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    HeavyMetalPUA is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Exclamation Advice on Salvage Operation Needed!

    Happy Labor Day, fellow PUAs. Disaster struck recently and I'm sending an SOS to you guys.

    Over the past three months I'd been texting this girl from out of town, and building a mountain of attraction. She's a shy girl who's only slept w one person, but I slowly pulled her out of her shell until recently we were sending each other overt sexual innuendo, and she begged to meet me as soon as she was in town.

    I waited a few days before inviting her over, then picked her up last night. She insisted on baking me cookies, so we pulled out the ingredients. We got 90% of the way through baking and were missing one ingredient so had to abort. She was distraught.

    I offered her wine to take to the balcony, and she refused to drink so I didn't force it. We chatted on the balcony- I referred back to our innuendo texts playfully, and she wasn't biting. Finally, I tried reverse psychology by telling her to come to my bedroom to watch a movie, "but don't get any ideas, I'm only promising good conversation." We watched 14 minutes of The Great Gatsby and then she asked me to take her home. We barely talked on the way home and I didn't try to kiss her when I dropped her off.

    I texted her that night saying "look at our past 3 months of text history- tonight should have gone way better." She responded with "I'm sorry it didn't."

    Part of me says f*** it, plenty of fish in the sea, but my inner PUA wants to know what happened to that mountain of attraction I built up.

    Thoughts, and ideas on salvaging the relationship?

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    Default Re: Advice on Salvage Operation Needed!

    Would have gone to get that ingredient personally. Venue change, impression of more time spent together, blablabla, could have been a game changer.

    From the whole thing, it seems your frame was incongruent. There is no reason for her not to be responsive if you had been the same as in the texts.

    Also, seems you didn't escalate. Big no no. Better to escalate too early than not at all. If she's interested, she'll stick around and tell you to slow down. If she's not, well you weren't getting shit that night, so time saved.

    Last text was a mistake IMHO. Should have let her contact you.

    I frankly don't believe in salvaging failed dates, but try a hail mary bar text meetup or something.

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    sirprize is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Advice on Salvage Operation Needed!

    Yeah, you blew it by not getting what she needed to make the cookies, imo. Be a man that provides and you'll be eating more than just her cookies. Could've used the time while baking to talk about how hot the oven is and transition/escalate from there.

    Maybe try going cold for a while and then randomly text her something like, "hey, guess what i found!" Wait for reply, then tell her you found the missing ingredient. Then ask for her recipe or something along those lines to get the ball rolling again.

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    EntertheAlpha is offline Aspiring PUA
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    Default Re: Advice on Salvage Operation Needed!

    Dude, you didn't make a move. What do you expect, her to start making out with you? Lol.

    If you haven't spent time with her you have to FIRST make her comfortable with your touch. Things like hugs, hand holding, high fives, dancing, etc. AKA 'physical rapport'

    THEN you have to sexualize with making out, feeling around ... you get the drift.

    You just didn't make the move dude. That was your mistake.

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    HardRock is offline PUA Forums Respected Contributor
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    Default Re: Advice on Salvage Operation Needed!

    I offered her wine to take to the balcony, and she refused I tried reverse psychology by telling her to come to my bedroom to watch a movie, "but don't get any ideas, I'm only promising good conversation."
    Should have kissed at the balcony


    I referred back to our innuendo texts playfully, and she wasn't biting.
    Bad frame be in the moment.never refer to past.you may not have projected the way you would physically escalate with her yet.Next Time prepare!

    I texted her that night saying "look at our past 3 months of text history- tonight should have gone way better." She responded with "I'm sorry it didn't."
    Woah man yur outta line..next time don't give off this vibe.this is where you went wrong.you may attracted her again


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