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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    she is a normal girl, normal girls get buyers remorse from one night stands. she probably feels kind of guilty about it. seeing you just reminds her of what she did while she was drunk.

    yes you can get friend zoned after an f-close. hell you can get friend zoned after being married for 10 years.

    you're not all that important to her just because she hooked up with you.

    and now you're developing feelings witch are causing needy behavior, witch is just turning her off even more.

    odds are she has multiple men in her life, you're not very important to her, so why should you make her all that important in your life.

    on another note, oftentimes pua causes you to look more appealing at first, but the illusion can't be kept for more than a short period of time. this is why you will find that many pua's are great at getting one night stands, but have a hard time keeping relationships.

    be happy that you hooked up with her, now you just have to move on and bang other chicks. odds are you won't be hooking up again anytime soon.

    btw congrats on losing your v-card, welcome to the club
    I agree, but she's also been texting me etc on her own accord.

    I think you're right about turning off the needy behaviour. I'm going to assume I'm not hooking up with her again and focus on other prospects for now so I'm not outcome-focused when I'm around her.

    Weirdly enough I know the other men in her life (we were friends before) and only the guy who she had sex with the night after is a real contender, and he first night f-closed so its a new thing between them. We both go to a very small school where everyone knows everyone's business. But I guess none of that really matters! (no sarcasm)

    thanks for your advice I think you're right about a lot of it and I will definitely take your advice

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    BIG UPDATE boys, kind of a shameful one for me. Alcohol really fucked me over on this.

    Like I said she lives across my hall in the dorms. I slept over at a freshmen's room on Friday (HB9 couldn't go out that night due to sickness) and made it known by slipping into conversation that 'I left my wallet in [dorm name for strictly freshmen students]'. Anyways, with some help from friends we were able to make it blaringly obvious to her that I hooked up with another girl on Friday in a very subtle way that she definitely didn't suspect at all. She probably thinks she's some sort of detective for putting it together.

    Changes with her attitude were immediately noticeable - within the hour she began acting more interested in me, coming to my room, asking when I would text her, and if I wanted to go to Starbucks with her (I declined). She came back and stuck around in my room, took me and my friends to go get alcohol, went to eat, etc and complied with everything. Basically, I had a guaranteed f-close that night.

    We started pre-gaming with the alcohol we bought together, and I ended up much more drunk than I should have been straight off the bat. Basically I came on too strong that night (I told her maybe 2x that night I wanted to sleep with her after k-closing a few times and dancing - I know I know, I was fucking up) and she wasn't as drunk as me so I'm sure I came off like an asshole/tactless.

    Anyways, she called the other guy and they met up and fucked that night. As I type this I cringe because even my buddies knew how easy it should have been to fuck her that night. I hung out with the rest of our friends (in that friend group, she's part of the immediate friend group) for the rest of the night before sleeping. No action whatsoever. She knows I saw and know, she knows I probably feel salty about it.

    So boys, where do I go from here? She reacted to the whole 'me hooking up with a freshman' situation and came back to me (stronger than ever), but I managed to ruin that the same night. I haven't seen nor talked to her since (despite her living across the hall), but I think she did see that she got a reaction out of me by fucking the other guy. The alcohol brought out the AFC in me and I'm never going to sabotage myself like that again.

    Do I approach her? Avoid her for a while? Act like nothing happened? She's fucked this guy 2x without me doing anything in between except for some k-closes on her that night and fucking her before he ever came around. Should I apologize for being an asshole? In person/text? I'm inevitably going to see her again as she lives across my hall and we have the same group of friends that goes out 1-2x to parties together every weekend.

    Mannnnn I have never fucked up like this and seriously have no idea on how to act. Never again will I drink like that for a pregame

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Yea you fvcked up royally and I'm almost hesitant to give you advice so you will learn next time so you act responsible.

    Don't be a pu$$y and apologize. She is the typical type of girl who is attracted to your alpha male. A girl like that will forgive you for being a typical dumb college kid who gets drunk, but not for being a pussy.

    If you run into her by chance, converse with her as if nothing happened or as if you don't remember.

    Personally, I wouldn't be in a rush to contact her. Sounds like you need to work on your self-development and inner game before getting ass or else no matter what we tell you, you are going to fvck up somewhere. Not only that your sex game is going to need work too if you want to get girls addicted and coming back for more. I would use that time away to start doing your diligence and reading up on some PUA books if you are serious about this art. Forums can only go so far.

