to do anything I gave up on the idea completely.
    I think you should have jumped her bones when you got there. If you wanted to escalate to sex you should have been all over her right away.
    .-* WWWEEE *-.

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    I probably would have felt more comfortable doing that if we had at least been on a date first.
    I't a bit of a non issue now, all sorted. I suggested we see each other again again soon to which she said 'for sure'...I assume thats a good ioi? Now my problem is how I should go about arranging a second date without appearing to keen or needy. It's a bit hard to be spontaneous given the distance. Any suggestions?

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    I am not an expert by any means but just some constructive criticism. On my first dates I never:

    Go to a movie
    Take her to dinner
    Watch movies
    Just sit there awkwardly

    No silence is fine, if you're comfortable, but if you are uncomfortable she will pick up on it. You can't talk during movies, therefore you can't get to know each other... Lastly, what has she done, where she deserves for you to spend money on her for dinner? It can also be really awkward watching someone eat and not being able to have a convseration while having dinner.

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    Yeah, Iím not really one for movies on dates either, I was counting on actually doing something first not necessarily dinner probably something more low key like drinks before actually going back to her place.
    I think first dates need to be something that involves a lot of interaction, that said we did get distracted and talked a lot.
    Iím getting mixed signals at the moment (or none at all). Her last message made her seem keen in seeing me again so I told her we should do it soon and asked if she was free this week. I havenít heard from her since and Iíve noticed she has been using her online dating profile a lot. Before we met she messaged me frequently and was doing most of the chasing however since then weíve only exchanged two or three messages. Bit confused as to whether or not sheís interested, she could have easily gone with the Ďlets just be friendsí thing, maybe she is just keeping her options open? Given how awkward our date was she is going to have much better time with anyone else she seeís hence why I suggested we meet soon. I think this one is bound for failure which is a shame as she seemed pretty awesome until we met.
    What do you guys think?

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    Default Re: Very Awkward First Date

    First dates can seem awkward but kid just go with the flow and send her a message show her your interest. She is prolly testing you.so what. its so natural to feel awkward.


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