How to successfully Phase Shift
So ive been pretty dormant these past few weeks and have been thinking of what topics to make a thread about that will benefit most people. In this 'How to Seduce a Girl' section, there are many questions yet few answers. I think its a sticking point a lot of PUAs would have come across in their time - the transition of talking to a girl, building comfort, or texting her, to getting her into your bed. For guys that are new to this, they are new because they havent had a good track record with girls, so this transition is going to be the hardest for them to conquer, and still for those who arent new, it can be a challenging skill to master. I am going to try and construct a guide to perfectly execute the art of seduction, here goes!
The Reality is, there are different types of girls that take different methods to seduce, and this is the idea and concept of Vin-DiCarlo's Pandoras box system. However I am going to break down some of the main fundamentals to phase-shifting from texting/building comfort, to seduction and f-closing. The problem many guys are faced with is not talking to girls or be-friending them, its knowing when and how to phase shift to seducing them.
1. Be Positive and Confident:
Being positive and happy for starters is going to effect your body language subconsciously. You'll automatically hold a smile, and strong body posture when you walk into a room. Never knock yourself down or set low goals for yourself, by setting un-realistically high goals for yourself you will have a confident and alpha-male like aura about you. Girls tend to like a guy who is confident and knows exactly what he wants, a guy who can take control and be dominant. A guy who is confident in himself doesnt over-exaggerate, he can often laugh at himself to others and doesnt get embarrassed, because he is self-satisfied inside, and this comes off as very attractive to women.
2. Build Social Proof:
If she is a confident girl herself and attractive, then she will be used to a lot of attention and getting her own way. Let her know that you are the exception and she doesnt have your full attention, make her work for it. Give her a genuine compliment but act like its no biggy, like you are used to being around such beauty for example, 'you're looking nice tonight, i like that dress'. This will drive her crazy as she is so used to guys drooling and grovelling over her, but you have payed a small complement and then turned away like its nothing. If however she is a shy girl, include her in conversations and introduce her around, dont ice her out as this will knock her self-esteem massively. Spend a little more time talking to her whilst introducing some soft Kino to comfort her, try to get her comfortable and open up.
Women are genetically programmed to seek out the alpha-male in any one group, this is just their way and how their minds work. If you believe that you are the prize then often she will believe it too. Dont intimidate other guys to gain this alpha-male status though as this just represents insecurity and would lower her opinion of you.
Its hard to tell when a girl is just being polite and nice and when she is giving you IOIs, this is one of the biggest obstacles a guy is faced with when deciding when the phase shift, if you read the signs wrong then your entire game can be ruined. Normally the rule is look for 3 IOIs e.g her asking your name, laughing a lot at your jokes etc. But what if she is just being polite?
When i think about phase-shifting, i look for finer details to give me a more solid basis to move in, for example she might play with her hair or touching her lips. Look into her eyes, often someones pupils dilute much more when they are talking to someone they are attracted to. A girl will open pull her sleeves or play with her wrists as this is the softest part of her body.
Subconsciously a girl will do a lot of the things taught about flirting on this forum when they are attracted to guys. She will touch you and get much more kino in, she will open her body up to you and she wont be afraid to open up to any embarrassing secrets.
The main rule however that i go by is my gut instinct. If i think she likes me then i tell myself she likes me, i don’t take ages wandering and thinking about what to do next, this will just make you much more nervous. I like to add a touch of playfulness sometimes so if i think a girl likes me, id drop in something like ‘I know you fancy me, but give me some space yeah’ and this also includes an element of cockiness.
You have to remember that all (or most) girls want sex just as much as guys, they just don’t want to come across as sluts or being easy.. To phase shift with maximum success you HAVE to build comfort first and some intimacy so she doesn’t get buyers remorse. If you touch a girl, and she likes you then often she will go out her way to touch you back. I want to share all my experience and secrets with you guys but if i were to do so then they would become overused and ineffective, but some of my favourite kiss initiators are:
1) After isolating the target, let the conversation trail off after a while and look into her eyes, if she looks away or starts new conversation, then either she is nervous about whats going to happen but wants to kiss you, or she just isn’t interested so you have more work to do. If however she holds your eye contact for 5 seconds or more, then go in for the kiss and 99% of the time she will kiss you.
2) A simple question i use like: ‘What would be a reason for you not to kiss me right now?’ works a treat, because often she cant think of a reason, then you go in for the kiss and seal the deal! However i tend not even to wait for her response and move in for the kiss momentarily after i ask her the question.
When you get the kiss the rest is easy. You just need to carry on what you are doing, say something like ‘Thats all youre getting for now’ and continue building sexual tension. However DO NOT think thats it and that you have won, because if you drop your game or keep being too needy and going in for too many kisses then she will just get bored as she doesn’t have to work for it anymore and it is no longer a challenge to her. Keep her on edge and she will be gagging for you in no time!
Wise men don't need advice, Fools wont take it - Benjamin Franklin
Stick a £50 note onto your forehead and talk to a stripper.. If you can get her to not think about the note, you are gold.