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    Yea you fvcked up royally and I'm almost hesitant to give you advice so you will learn next time so you act responsible.

    Don't be a pu$$y and apologize. She is the typical type of girl who is attracted to your alpha male. A girl like that will forgive you for being a typical dumb college kid who gets drunk, but not for being a pussy.

    If you run into her by chance, converse with her as if nothing happened or as if you don't remember.

    Personally, I wouldn't be in a rush to contact her. Sounds like you need to work on your self-development and inner game before getting ass or else no matter what we tell you, you are going to fvck up somewhere. Not only that your sex game is going to need work too if you want to get girls addicted and coming back for more. I would use that time away to start doing your diligence and reading up on some PUA books if you are serious about this art. Forums can only go so far.
    I am serious about this!! This experience showed me truly how much I have to learn. I threw away an almost GUARANTEED F-close from a solid 8.5-9 that I lost my virginity to - there is nothing else to be said.

    Anyways, do you have anything you recommend for me to read? Appreciate you guys more than you really know - feels like you guys are my big brothers that I can count on to slap some sense into me. That type of support is why I like the forums so much.

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    I can recommend some good literature. Some you gotta pay for as I have a library of things I read.

    Not sure what the policy is on the forums on endorsing/recommending certain books, but I know you can get banned for distributing it.

    Anyways,

    For text game, I recommend Bobby Rio's Magnetic Messaging and Race Depriest b4utxther.

    I also recommend MeHow's guide to 3 second attraction. It builds on the foundation of mystery's attraction/comfort and breaks it down on how to speak to women in the language of emotion and stimulate their minds to create a serendipity effect. (Most guys don't know how to do this).

    For innergame, I recommend googling Mark Manson's true confidence.

    Robert Elise "How to meet and connect with women" gives a broad overview on approach. It's free if you google search it.

    For online dating, Cajun has a pretty good guide called "Cajun's guide to online dating."

    Also read up on the free guides on the forum here. After a while, things will start to all connect.

    Perhaps some other guys on here can chime in.

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Should I apologize for being an asshole?
    hell no!

    if you're going to be an asshole you have to be unapologetic about it.

    I'm sure I came off like an asshole/tactless.
    you care way too much about what this girl thinks. stop caring and start farking.

    I threw away an almost GUARANTEED F-close from a solid 8.5-9 that I lost my virginity to - there is nothing else to be said.
    theres no such thing as a guaranteed f-close. you could be married to her, and there's still a chance that she won't fark you on valentines day.

    do you have anything you recommend for me to read?
    "How to meet and connect with women" is my favorite pua book too. (followed closely by david de angelo's " double your dating" and david x's "be relentless")

    btw
    Not sure what the policy is on the forums on endorsing/recommending certain books, but I know you can get banned for distributing it.
    you can endorse books and products, as long as you aren't trying to sell them to people. what do you think the "recommended self improvement books" section of this forum is for?

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Quote Originally Posted by I.M.Mortal View Post
    I can recommend some good literature. Some you gotta pay for as I have a library of things I read.

    Not sure what the policy is on the forums on endorsing/recommending certain books, but I know you can get banned for distributing it.

    Anyways,

    For text game, I recommend Bobby Rio's Magnetic Messaging and Race Depriest b4utxther.

    I also recommend MeHow's guide to 3 second attraction. It builds on the foundation of mystery's attraction/comfort and breaks it down on how to speak to women in the language of emotion and stimulate their minds to create a serendipity effect. (Most guys don't know how to do this).

    For innergame, I recommend googling Mark Manson's true confidence.

    Robert Elise "How to meet and connect with women" gives a broad overview on approach. It's free if you google search it.

    For online dating, Cajun has a pretty good guide called "Cajun's guide to online dating."

    Also read up on the free guides on the forum here. After a while, things will start to all connect.

    Perhaps some other guys on here can chime in.
    Thanks man - will do. Appreciate your insight and yeah - if anyone else wants to add to my reading list I will gladly accept any advice!

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Quote Originally Posted by meteora View Post
    hell no!

    if you're going to be an asshole you have to be unapologetic about it.


    you care way too much about what this girl thinks. stop caring and start farking.



    theres no such thing as a guaranteed f-close. you could be married to her, and there's still a chance that she won't fark you on valentines day.



    "How to meet and connect with women" is my favorite pua book too. (followed closely by david de angelo's " double your dating" and david x's "be relentless")

    btw


    you can endorse books and products, as long as you aren't trying to sell them to people. what do you think the "recommended self improvement books" section of this forum is for?
    Ok great - so no apologies. I can do that. I'm not one to apologize about stuff like that anyways, so it would have taken some work for me to sound natural anyways.

