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Thread: Is being too confident bad?

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    Default Is being too confident bad?

    Hello boys! so i meet this girl on facebook today and everything seem to being gooing so smooth so my question is is being too confident a thing and i did i do it here? okay okay! after she said she was just joking i just didnt want to feel played so i went along with it but before that did i mess up?
    12:26am
    Hey whats up? you live in shiel right?

    12:32am
    no i do not im a commuter

    12:34am
    ahh my bad i must of been thinking of someone else sorry, anyways whats up?

    12:36am
    im just upset

    12:36am
    a pretty girl like you? why would you be upset?

    12:41am
    can i ask you a question

    12:41am
    sure go for it
    but i think its a bit too soon to ask for my number it would just be werid but i guess ill give it you if you really want it=D jk what is it?

    12:43am
    is it ok for girls to not swallow?

    12:44am
    I would say so

    12:45am
    ok because last time i was with this dude, i didnt want to swallow (pearly whites bisnatches! :P) and jake got really upset and didnt let me finish him off....

    12:50am
    lol idk what to tell you i guess every guys diffrent forget it i guess

    12:51am
    Forget it!? how can i forget it? this has never happened before!!

    12:53am
    what i am saying is if it was me i wouldnt care i mean its not like your not doing it? he was just being a baby about it
    not much u can do about it

    12:54am
    well i guess thatts nice of you to say...

    12:59am
    lol we deffinitly should hang out * wink eye* =) lol
    so thats why ur all upset?

    1:02am
    yeah its minor... so what would we do if we hang out?

    1:05am
    idk what do you have in mind?
    or i should say what would you wanna do i mean we can hangout on campus in the droms or we can always go off campus

    1:06am
    lol alone in the dorms??

    1:08am
    we can be alone if thats what your asking but there alot of people here it wont be boring thats for sure =)

    1:09am
    i dont know...maybe

    1:10am
    there is no maybeies there is only Deffinitly so whats your number ill text you tommarrow!

    1:11am
    i dont give my number out to strangers buddy

    1:13am
    oh really?

    1:14am
    lol yup. you creep me out, i delete you off facebook. i get you my number, im stuck listening... lol get it?

    1:19am
    Lol i deffinitly understand people do get pretty creepy on here but just what if i dont creep you we text we hangout and bam. =)

    1:20am
    haha thanks for understanding. what does "bam" mean? lawl

    1:29am
    lol it means bam!

    1:31am
    but what is bam? guys have used that word a lot

    1:33am
    lol it can mean whatever you want =D, and i meant bam like bam we can be really close ( if your lucky) =)

    1:34am
    if im lucky?

    1:34am
    yep lol

    1:35am
    wtf does that exactly mean?

    1:36am
    lol it means if i like you enough.

    1:38am
    well thats a lot of you to think? no boy turns me away. girls or boys.
    1:42am
    lol well i guess theres a first for everything isnt there =)
    1:45am
    i only messaged you back as a joke. im with one of my friends and we thought it would be fun to mess with some little virgin
    you are way out of your league
    1:45am
    oh really?
    1:45am
    fark yeah really
    1:46am
    well thats always fun =)
    1:47am
    it was for me. dont be so full of yourself you little d1ck asshole
    1:48am
    well thats cool
    1:48am
    it was cool for me. the most cool you will never be
    1:49am
    ohh you got me =(
    1:49am
    fark yeah i did
    1:49am
    yep
    1:49am
    dont fark with sheila
    1:50am
    da da da
    you get mad easily dont you?
    1:51am
    no =, i just dont like when people try to play me like theyre more than they are
    1:51am
    play you? i didnt play i was simply talking to you, sweety you were playing me
    Reort 1:53am
    sweety? stfu. i wanted to have a conversation. you turned into a cocky ass.=hole. this is why girls are better.
    1:55am
    cocky? i was joking with you not being cocky there is a huge diffrence.
    1:55am
    no you were being a fat piece of sh1t. dont be mad i called you out
    1:55am
    am really mad GRRR
    1:56am
    what are you a dog now? gr gr gr. fuc you. enjoy farking your hand for the rest of your life.
    1:57am
    lol i am sorry if i made you upset i didnt mean to be cocky.
    1:58am
    too late to apoligize.
    1:59am
    lol thats on you, And not everyone is going to like you hate to break it to you thats all i meant by saying if i like you enough, not everyone likes you and i dont mean just you i mean everyone.
    2:00am
    everyone likes me. i dont care what you think.
    have you seen me? i have guys drooling over me as we speak.
    2:02am
    I can tell you right i dont like you theres 1.
    have a good life =)
    2:02am
    like i care what a kid like you thinks? ya good one
    2:04am
    How old are you you think every guys likes you lol? How can i like you if i dont even know you? i cant you just dont start likeing someone the second you meet them grow up
    2:06am
    grow up? how many girls have ever asked for your number? ive had 5 guys ask me for mine just tonight. so obviously idc if you like me or not
    2:07am
    i guess so =)

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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    So you were kind of an asshole and then you apologized. Be less arrogant, more funny and don't apologize... unless you really did something bad, like making jokes about her mother.

