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Thread: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    No I'm certainly not saying I'm going to give up... its a skill and like all skills take time to develop. I know this. It just seems to be taking me a lot longer to make any progress than I would like.

    I mean approaching for the most part has ceased being an issue on the street or any time I see someone attractive unless I over think it and I seem to do okay in that regard. I seem okay at building rapport and comfort but it feels like I'm lacking the right energy or something to create an emotional connection or build attraction.

    I know that's not the case in reality and its just I haven't learned yet I just can't seem to find the right place to start, can't seem to make the right connection in my own mind. It's bloody frustrating especially as I think I'd really benefit from a boot camp or something like that but can no way afford it.

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    People are confusing "fun" and "funny." There's a difference yallz. If you know how to be a fun guy with women, they'll love you for it. Everyone wants to be around the guy who knows how to turn even mundane and boring situations fun. It's easier said then done, but if you can do it, you're in.

    One thing I've realized T-mal is that a lot of people are not fun. That's why your suggestions seem so foreign. A lot of people tend to ride their lives on neutral. Sure, people can have fun, but they don't know how to be fun. It something that takes practice, but if learned can elevate your game to a whole new level.

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    Lilsting... I think you've hit the nail on the head there with me.... I do tend to exist in neutral most of the time, though I'm trying to be different I'm certainly struggling!

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    Going against the norm, or striving not to be neutral is where different pick up styles come from. This is the very reason why you have "naturals." These are the guys who attract women because they are different whether it be the "bad boy", the "fun guy", the "Super motivated guy", etc. Even the guy who just knows how to talk to women is different. They are these things because they stick out from the social norms.

    There is no 1 way to get good with women so it's best to search within yourself and figure out your style and find a style already out there that most relates to your personality. If there's nothing like that out there, don't fret, just create your own style. How? Practice. Utilize the basics, go out and talk to people and you'll naturally develop your own style through trial and error. This will make you the MOST congruent, but it takes time.

    So Vidar, don't be to hard on yourself. You are in a spot where most of the population of this earth resides, neutral. The difference is you recognize this, and this already separates you. You'll naturally become different the more you practice. I guarantee that from the moment you started pickup, if you made at least 10 approaches a week you'd be in a very good place right now.

    Lastly, neutral is not a bad thing. A lot of guys ride in neutral and they don't even realize. They go on to lead good lives, and and end up happy. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT. You're here because you want to get good with women, and the best way is to develop a style that makes you stand up from the rest. That thing could be something as small as just practicing and mastering eye contact, to something as big as adapting your persona to a style; I.e. being the fun guy, etc.

    End rant.

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    hmm you seem to understand that there are other ways as you have admitted.its cool man..relax..you were were doing a great job! apart from that one loophole inside your post either ways attraction foremost!Always..

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    i struggled with this the entire first week i was diving into inner / outer game. what i've come to realize is that fun and confident can mean many things. if your words don't sound fun or confident maybe its what you do in context. if you dont have a nick name for her its ok, maybe it's time to play a text game where she can invest in while having fun. what's key is that if she's having fun--you're having fun.


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