Re: I'm sexually addicted to my boyfriend- help
Originally Posted by Mikalichov
I don't understand the bolded part. How does a guy pick up a woman without game? Yes, it can happen, women do approach men, but throughout history, "game" has just been a word to describe the means of making a relationship.
I'm guessing you mean "the game" in reference to the "pick-up community", such as this medium (puaforums). Even if so, that still doesn't make sense. The techniques and ideals, on here, are just probes into the most basic of positive physiological and psychological stimuli. This isn't reinventing the wheel. It's giving others the tools and knowledge to easily build a wheel. Other wheels will continue to be built just as well and maybe easier, without ever knowing the instructions we provide.
There are a lot of reasons for infidelity. You listed one of; not THE ONE. I understand that is what drove you to the behavior, but trying to simplify a complex action using one emotion (from one example) is not going to prove cause and effect.
I agree it has a lot more to do with him than her, but she has proven to be an enabler. Humans are consequence driven. You wouldn't hit yourself, as hard as you can, with a hammer, because you know there would be pain and likely injury. If you knew there was no pain or injury, you would likely hit yourself with a hammer. She has allowed him to go out and sample the forbidden fruit without real consequence. There is some argument about being "wired" a certain way, but that's a deeper discussion, for another time.
I have failed more than most men have tried.
Every woman you pass up is a woman you will never have.