hanging out with a girl often at night on my couch, things kept escalating each time. now she isnt even touching anymore, but still likes to come over and lightly kiss.
met a girl on tinder and she has seemed very interested since day one where we met at a bar. kissed on second date. third date and onward she has been coming over and watching movies at my place at night. she says she isnt interested in anything serious, but texts me everyday and almost everyday asks to hang out. i am almost never the first person to text or to talk about hanging out. this started almost 2 weeks ago and we have hung out around 7-8 times.
whenever she comes over i put my arm around her on the couch and she wraps herself around me in a sort of close cuddling position. whenever we start making out though, she stops and says "i am behaving myself. im a good girl" or "i am restraining myself." the most we have ever made out decently was probably less than 2 minutes before she pulled back and stopped.
yet, when on the couch watching movies she has lightly felt my d*** over the pants. she has even made a few remarks about how big it is and said "how are you single with that thing?". one of the next times we hung out i had my hand under her bra and she was feeling IT under my pants while casually watching the movie (she still would make remarks about the film during this). i tried slipping her hand under my boxers and she pulled back, but felt it over them again.
the next night she messaged me at midnight saying she was hanging out with friends and to come over. i was too tired to drive across town and told her i was going to bed. she said if i changed my mind i could always "stay over here *wink*". i didnt answer.
the next day she texted and half invited herself over for that evening. i thought for sure things would escalate. but i kept getting the pull back on the makeouts and she didnt even touch me at all like she had been. thought she was going to sleep over as it was 3am and we were watching a film in a blanket and she was about to fall asleep, but she said she had to take off because she needed to get good sleep that night in her bed. she texted me a couple minutes after she left saying "sorry, i am super tired and have allergies. ill make it up to you soon i promise ".
i assume the "sorry" is for either not staying the night or not escalating with me that night. i didnt want to come off as bitter, so i responded and said "sleep well " and she said to "sleep well also." (she always texts back. even when unneeded)
so, is she just teasing me? each time she makes me feel like the NEXT time it is it. im not being needy because she is doing all the work, im just allowing her to come over.
im guessing i should do a Freeze Out? maybe take a lot longer to answer her texts for awhile and be "busy" each night for half a week or so?
(i am new at this, this is my first post)