Re: Fear of success and self sabotage
Well I certainly feel where you are coming from, sounds like you might be younger. This happened to me a lot during my 20's girls stumped me and I was girl crazy. Now many times lost it sometimes completely looking like a jerk. Anyways now in my 30's going to get back in the game and generally I feel less needy like I am going to do less work to get chicks.
In essence I used to always be hitting on the girls at Work, Church, The Mall and so forth but now I meet so many chicks in the Bars, Clubs, Concerts, Holiday Events, Outdoor Malls I am no longer worried about "finding" an HB.
Let's take for instance my current feelings, I have a new target at the Buckle and while I think I should at least try to talk to her I think I will be playing hard to get myself and stop with all this puppy dog stuff of pretending and I will just be more frank and always approach her when I can but also not approach or devise something if it gets crazy.
Basically I am not worried about this new Buckle chick or even closing her cuz the Bars, Clubs for meeting chicks, making out, and getting numbers is so easy and no many girls don't even drink there.
But I feel like Night Game is so easy to approach right now so I am focusing on day game which can be slower depending on the month. Now that's why the new chick at the Buckle will be a fun little experiment over the next couple of month's time. Sure I will be doing super sets when Summer comes again but I am focusing on this Buckle chick now cuz it is a challenge and will let you guys know how I progress.
But I used to always self-sabotage with the Buckle girls is what I am saying. 3 Buckle Girls lifetime approached and most of them shut me down due to AFC behavior. It was a self-sabotage my aa and oneitis at its worst in these cases. I pre-planned every convo in my head and it came out like a funk machine and a stinky rhythm. So onto number 4 again I could go Night Game any time and go approach crazy but I am afraid of becoming a one trick pony so I need to up my skills for Day or Night.
That being said Hired Guns are the hardest targets I have noticed to approach and Day time more challenging than Night time. So either way I left my first "hook" on a Buckle girl so let's see if it sticks and she sticks around. I will observe many things does she ignore me, is she pissed, will she write me off, etc. I have a little of a bad rep there cuz I went AFC on the last Buckle girl and called the store and said I would come see her Friday but flaked on her and next time Christi gave me the look of death and wrote me off, turned her back, ignored me, looked pissed, all signs of IODs so it's hard to say cuz the new girl likes me but the old one hates me so I am probably overthinking but at the very least I think my Social Proof is royally screwed as previous AFC signs, so I think it will be harder to game the new one due to that but we'll see soon enough. Hitting it up next week, maybe I'll get lucky and she'll be there.
101 Sets, 30 #'s, 4 K-closes, 1 Date, 1 Bar Pull. My next adventure starts Summer 2014 at the Brewfest, Water Park, Bars, Clubs, etc. Getting Hotels now to prevent driving drunk so really only 2-3 times a month doing Night Game June-Oct. Lots of Day Game.