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Thread: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

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    Default 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    So we've been on three dates and seem to be getting on OK. We're both in our 40's and have kids, though I don't live with mine.

    I teased her last time, that I don't normally sleep with a woman until the 3rd date (it was our third date ;-)).. So she know's it's on my mind.

    So she's coming around to my house. She's told me not to expect anything else than dinner...

    Our texts...

    someone cook for me yes please but you wouldn't expect anything else you know no pressure
    More than happy just to spend time with you. No rush. A bite to eat and a snog suits me :-)
    Actually though, she is super hot (HB9?) and I do want to escalate it a bit, even if we don't f-close ;-)

    So......

    Any tips for an older guy. Both of us are quite old-fashioned I guess. Her more than me, I have an fwb that knows about her.

    Also, what the hell can I cook for her? She's a professional cook!

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    Last time I cooked for a girl I cooked this, it's really easy, tastes amazing and looks pretty impressive
    Open ravioli with squash & porcini mushrooms recipe - Recipes - BBC Good Food
    As for escalation....this might help not really sure what your after. http://www.puaforums.com/how-seduce-...-how-i-do.html

    Linking x

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    Protip: Always have sex on the first date. It always works best, even if you "want to take it slow".

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    Cooking for a woman is a very seductive ploy! It allows you to tantalize all her senses! This will open her to the idea of intimacy. Make the dinner as romantic as possible: candlelight, roses, table setting, mood music, dress GQ, cater to her, etc.

    **you can also just put a single rose on her dinner setting if you're on a budget. 40 yo women tend to respond more to "the thought" than "the quantity".

    Use the setting to stimulate her vision by using more than one plate/bowl, various flatware, glasses and cups. Table cloth, napkins, flowers. How you dress should also be pleasing and stimulating to her eyes.

    Use aromas to stimulate her scent. Boil turmeric for the scent. The scent is believed to enhance a woman's libido. Don't use too much, you don't want it to overpower the aroma of your cooking.

    Use music and conversation to stimulate her hearing and mind.

    It is very important that you have some "finger food" to stimulate her sense of touch! It's best if you start and end with this sort of dish. Simple tidbits to start. Things that are a little rough to the touch. I like ending it with fresh cut fruit and a yogurt or whipped cream dip. Tell her, "You're going to love this" and feed her a piece of fruit.

    The food will stimulate her sense of taste.

    Do this and you will have all her senses highly active and responsive. All you have to do is continue the stimulation from the table to the...
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    All great comments from the pros above. I haven't gone all out like described above, but generally speaking, esp being an older guy myself, I have gone the more romantic route. Definitely, music, low lighting, wine. And for sure, fruit with whip cream or some other dip that you can feed her. I usually for for strawberries.
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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    [QUOTE=redmist;88534]So we've been on three dates and seem to be getting on OK. We're both in our 40's and have kids, though I don't live with mine.

    I teased her last time, that I don't normally sleep with a woman until the 3rd date (it was our third date ;-)).. So she know's it's on my mind.

    So she's coming around to my house. She's told me not to expect anything else than dinner...

    Our texts...

    I just want to comment on one thing in particular. Look guys not escalating sexually very early on is a kiss of death. Sure, sometimes it works out but most of the time you become that guy that just doesn't excite her. If that happens she spends most of her time justifying why you "just don't do it for her but she's going to give you a shot."

    It's better to blow out early rather than be strung along. Good luck bro.

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    Quote Originally Posted by Suave Kind View Post
    I just want to comment on one thing in particular. Look guys not escalating sexually very early on is a kiss of death...
    I agree with this theory. It's happened to me. Often, a 40 yo won't jump into a sexual encounter right off the bat. They want a little more attention before allowing you the privilege. They've been around the block a few times and require a different game than women under 30.

    They want you to show them you admire them for who they are and have accomplished followed by verbally qualifying their sexually appealing looks & demeanor.
    Carpe diem!

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    Default Re: 4th date, cooking for her at my place. F closing in 40's

    Follow up..

    I cooked her Fajitas and ate it by candle light. Not quite finger food, but nearly. It was her first time and enjoyed it.

    I was a p*ssy, and we didn't make-out until it was quite late and she had to go back to her kids. I didn't bed her, but OMG if it wasn't just the most passionate kissing ever. We were both VERY turned on by the time she left.

    The sexual Tension between us was off the scale and the next date, a week later, was absolutely mind-blowing. Honestly, like I've never experienced before.

    Currently trying not to seem needy, as the emotions are running very high with this one


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