I've created a situation where a girl feels no urgency to make a decision to have sex. I want to create that urgency.
Been having oral sex 5 weeks. For last 4 weeks she says she's not ready to have intercourse. I always say ok I put no pressure on her.
Problem is that by showing there is no pressure this teaches her I will stick around and that she has no urgency to make a decision. I want to change that. I want her to fear I "might" leave - and therefore force her to make up her mind now - in an indirect way without actually threatening to leave.
I have not tried freezout yet but will do so each next time.
The only things I. can think of are to either see other people (fear, jealousy) or tell her this situation isn't working for me without sex (is make a threat)
We are exclusive- I could not get her clothes off without agreeing to be exclusive. I see now that agreeing to be exclusive takes away my leverage and give her more power.
So... While being exclusive with her and without threatening to leave how can I create urgency to make up her mind.