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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    Firstly this girl asking you a question about swallowing within the first few messages is weird. That should of been a sign. Anyways you need to be very careful with been cocky/funny over text especially if you have never met this girl in person. It's happened to me where I've been on 1 or 2 dates with a girl and she calls me out on my confidence. I don't back down for one second because confidence is something you should possess all the time. Not just switch it on or off. When the girl called me out on being "too" confident I told her I have every right to be so confident because Im awesome and know what I want. Eventually she admitted that being so confident was sexy. Girls aren't used to guys being so confident and when they do encounter one, their Bitch Shield kicks in because they have no idea how to deal with it. The outcome depends on how you handle it.

    Never apologize for being confident. I don't feel that you were an asshole. She turned psycho bitch on your ass so you gave it back. Also don't send boring texts like "yep" and don't leave things up to her to decide. You need to remember your the prize and not her

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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    Definitely a weird convo.... LOL!

    BUT, I don't think you were an @sshole either.
    Although, you DID start trying to qualify yourself to her when she challenged you... so just pay attention to that little test/trick next time.

    When she said "sweety? stfu. i wanted to have a conversation. you turned into a cocky ass.=hole. this is why girls are better."

    Instead of trying to defend yourself against the accusation &/or apologizing for being cocky, you should have responded with something else like:
    "Hang on little missy, what's the REAL issue here? Obviously something or someone has gotten you all bent out of shape."

    This flips the script back on HER to explain herself.
    Usually this also diffuses the b!tch shield.

    In my opinion, she's doing one of the following: just playing you for fun, she's testing you because she's somewhat interested, or she's a nut case.

    But you've got nothing to lose by gaining experience & seeing how far you can take this.



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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    You are confident or not. What makes you a jerk is your EGO. When girls/guys who are confident on their EGO get shut down they get mad or sob about it. Most of those people are the ones projecting things they hate about each other when they speak.
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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    I must say that I actually liked how you held out. Even though she went a-wall on you, you never lost your cool and you still continued to joke around with her. You even negged her a few times (ie, well there's a first for everything), which I actually liked. I'd have to say that overall you did a great job. As Supremo said, you just ended up with a bad catch.

    I would also agree with T-Mal, though, that there are a few areas you can improve on. When she talked about playing her, for example, you should have not defended yourself. A good pick-up artist should NEVER be on the defensive. He should always be on the offensive and aiming to fight for more ground, not protect what he has.

    Too much confidence is NEVER a bad thing. The guys who are super natural, super flirty, and who KNOW that they are going to get it in tonight are the ones with obnoxiously massive levels of confidence. Girls flock to this like young teenagers to Justin Bieber. As I have learned, though, in order to maintain power and keep things in line, you HAVE to maintain your mask, 24/7 in public. I just made a mistake where instead of being cocky and flirty, I ended up being rational and thoughtful. This caused me to lose out on a major rep building opportunity, and I banged my head on the wall for doing that.

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    Default Re: Is being too confident bad?

    You weren't being confident, AT ALL!!
    see, you were being a masterbaitor, all happy and excited that a chick talked to you about sex or blow jobs.
    That was not smooth.
    See, confidence is:'you know, you're gonna fark her' So, you can talk about other things.
    BUT..
    in the conversation keep your mind set..of you wanting to fark her, but not you becoming her friend.

    Damm, it's difficult to explain though the net.
    mmhmh.
    lemme get some examples from your conversation:


    She talks about blowjobs. She knows that'll excite you.
    and what do you do...
    you fall in the trap.
    You're like 'let's hang out'-FATAL mistake.
    FATAL.
    I've had women, that I've met online,and I closed..
    who always said the same thing.
    "I liked the way I talked about sex, but you glided over..and never talked about it"-
    I was carefull, not to be the friend...
    But I let them indulge, without EVER, sounding like a masterbaiitor all happy..
    THEN..
    when you said let's hang out at the dorm.
    NEVER,
    Even if she wanted to, for social conventions, she's forced to turn you down.
    Invite her to a quaint little place NEXT to the DORM..
    when she arrives, IF she talks about sEX, you smile approvingly..but don't talk back. Make sure, she give her the signal of approval..
    OR, pretend you're shy..so, you bring out the tigress in her..(but that's a whole other game).
    and form there...'oh, in my room there's a bottle of Sauvigon wineetc..'


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