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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    First of all as executor of few affairs i commend this lady for how she is conducting herself.She has not resorted totally to tantrums but seems to have another view of the whole issue.
    "as in am going through with this so am going to handle this "

    It is may not be best to share a pua journey with a women in some dynamics because she doesn't ask for it in the first place.it may have her question a lot on many levels.(how it was framed).

    Sometimes when one falls in love(i was when i came here) it comes with some sort of Tension especially after it hits a certain point this is where some people share deep secrets and make promises.hence letting go off past..when this happens they really really love the other party.they infact need them.

    personally i just prefer exploring more of the woman instead of dealing on a surface level.etc.

    You wnt believe some of the things i have seen in this dynamic but at that same time i see it as an opportunity to learn a bit about her.Some girls have called me out and told me why am i playing with them like that in a shaky voice.i tell them the truth.they seem to always want to know the current state.
    there was one particular girl i told her i love her prev she still posed that question at that time.

    when a woman has a problem with a relation she will often come onto you its called pacing and being sharp but when it has been about that.she may resort practical solutions etc. which is not bad

    when this feeling hits it peak they may become extremely needy or if they have attempted at this area of life knowing the consequences of that they may become highly available and become comfortable with almost anything that female.everyone has their way of dealing with this mostly the other.
    sex is nothing it can be have with the right dynamics and sometimes women would try to make plans with you,but when one is exclusive..they may be honest regarding opening things up.
    in extreme cases one may judge themselves with their 'past' and then fear it may happen to them again.
    tools may become things to get with women instead of being with them.many people have had a bit of EXPRRIENCE.but as said here connecting would not be bad at all as in with the girl if they may..

    you have to capture his attention in a different way

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    Quote Originally Posted by Mikalichov View Post
    Hey, dont be too mean with the guy.

    A guy who cheats a lot, especially if he needs to use the game to do it, he probably just has confidence issues, no matters what he says. It helps him get validation, he needs girls approving him to feel good about himself

    So yeah, it sucks for you, and we're sorry you feel like that. But he's not a douche or even a bad guy, just a guy who tries to feel better about himself

    I don't understand the bolded part. How does a guy pick up a woman without game? Yes, it can happen, women do approach men, but throughout history, "game" has just been a word to describe the means of making a relationship.

    I'm guessing you mean "the game" in reference to the "pick-up community", such as this medium (puaforums). Even if so, that still doesn't make sense. The techniques and ideals, on here, are just probes into the most basic of positive physiological and psychological stimuli. This isn't reinventing the wheel. It's giving others the tools and knowledge to easily build a wheel. Other wheels will continue to be built just as well and maybe easier, without ever knowing the instructions we provide.


    There are a lot of reasons for infidelity. You listed one of; not THE ONE. I understand that is what drove you to the behavior, but trying to simplify a complex action using one emotion (from one example) is not going to prove cause and effect.

    I agree it has a lot more to do with him than her, but she has proven to be an enabler. Humans are consequence driven. You wouldn't hit yourself, as hard as you can, with a hammer, because you know there would be pain and likely injury. If you knew there was no pain or injury, you would likely hit yourself with a hammer. She has allowed him to go out and sample the forbidden fruit without real consequence. There is some argument about being "wired" a certain way, but that's a deeper discussion, for another time.
    I have failed more than most men have tried.

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    MiaS....you mentioned a messed up child hood. Do you think it is an ingredient in what is happening to you now?

    As for the guy cheating on you....there shouldn't be an excuse if you are treating him with admiration and respect. Sure.....the "not being happy" is an excuse for him, but either he doesn't know what happiness is, or he is ingrained with this "cheating" attitude from what he saw in his own family or what he sees on TV and the man being happy because of it. Neither will make him happy unless he is just a superficial character. If you want some spiritual guidance, read Ephesians. It might help if you have some Christian background because it will give you strength in what the man you fall in love with should provide you. This guy is not providing you with anything by being good in bed.

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    I do think my childhood is an ingredient bc I was used to being on an emotional rollercoaster at home- not in a fun or good way. Then when I got older and boys showed interest in me I just would have these semi-serious relationships and get my validation from the guy.
    I am thinking my bf's harsh negging and then extreme kindness, even the cheating and then kissing my ass to get me back- it was basically my life when I was growing up. Although obv my parent didn't cheat on me, they were just not sober and treated me like crap, and then when they were sober, they were nice (usually). Seems like this is mirroring that. I know it's not right, but I am finding it almost impossible to pull myself out of this. Luckily, most of my bfs treated me well- I guess I just got extra hooked on this one because of the familiarity to my past.

    I am enabling him. Of course now he is all "reformed" and being kind of a good bf, (as far as I know) but I believe it's only a matter of time before he slips again. And then I will be even more hurt. And unfortunately, he is not kid.

    I kept thinking my love would be enough to fix him- that he just needed kindness and he would eventually come around, but I'm starting to realize this is probably beyond my control.

    He's a bit of a loner too. That's another part of the problem, as if the cheating wasn't bad enough. When it's good with him, it's really good, but then sometimes he is just so odd and difficult.

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    theres is nothing wrong with thinking on a practical level..some people may never change.

    in such dynamics they are too available almost comfortable with anything female.

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    Can you explain a little more please?

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    sex may have been explored by many people before now and then.almost every method has been exploited.theres nothing new sort of.its just takes tweaking a few parameters.and the kind of person your are to the other party.thus a lot out there.maybe not but yh...

    the other party loves you and really cares for you thus kissing up to you to get back at you.needs you.when Tension was high and couldn't hold it told you about his past and framed it some way.sometimes availability may come from fear of past failure or that it may be done to him etc..others resort to neediness or going on any women, its like they can't control themselves or hold ground even though they deeply love the other party so much.its a weakness sort of.maybe not but yh

    you may stick to him

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    I did it last night. I broke up with him. At first I thought I would die of sadness, but I think I'm okay.

    whoa..this is intense.

    Thanks again for everyone's support. You gave solid advice. Seriously. There are some good people on here

    Now I need to stay strong so I don't go crawling back.

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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    Yayyyy!!!!!

    Go distract yourself with other friends and preferably at least talking to other boys.

    Youre going to feel a lot of emotions and you can't "logically" shut them away because they are not logical emotions. You need to replace them with other friends and feelings
    Never need praise, sympathy, or approval



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    Default Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help

    Quote Originally Posted by MiaS View Post
    Hey

    I'm sorry for this unusual question, I'm hoping someone here can help me out.

    The guy I'm dating is heavy into the seduction community- prior to that he was not so good with women. He successfully seduced the hell out of me and I'm completely addicted to him. I'm in love with him. The problem is, he's not really a "good guy". He has screwed me over...he doesn't even treat me that well. Even so, I'm wrapped around his finger.

    My self-esteem is plummeting, this is screwing up my life in ways that I don't even want to go into. I feel like if it ends with him I will barely be able to pick up the pieces. I'm really in love with him. He loves me too, but like I said, he's not really a good person.

    They teach guys how to get a girl sexually addicted. Does anyone know how a girl can get herself UN-addicted?

    If I can offer advice to any of you in return- I will...but you have to promise not to use it in a malicious way like my guy did.

    Thanks so much in advance for any help
    Mia
    if he is not a good guy, then why do you keep in touch with him, wow, i think he is not bad, though not as good as you would think


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