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    Default Enticing Women via Text Messages

    Hey guys, I'm new to the Forum. Was directed here after reading some NLP and Mystery method related material. I took a particular interest in Neil Strauss' "The Game" and realized that I was left with more questions than answers. So here is a glimpse into my current conundrum.

    I met this girl at college a few months ago, seemed to originally attract her and get her attention, but it has died out. I haven't spent any 1 on 1 time with her because she "isn't looking for a relationship in any shape or form" and feels that hanging out with me would fall under the "date" category. We text a bit but nothing significant. My question is how do I draw her attention and maker her want to initiate conversation? Likewise, how would I be able to entice her via text messages to spend some one on one time? She doesn't exactly live around the corner and I changed school to study something different so I won't be crossing paths with her unless I take the initiative to do so.

    Unfortunately the internet/cyber world has become the new "it" place for foreplay. It is difficult for me to circumvent current obstacles (such as her lack of interest, lack of initiative and explicit desire to avoid 1 on 1's). How can I instead use this texting game to my advantage?

    Thanks,
    AnonA

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    Default Re: Enticing Women via Text Messages

    Welcome.

    I only really use text to arrange dates, and then use it for more comfort building and a little escalation once we're better acquainted. Best way to avoid the friend-zone is not go anywhere near it.

    How much are you texting her at the moment, and what's the general vibe?

    As you said about cyberspace being the new 'it' place for foreplay (totally agree) it also make its so easy to just not reply to someone, making text game a tricky one! (I think so anyway)

    Since she's not into a one on one, I'd say she should come out be my wingman - flip it on it's head, change The Vibe. But of course using the face time to game here.

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    Default Re: Enticing Women via Text Messages

    Hey, thanks for the reply.
    Well, the general vibe is that she seems to enjoy most of the conversation and does occasionally make the effort to extend the conversation beyond the usual. She's not reluctant to talk about her beliefs and her views or to go in depth about certain things that she feels passionate towards. It just seems like she's either genuinely uninterested in romance or finds me uninteresting (which I doubt is the case).

    I feel as if the attraction exists on both ends but it is not as compelling on her end. And, I agree, texting is usually not the preferred way of gaming but its all I have to work with, right now at least.

    Is there anything that is recommended to make her more interested via text or to get her to feel more enticed into wanting to see me in person ? I've been trying to be a little unpredictable, which has helped, but she still doesn't seem interested in getting together (I've asked one or two more times to get together with friends over smokes).

    So do I move on and get back to it another time, or is she just constantly shit testing to see how far I'll go? its hard to tell via text.. Can't exactly read body language or sarcasm..

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    Default Re: Enticing Women via Text Messages

    There's no body language over txt, but you can usually pick out sarcasm from emoticons, wording, and context. It's just calibration to a new scene. Humans tend to adapt their missing communication modalities to a new communication channel. An example of this is smiley emoticons. People can't see physical smiling or laughing over txt, so they instinctively developed smileys and lol-speak. Keep practicing, you'll get better at feeling out "body language" over txt.

    A girl that says she isn't interested in dating or a relationship in any form is bullsh1t.

    She means something else. She either means she isn't interested in dating or a relationship WITH YOU, or she has some deep underlying psychological issue that is preventing her from having the healthy physical and emotional relationships that her body and mind crave, respectively, as a young and fit social female. If it's the latter, forget about her. Maybe it's abuse when she was younger, or a recent messy breakup, or a biological lack of libido, or social anxiety, or any number of deep-rooted issues she has to work out before she's ready for you or anyone. You can wait around for her, or, god forbid, try to fix her, but ultimately you'll spend a lot of time in drama and/or therapy and in the end not get what you want out of it (unless what you want is drama and therapy). Best lose the one-itis, ditch this girl (or keep her as an arms-length friend, she's not even wingwoman material because she has a high sabotage probability) and give your attention to the multitudes of healthy, attractive, and ready-to-date girls out there just waiting for the kind of sweeping off her feet that a mindful PUA like yourself can give.

    Now if you discover that she's just not interested in YOU, that's a different story...and one that can be fixed. If that's the case (and you're sure), forget everything above. Do some recon. Does all your mutual friends agree she's not seeing anyone. If she has been dating, and told you she isn't, don't call her out on it, just pretend you don't know and build attraction. Don't let her know this, just let it sneak up on her. Once she's attracted, she'll just change her story about what she said before.

    Sounds like you have comfort, perhaps too much. I'd suggest reading up on how to get out of the friend zone.

    Be sure to dhv. This can be done over txt by being a fun, busy, interesting guy. End txt conversations before she does (if you can't be sure to do a redirect and then end, as found in the Text Game). Txt her from fun interesting places. Find nonchalant ways to let her know you have lots of friends, especially other female friends and female interests. Read up more on DHV and the text game if you're rusty on this.

    I agree with Bojangles, definitely escalate. You probably got here by letting conversation stagnate.

    And Bojangles's group outing idea is a really good idea. Only don't make her wingwoman, see if you can get some other woman to be wingwoman, especially one you can trust. If so you can let the wingwoman in on this girl being your target, and it'll go much easier.

    In fact if you're still not sure if this girl is interested in no one, or just not you, the wingwoman or a mutual female friend might be able to get an honest answer out of her for you.

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    Default Re: Enticing Women via Text Messages

    Great post, thanks for the insight.

    It seems as if I have to research attraction and just continue to dhv, maybe escalate soon... And if none of that works, move on. I just don't know how exactly to build attraction via text, which is what I was looking to learn. I'll do some more reading and experimenting, though.

    Thanks,


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