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    Default Message for the Newbies

    I don't come on this forum much often anymore and I'll tell you why. This forum is needy and doesn't take action. (Which is why im not attracted to it lol) I love the idea of a place to discuss pick up but guys.

    Why are getting into game? What you will realize that as you go deeper into the rabbit hole that is pick up you'll find it was never about that girl in your bio class or your ex or your childhood friend. Its about taking charge of your life and living a LIFESTYLE that incorporates abundance with women and inner confidence.

    SO heed my warning. DON"T make it about that one girl and that one date and that one interaction. Look at the root of your self doubt and insecurity and HANDLE it. Talk to many women and get some life experience. Challenge and scare yourself. This is a JOURNEY not a quick fix and I think its the most important thing to realize if you ever want success with women. You know what to do
    What you need will not come quickly. WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS WHAT YOU FEAR. Take comfort that what you seek is there. But you will NEVER have it if you keep being a p$ssy.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Nice post. It took me a while but my Mindset is now changing. Changes in life always were negative ones so it will take another while until my strong AFC gets weaker than the new me. But good things take their time. I have wasted like seven years without making contact with females so why rush now?

    And with taking time I do not mean staying at home! I mean going out. Just approaching and let come what comes. After a while I will adapt my goals. And now or then I will achieve them. If in two months or years, it just matters that it is done!

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Dude, seriously there is more to picking up girls than just being confident. It's how you use your confidence, and the certain skills learned that will make you all the more lethal when it comes to picking up women.

    But yes, from a far it's about confidence and how you conduct yourself.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    People come to PUA because they want their Oneitis. They should leave with a Mindset into which a Oneitis simply does not fit.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    I can't say, for myself, that the reason I got into it was for one girl. I just simply like to learn stuff like this lol. But I will say that once I became skilled it was very satisfying to actually pull some of those girls in my past that I was stuck in the friendzone with for years. Very satisfying indeed lol.
    "All things are subject to interpretation. Whichever interpretation prevails at a given time is a function of power and not truth."

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    I too came here to try and get myself from the friend zone but in the 2 or so weeks since i first wrote my introduction, i've since read completely through "The Natural" and im in the process of reading "The game" and "rules of the game" and i've seen several of mysteries workshop videos. all in all im finally working on making my self better, not just for the sex but for my own happiness.

    thats not to say I've had any success yet (i sat at a food court today for an hour trying to get my self to talk to people, unseccessfully btw) but i'm learning that i wont ever really know wat will happen till i grow a pair and do something.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Quote Originally Posted by Devil_dog View Post
    I don't come on this forum much often anymore and I'll tell you why. This forum is needy and doesn't take action. (Which is why im not attracted to it lol) I love the idea of a place to discuss pick up but guys.

    Why are getting into game? What you will realize that as you go deeper into the rabbit hole that is pick up you'll find it was never about that girl in your bio class or your ex or your childhood friend. Its about taking charge of your life and living a LIFESTYLE that incorporates abundance with women and inner confidence.

    SO heed my warning. DON"T make it about that one girl and that one date and that one interaction. Look at the root of your self doubt and insecurity and HANDLE it. Talk to many women and get some life experience. Challenge and scare yourself. This is a JOURNEY not a quick fix and I think its the most important thing to realize if you ever want success with women. You know what to do

    Yeah bro down and dirty just the way I like it. We all know what we need to hear but we like our little safe zones, circles of comfort, certain ways of doing things, not talking to people is easy, etc. However when you mentioned that it really shuts me up since I know I haven't been living the way I should be living. Just yesterday saw a banging 9 walking out the store "perfect moment to approach" isolated, hot, super rich, dressed well, fancy car, even fancy bags, man what a woman! And what did I do? Oh there is an old dude there I can't approach her. Yeah like a little rabbit boned out again due to insecurity. I have done 100 approaches now which is like the magic number for me and STILL get caught off guard. Man how could this ever happen?

    But anyways yes I am very good at approaching females when I make a plan, purpose, and intention of going out but these one-off scenarios are killing my confidence. I need to up my game and stop being such a little weak AFC. My plan, purpose, and intention for next year is intense hitting up Pool Parties, Holiday Events, Bars, Clubs, Water Parks, Amusement Parks, Street Game, Outdoor Malls. Essentially I will be swimming in chicks next year and going to be so drained hitting it hard but day game and Night Game will share no quarter. I am doing this because I falsely think "Day Game is harder" or "aa can't approach her" when I look back it would have been SOOO easy to approach and if I could go back I would approach and I would have the perfect thing to say but in the moment something happens you stall, you fight to breath, you struggle should I or shouldn't I. It's scary to do new things but that is the challenge for next year to get it freaking together man and never have it happen where I am chickening out due to insecurity but going for the approach, the approach at every possible time going for the approach. I am not there YET but slowly my confidence is building and the more I miss sets the more it motivates me to get better and get stronger. Not there yet..but one day? Who knows? Maybe next year I will do 200 approaches and even get some one-off scenarios in there. I could have had a sugar momma right now if me and that King Soopers chick hit it off but I guess time will tell. (On a side note on a hold till Spring/Summer when I am back in action and my Outer Game is a little tighter but I should still approach on these one-off scenarios like in the Barbor Shop, At the Store, etc)
    101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    Quote Originally Posted by Devil_dog View Post
    I don't come on this forum much often anymore and I'll tell you why. This forum is needy and doesn't take action. (Which is why im not attracted to it lol) I love the idea of a place to discuss pick up but guys.

    Why are getting into game? What you will realize that as you go deeper into the rabbit hole that is pick up you'll find it was never about that girl in your bio class or your ex or your childhood friend. Its about taking charge of your life and living a LIFESTYLE that incorporates abundance with women and inner confidence.

    SO heed my warning. DON"T make it about that one girl and that one date and that one interaction. Look at the root of your self doubt and insecurity and HANDLE it. Talk to many women and get some life experience. Challenge and scare yourself. This is a JOURNEY not a quick fix and I think its the most important thing to realize if you ever want success with women. You know what to do
    Great post. Everything true. There seems to be a lot of guys trying to fix bad sets than become good in new ones. Fixing a set is a temporary fix for a much larger problem.

    Happy to hear your feedback.

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    There may be nothing wrong with having women you truely want in your life.if one gets stuck they may seek other ways here

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    Default Re: Message for the Newbies

    I agree many guys are just learning game and not taking action because they are waiting for some epiphany where the knowledge they have accumulated will just cancel out their lack of experience! but that is impossible! you need the social experiences, and the suffering to really grow.


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