    Appreciate your insight as well man

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Honestly you f*cked up because you said "I want to sleep with you". If you would have said "I'm going to F you" you would be fine. I've said stuff like that to girls after I made out with them and I ALWAYS close. You just have to look them straight in the eye and tell them, in a very direct way, what you ARE going to do to them.

    Honestly she could have just done that to see how you would react. She is a young college girl. Young college girls will do stupid stuff like that. It's like a "Oh he hooked up with so and so? Lets see if I can get him back then go f this guy". I'm not saying you couldn't have f-closed her because you could have, I'm saying you could have thought it was easier than it really was.

    I've learned through experience that women will do some messed up things. They will purposely try to make you jealous and literally hook up with some guy they don't care about for spite. If they feel like you "hurt" them they will try to hurt you as MUCH as they can. They will lead guys on for fun. That's just the way it is. Not all women are like this, but more of them are than you think.

    Remember that. I'm not trying to scare you but I've dated some messed up women. The younger, more insecure they are, the more likely they are to pull shenanigans.

    Recommended book: The Manual: What women want and how to give it to them. I really don't see anyone recommending this book on here and it is THE best book I've read so far. It doesn't talk about lines or any b.s. like that. It's all about the psychology of women and how you should act. David X "be relentless" is also very good.

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    Default Re: F-Close HB9 x3 (lost my vc!) then an immediate interception

    Quote Originally Posted by DirectIsBest View Post
    Honestly you f*cked up because you said "I want to sleep with you". If you would have said "I'm going to F you" you would be fine. I've said stuff like that to girls after I made out with them and I ALWAYS close. You just have to look them straight in the eye and tell them, in a very direct way, what you ARE going to do to them.

    Honestly she could have just done that to see how you would react. She is a young college girl. Young college girls will do stupid stuff like that. It's like a "Oh he hooked up with so and so? Lets see if I can get him back then go f this guy". I'm not saying you couldn't have f-closed her because you could have, I'm saying you could have thought it was easier than it really was.

    I've learned through experience that women will do some messed up things. They will purposely try to make you jealous and literally hook up with some guy they don't care about for spite. If they feel like you "hurt" them they will try to hurt you as MUCH as they can. They will lead guys on for fun. That's just the way it is. Not all women are like this, but more of them are than you think.

    Remember that. I'm not trying to scare you but I've dated some messed up women. The younger, more insecure they are, the more likely they are to pull shenanigans.

    Recommended book: The Manual: What women want and how to give it to them. I really don't see anyone recommending this book on here and it is THE best book I've read so far. It doesn't talk about lines or any b.s. like that. It's all about the psychology of women and how you should act. David X "be relentless" is also very good.
    I feel like I say something along these lines every time I see a good post in one of my threads - but this was the post I was looking for!! Thank you. Allow me to add some additional information from the night.

    I DID say something along the lines of "I'm going to fark you so hard tonight" and "I already know that I'm sleeping over so .." I MAY have also said "I WANT to fark you tonight" as well, but like I said I was pretty drunk so I don't really remember exactly what I said. From what I remember she reacted pretty well to that (whispering "oohhh really?"), but I came on pretty hard (going in for more kisses than her regardless of her reaction etc) so she def knew that she could get me in bed that night if she wanted to.

    I probably did some stupid shit that night as well, possible dlv's

    After the guy (who farked her that night) joined our group I almost left the group to walk to the freshman dorms (where the other girl was) because I had forgotten my wallet there the other night, and I didn't want HB9 seeing me get angry/salty (which my drunk ass was, but they were walking well ahead so I'm not sure if they knew or not).

    Anyways, my friend convinced me that would be seen as an even bigger reaction and I should just go back to my dorm and chill (we all live in the same dorms so basically I walked home empty handed with the group including the HB9 and the dude who farked her).

    I've noticed that this night and the other night that the other dude farked her, she won't directly kiss him if she knows I'm looking in their direction. She sometimes seems to be gauging my reaction when he's around, but I can't be sure. I can't be sure because when I try to talk to her when he's around, she sort of blows me off as well. Finally, I noticed that she adds the songs I like from that night to her online playlist the day after, even after she farked the other guy. Could be coincidence or whatever, but I think you might be right about her.

    Edit: Feel like I'm dissecting this too much and looking too deep again. I'm just going to act like she's doing this to spite me because that's my instinct


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