Have you guys ever had a problem turning a HB you picked up into your girlfriend?
That's pretty much what happened me - actually, the bad closure just has happened. I picked her up at one of my firsts sarging (detailed it in some other topic) #-closed; 1st date: coffee & some drink with kissing-close; 2nd date: play some billiard and have some drink at my place, she stayed here for the night, but no sex, only some petting; 3rd date: f-close. Actually, in the week of the 3rd date, we met another 2 times - that's 3 dates in one week. As for me, it's pretty intense, I don't usually met that many time with some of my exes either. Perhaps that's why I though it's getting pretty serious - she was smart, funny and really sexy, everything went great. We had sex one more time, but that night, something went pretty wrong. We started talking about how serious it is, and she just flaked, or something like that - it was fucking surreal.
By that point, I start leaving the PUA stuff and thinking - I really consider her as my future-girlfriend, and I thought there's no need to use strategies or anything like that. So we started talking about how serious it's going to be and stuffs - but she just got confused, said that se didn't know what she want, she didn't know if she want me as her boyfriend, it would developed or not later. After this night, we met a couple hour ago - she said that she didn't feel as good as she felt before, when she is with me, and that after that night, she is feeling inconvenient with me. Finally, we discussed that the prolem is, that she didn't wanna know if it would change in the future - so we said goodbye.
I believe that I made some mistake. Maybe I opened myself too much, stated that I want her as my girlfriend - maybe I shouldn't have done that. She had ended her 3 year old relationship a couple month ago (just like I did), and she got pretty intense when she talked about it and her ex - although I didn't ask her about him at all. What's more she is still friend with him, seeing him frequently etc. So maybe that's an other reason, too.
But actually, I'm a bit confused, and to be honest, sad. From one part, I F-closed a girl, who was pretty much the first one who I picked up using PUA stuffs. On the other hand, I really cared about her and I though that everything went well. Somehow I believe I'm not the only one who got too much attached to his first trophy - I consider it as a typicall Aspiring PUA-mistake, lol, I dont know why.
But I hope it get better and I can impreove myself, and learn a lot from this case. And actually, thank YOU guys, I was constantly asking You, how to text her, what to do in the first date and stuffs, so, thanks again. I know I have to move on and keep sarging.