Re: HELP REQUIRED WITH HOT GIRL. please help!
First off, I think you screwed up by taking her to a club as your "sort of" date with her. Clubs are wolves' dens. Every guy in that place is looking for the exact same thing as you, and I find that in clubs females have total control. My advice to you would have been to take control of the situation and go somewhere else with her. Tell her you're taking her for drinks at a lounge, or planning to do whatever. But never take a date to a club IMO.
When I'm in LTRs, I hate going to the clubs with my GFs. Unless you have a great woman, you're constantly dealing with douchebags trying to steal your girl and it's a pain in the ass. I am a very alpha individual who was brought up in sports. My first reaction is just to knock the guy out--obviously, not the best response. That's how I dealt with shit like that in high school, and it always seemed to work--not so much in the real world. Point being, forget about clubs with a date, especially early in the relationship.
Second off, how could you have handled the situation differently once you were at the club? It's obvious that this HB was looking for your attention. Great job by not giving it to her, terrible job just letting her kiss the guy. When you saw him approaching, you should have AMOGed him. Jumped in there and been super friendly and made it clear that she came with you and she was with you that night. If she started kissing him after that, then I really don't think she's worth your time.
However, based on your post it's possible they were kissing before you even saw him approach. If this is the case, then you did right by not paying attention. The next thing you should have done is gone into full blown PUA mode and started hitting on everything that moved in that club. She wants to kiss him? Great! You're going to kiss every girl in that fucking club and make sure she has a front row seat to the event.
Finally, her text afterwards clearly shows that she was just trying to get a reaction out of you. Unfortunately, IMO you gave her a reaction. She came with you and you left her there, and she's taken that as a negative reaction. This isn't necessarily a bad thing, since you don't want to appear like you don't care at all, but the truth is, when a woman does something like this, you can't act like nothing is happening. You have to punish bad behavior and reward good behavior. By not doing anything at all, you just let this behavior be.
When she texted you, I would have told her that I was fine, but I had to go early because I was meeting a girlfriend for breakfast the next morning. You needed to make it clear that if she was going to engage in that kind of behavior, you're not just going to wait around for her.
As a final piece of advice, if you're going to go out with her again, I wouldn't go to a club.
"It's only after we've lost everything that we're free to do anything."