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  1. #1
    Sigmund is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Post I am doing it right?

    Gentlemen,

    Just going to give you the low-down on a certain something I have in the works and I'd like your opinion/advice on how you think it's going and how I should proceed.

    Back Story:
    Met this HB9 a couple of months ago when I was definitely still in AFC mode. The night I met her was at a mutual mate's birthday drinks at a local bar. She was so gorgeous that night that when she started talking to me I was like "why are you even bothering talking to me?". Anyways she seemed really interested in what I had to say and we got to know each other a bit. Turns out she has a young boy which I actually thought (and still think) is kind of cool. She added me on FB and was messaging straight away. We were talking for ages because we both study teaching and seem to be getting along well. I tried to organise a time to hang out a few time but she kept flaking so eventually I just stopped trying.

    Now:
    Started chatting with her at the beginning of the week as we'd both finished studies and were happy about that. I feel I'm getting a lot less AFC so I just said "when can we celebrate?" (this was Thursday). She said really keen so I suggested we grab a late movie, she was like sweet, and it ended up with me going to her place to watch movies (late Friday night) with her and her sister and sis' BF. I got there and we spent the ages all talking and I had everyone laughing which was cool and she was showing me sweet body language . However, I didn't try to escalate physically at all much throughout the night (except we ended spooning alone on the couch until about 2:30am. I feel this was a better move not to because knowing that she has a child I felt that maybe I'm playing a different game and that I would want to take things a lot slower to build more rapport and comfort first so that she feels like she can trust me obviously (TBH I'm really interested in meeting her son and spending time with both of them).

    My question is obviously, was this a clever way to approach this and is it likely that I can continue this track to maybe make something work? It's probably hard to tell not knowing the girl but if you can offer me anything, that'd be great, particularly if you've been in similar situations.

    Regards,

    Sigmund.

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    HunterKiller is offline PUA in Training
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    Default Re: I am doing it right?

    It sounds like you've done a great job so far. Not escalating and building comfort was a sound decision. If you play your cards right she sounds like a pretty safe bet, so you don't have to worry about time constraints.

    How's your Kino?
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    might as well unlock all the secret areas

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    Sigmund is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I am doing it right?

    Cheers man. I'm not exactly calling her a safe bet yet, she's a hard one to predict in terms of how she's feeling.

    The angle I'm working at the moment is the 'smart, older guy' approach. I'll explain: She was very interested in my stance on philosophy and religion (it's been an ongoing thing) and she was agreeing with a lot of the things I was saying in regards to that. I told her I like to read a lot of books on the topic which, unbeknownst to me at the time, was probably dhv. I felt this kind of complimented my slow and steady approach with her, showing her that I'm not some young dude just trying to get my rocks off (which is only a half-truth to be honest). So my last message exchange with her was me saying that I'd lend her some of my books and I specifically said she had to promise to read them, she did (compliance test??).

    Hunterkiller, in regard to your question about Kino, I don't think it was too bad but definitely in keeping with the style of approach. When I first got there and all 4 of us were sitting on this small couch, I was obviously right up against her but just used kino that was natural with the situation (arm resting up against her body, etc). When it was just the two of us, she changed positions to the other side of the couch and I still just maintained a natural feel with the Kino. I know I somehow managed to saddle up close to her again but I don't really know exactly how that happened. My big moves for the night I sort of feel she instigated (not ideal I know). She stretched herself lengthways along the couch which I took as an invitation to do the same but obviously lying behind her in the spooning position, draping my arm around her stomach, resting my hand on hers (sort of just felt nice and comfortable rather than sexual or suggestive) and we fell asleep together briefly.

    When we woke up it was super late and I asked if it was cool if I could just stay there on her couch instead of driving home, she said that was cool but later came back and said it probably was a better idea if I left as she said her neighbours would get suspect of seeing a strange car out the front of her house (I drive a pretty suspect looking van) and tell her parents who were away for the weekend. I felt kind of weird about this, particularly as I'm a bit older too and I often don't ever consider parental factors. However, I just played the indifferent card and told her that I completely understood. Is this a bad sign though?

    Sorry if this is excessively detailed but I'm kind of feeling a diary entry style reflection by writing it all down.

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    Sigmund is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: I am doing it right?

    Guys, just an update.

    Got a few message exchanges with her. Read the art of conversation and started asking her some 'feelings' questions which got good responses, especially about her son which I believe is going to be really worthwhile doing with her.

    Anyways, she asked me how my day was to which I gave her a pretty concise but decent reply with a few baits for her to continue the convo. She just replied with "oh awesome ". I didn't really want to reward her for that so convo ended (on my terms I hope). Anyways, I've not said anything to her today because I thought it might be a good idea to continue my indifferent alpha attitude. She liked a photo I was tagged in on FB which I'm treating as a positive.

    So I'm thinking I'll give her a message tomorrow. Maybe asks her what she thought of that photo. Any comments or ideas? Gentleman, I feel I'm really close and I promise to shout you a metaphorical beer for anyone that offers advice or opinions. Cheers.


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