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    Default No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    Hey,

    I'm looking for tips on how to present ones self, how to communicate attraction without dialog. Does one hold a mental image of them selves, sit to the side, make contact with hands or shoulders. Looking to communicate quietly. Also some tips on flirting would be great. AFC here so looking for straight forward material.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    The eyes can be the biggest factor. Never underestimate the power of eye contact. It's tough to pull off if you're not confident in yourself. You may turn away before she does or may start to sweat trying to keep the contact. But if you do, you will communicate to her that you want to rip her clothes off. All with a look. Use the triangle method to communicate this. Look at one eye, then the other, then at her mouth. Do a couple of cycles of these and you will communicate to her, without words, that you want to kiss her.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    I agree with Batman. Confident eye contact is very important, but knowing when to use it is especially important. If a girl's not yet comfortable with you, that kind of intense eye contact can creep her out, especially if you're looking at her from a distance and not doing anything else. If you're just meeting women, hold the eye contact until they break it; if you're looking at her from across the room, make sure you are and have been doing something fun when you make eye contact.

    The idea is to convey that you are dominant and sexually confident (I like what I see and I'm not afraid, so I'll continue looking when you look at/talk to me), but not aggressive/overintense (Staring after she breaks off: I'm going to take you whether you like it or not) or creepy (Staring and looking away first: I'm going to get you, but I'm afraid you'll notice before I can do it).

    On the other side of the coin, suppose she is comfortable with you. When you're flirting with her, using your eyes to let her know in no uncertain terms that you want her will turn her panties to jello. I was talking with this girl last night about how she was an angry villain, and how if she was a supervillain her superpower would be to kill people with her kiss. I'd made out with this girl before, but since it had been a few weeks since I'd really had any contact with her that chemistry had to be rebuilt.

    "So how come I didn't die when you were making out with me?"
    "Oh. No. You're poisoned for life."
    "Yeah. I guess I am." *very slight, knowing smile, commence eye f***ing*

    If she's receptive, and you could cut the sexual Tension with a knife (she gives off IOIs, holds the contact), you have two options at this point: Break the tension before things get uncomfortable by continuing the conversation, or act on that tension. Go for the kiss right there or take her by the hand lead her somewhere where you can escalate.

    You might not know how to flirt very well at this point (I have a lot to learn myself), so I don't expect this to be super useful just yet, but do keep this in mind for later.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    Hey,

    Great Advice about the eyes, what about posture and positioning, and are there simple jesturs one can improvise to share ones intention. Conversation is not an issue, Just implementing the right formula is what is in need.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    I also like Krauser's "barbarian king" approach to body language - take up as much space as possible, spread yourself out, be fully relaxed (the only exception to this rule is in the way you stand - make an effort to stand straight). No punches are about to fly. Convey this: Nobody has any reason to be uneasy around you, nor you around them. (But I'm also not a guy you can walk all over.)

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    Hi

    So these suggestions all make sense but what about keeping her attraction to me, eventually the glamor has to fade, and what if I am still interested in her are there key signals one has suggest to keep her interested. Or is it a person to person subject.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    Quote Originally Posted by TurtleHermit View Post
    Hi

    So these suggestions all make sense but what about keeping her attraction to me, eventually the glamor has to fade, and what if I am still interested in her are there key signals one has suggest to keep her interested. Or is it a person to person subject.

    TH
    It really is an individual thing, but it's a rule of thumb that you become more valuable the less available you are. On the other hand, if you're too unavailable, the cost in emotional investment and opportunity may not be justified by how attractive you are by other standards.

    Let's say you love strawberries. I do. But if you were to feed me strawberries, every single day, for the rest of my life, I'd probably come to hate them. Let's flip it - if I could never have strawberries for the rest of my life unless I was willing to pay $100,000 for a bowl, I wouldn't do it.

    Being with people is similar. Both eating strawberries and being with a person are experiences. We want to enjoy our experiences, and the best way to do that is by not overdoing them and by having them not cost us more than we are willing to pay for them. Strike a balance; be into her enough that she can see it, but not so much that she knows she can have you without putting some effort of her own in. Make her feel like it's worth it for her to chase you.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    For body language, I'll always keep it open to her and try not to consciously close her off, if I have closed her off I'll rectify this ASAP - Want her feeling comfortable and like she can get near me.

    Eyes, a deep stare is good and communicate a lot, I try to have 'warm eyes' e.g: a soft stare, smile with my eyes (if your pulling a face like a doctor just gave you a prostate exam then you're doing it wrong), I'll then reserve deeper, intense eye contact as a part of sexual escalation - if you come out staring you'll come off as intense.

    Mouth, I always be conscious to whip out a cheeky grin or mischievous smile here and there, let her know you're not up for behaving.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    I know you specificaly mentioned how to create attraction without dialog. But the way you speak also has a major influence on how you are perceived. Not just the way you speak to her, but also the way you speak to others. If she hears you speak, she will get an impression of who you are on the inside. Think of stranger you get on the phone, you immediately know if this person is dominant or more submissive.

    Try to go for a deep voice with bass. Speak slowly and take pauses to highlight words. Make sure you don't go monotone, keep some pitch range in your voice. You could enhance your voice by practicing it each day for 5 minutes. Try to find some videos on youtube.

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    Default Re: No Dialog Body Language for the AFC

    All the advice on this is pretty solid dude.
    I'd like to add that posture wise, stand up straight. I can't emphasize this enough because I see guys doing this wrong all the time. That means, shoulders back, chest out, (but not puffed out like you're flexing or something lol) feet shoulder width apart. Walk slow, with a purpose.
    You should be relaxed and comfortable in your own skin at all times. If you're a little overweight hit the gym. I was extremely skinny all throughout high school and a little punk kid basicly lol. Girls never gave me attention right off the bat. Over the summer and throughout the semester I've been lifting 4 times a week and have put on 20lbs of muscle. It makes a world of difference in both my confidence, my body language and the way girls act around you. Seriously, its worth it. You're a man right? That means you also take up as much space as you want to. You don't try to move out of the way for anybody, they move around you. I can't stand when I see skinny little dudes who walk with a little hunch or try to move out of the way for girls to walk by like they're a little beta b1tch-(credit to cody on that term lolz)
    If you do this, and follow the eye contact tips by everybody else, you're 90% of the way there dude.


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