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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Most dyn may be salvaged etc..

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    I have done 100 approaches now which is like the magic number for me and STILL get caught off guard. Man how could this ever happen?
    100 approaches is not the magic number, not to brag or anything, but from the beginning of august through the end of octobre i approached over one thousand girls (i actually kept count of every girl i approached for 3 months, my actual approach count at the end was 1032) that's roughly an average of 9 approaches a day. (grant it that i had some nights when i would go out and approach 50 woman in a single night) and i will tell you something, even after approaching all those woman, i still don't always make an approach, however, my reasoning went from she's too hot for me, to "i didn't come up with something to say fast enough" (i always go improve rather than using canned material, the only problem is that sometimes i really can't come up with anything off the top of my head.)

    I agree many guys are just learning game and not taking action because they are waiting for some epiphany where the knowledge they have accumulated will just cancel out their lack of experience! but that is impossible! you need the social experiences, and the suffering to really grow.
    i agree with you soo much. all to often people are unwilling to go out and tackle there aa. as a matter of fact, for many AFC's pua only complicates there approaches because it causes them to not be in the moment, but rather to be thinking about what line they're going to use next (witch ends up causing them to not pay enough attention to the girl)

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    100 approaches is a great start but not a lot. There's a standard calculation of how many times women have been approached in their life versus how many times you've approached them. Generally the number is in the thousands to tens of thousands, which means you need to make a LOT of approaches to have the same level of approaching that she has being approached
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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Great post!!

    When did it even become all about how many girls you approach in a night? Or in a month for that matter? Becoming good at picking up women should be viewed as more of a lifestyle change (as Devil_dog also put it) than actually approaching thousands of women, in my opinion.

    When I go out, I go out with the Mindset that I KNOW I will pick up a girl, or maybe more than 1.. Or at least spend the night making out with a hot girl and going away with a few numbers. I don't go around all night approaching every girl I see all night long (not that there is a problem with that! obviously..). Rather, I go out for the sake of having fun and I just be my normal confident self. I find that in doing that, and being somewhat social, I get approached almost as often as I approach.

    My point is there shouldn't be rules to how you go about picking up women, everyone is different. If you know what you want and you know how to get it, as well as having a strong understanding of how girls are wired, and what it is that THEY want in a mate, that should always be good enough. You just need a certain level of confidence in yourself.

    Sure the average girl has been approached thousands of times, but how many times has she come across a guy who understands her wants and needs and is confident in himself being able to give her that. THAT my friends is what is rare, and what will ultimately set you apart from the AFC's she is used to being hit on by.

    Read up on congruence, learn about social dynamics, read a book by Eckhart Tolle, read the Mystery Method or The Game and learn to be confident in who YOU are. Girls WANT that type of guy, so if that's you, you are only doing them a FAVOUR by approaching them, or talking to them, or even just giving them the opportunity to be with you.

    The pedestal you have women on is an illusion, never forget that.


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