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    Default T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    Wanna create that seemingly "elusive emotional connection" with a girl?

    Here's the way to do it...

    First of all, save "conversations" for a later time...
    The ONLY thing you need to do in the very beginning is FLIRT. Period.
    "Attraction" will get you much further along than rapport, in the beginning stages.

    Flirting is FUN... and when a girl is having fun, she's going to be more agreeable to your suggestions.

    "Dates" almost always go wrong or fizzle out when a guy rushes to set it up. He wants to ":ask her out" right away because he's all excited... but he fails to build any attraction / curiosity but rather, he has "good conversations" about work, or school, or common interests like music & movies... etc.

    That's FANTASTIC..... if you want to be her "friend".

    But if you wanna be MORE THAN that, you have to make it clear from the very beginning. You have to be confident, bold & FUN.

    Why do people play games(whatever type they may be)?
    Because, they're meant to be FUN! So, why would fun be excluded from THIS game?
    It shouldn't be.

    If you're rushing into the meetup with a girl, you're missing a HUGE part of the fun... the flirting!

    Flirting is mental & emotional foreplay... which is MUCH more effective than physical foreplay.

    THAT is how you establish an emotional connection.
    The mind & emotions are interconnected... which also magnifies physical attraction / connection.

    Remember this: "Stimulate the mind & the body will follow"
    Or
    "Seduce the mind & you can have the body"


    Learn the art of teasing / anticipation.
    Learn to become bolder & more confident.

    Express your ideas, thoughts & opinions freely, but tactfully. (Nobody likes an overbearing, belligerent @sshole.)
    However; a confident, well-spoken man, who also has a sense of humor & a knack for sarcasm & quick witted intelligence, is a CHICK MAGNET.

    Drop the interview conversations you seem to be having, and concentrate on FUN interactions. It's OK to push the limits a little.. just don't be overtly sexual at first, or it will be creepy.

    "Cocky-funny" does work like a charm in moderation, as long as you have confidence to back it up. (But you STILL need some humbleness & humility.)

    Women are attracted to confidence, humor, and leadership ability. (Alpha qualities) "Looks" are NOT as important as a guy might originally think. Looks are like a nice "side dish" or "appetizer" to accompany the "main course".
    (They're nice to get, but not necessary for an amazing meal)



    But, to sum it all up:
    Avoid the mundane, boring, every-day chit chat about school, work, music, movies, TV, weather, etc...
    (Anything that sounds / feels remotely like a job interview.)

    Why? How do YOU feel when people ask YOU about those things?

    However; if someone made comments to you that you're such a klutz / accident prone if you spill a drink... how do you feel? Probably get a quick adrenaline surge & butterflies in your stomach?

    Or.... what if you make some other mistake & someone "teases" you about it?...
    Do you get a little red faced & a little "hot flash?"
    Probably... and THAT is an emotional connection / reaction.

    When a GUY can make a GIRL have those same feelings, she's gonna notice him, because he's not the typical, boring schmuck who always talks about work, school, music, movies. etc.

    It's exciting when someone notices something different about you... or is bold enough to say something to catch you off-guard occasionally. "Excitement" is an emotion.

    It's totally OK to make semi-sexual comments / innuendos in the very beginning. Just don't give off The Vibe that you're nervous about doing that; if you do, you're screwed! (& not in a good way!)

    All this said- the most important thing to remember is, AVOID THE TYPICAL.
    Whatever seems "safe" is gonna make things harder for you.

    Trust me.
    Step up, Man up & leave the lame crap for the lame guys.

    It's YOUR choice / decision as to what your success is.
    Are you gonna play it safe & make "minimum wage" all your life?

    Or are you gonna rock the boat a little bit, and shoot for the "big paycheck"?






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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    there are other ways of creating attraction.goofing around may not help

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    I think if anyone reading this takes away nothing else, it's that keeping it fun and simple will get u places.

    Being fun and keeping it simple takes little effort so you can go about it confidently. Worrying too much about topics will get u nowhere. Avoid the mundane and you will be ok
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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    I find it hard to be fun sometimes,started learning not too long ago.this post confuses me!

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    FUN is more than just goofing around.

    But building an emotional connection AND attraction is much easier with FUN stuff.

    If a guy has no clue how to have fun, I guarantee the girls will lose interest quicker than ever. (Unless he's looking for girls who also don't know how to have a good time...?) in which case, he can have ALL of them.



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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    It's true. Even when I was AFC, I could get girls to laugh easily. And it helped alot. Nowadays I know the degree of how funny I need to be and mix in cocky as well. It took me to a whole new level, but still... Making girls laugh and have fun is a good starting point.
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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    Posing fun in its entirety alone to attraction may be off.many ways exist.

    Pua goofs around a lot and then suddenly tells girl he loves her some months down the line

    Over does it since he seems to be getting off it and starts joking with everything

    a lot of people who over blow this stuff have difficultly transitioning.

    A core pua should not open his mouth and start to qualify women if they don't respond to his "jokes", that is totally inappropriate as much as disqualifying and thinking he is spot on.

    In a nutshell all girls know how to have a good time in their own way and one must not blame them when anecdotes does not have a wide appeal!

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    HardRock,
    I really like what you said here.

    There's a LOT more to "FUN" than just goofing off & telling jokes. And it's VERY easy for a guy to become a "clown" and totally go overboard, thinking he has to be the "entertainment".

    That is NOT the case, nor is it what I'm talking about, when I say "FUN" is the ultimate attraction switch.

    Think about how many things you yourself think are fun...
    For ME, it could be fishing, laser tag, a picnic, a concert, a sporting event, a cookout, cocktails, a day at the beach or pool, a trip to a museum or similar type attractions, amusement parks, etc....

    NONE of those require me to be a jokester & be "funny".
    They're just FUN situations / ideas. (And I have used ALL of those at some point, and had some amazing times & made awesome memories.)


    These are geared towards "dates" obviously, but they fit into the "FUN" category.

    I suppose there ARE other emotions a guy could use to connect with a girl... like; sadness, depressions, desperation, anger, frustration, confusion, boredom... etc.

    Those however, are NOT the connections I personally want to build.
    But all y'all are free to have at it!
    Be my guest! Crank up those emotions, & let me know how that works out for all of ya.


    Yeah, I have made those connections in the past...
    And I can sum up the experience in one word... "SUCK!"

    I'm betting MOST of you on the forums here, are too young to remember a particular song... but, do yourself a favor & Google it"

    I'm talking about Cyndi Lauper's #2 hit single (Fill in the blanks) "Girls just wanna _ _ _ _ _ _ _"

    When you figure this out, thing will begin to make more sense at the most elemental level.

    Just sayin


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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    I get what you're saying here T-mal but I'm really struggling to put this into practice... I mean I've tried to make my texts and things more fun with that one girl from my thread and build attraction but I just don't seem to be getting it right and from hitting girls up on POF again I don't seem to be getting it right...

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    Default Re: T-Mal explains "How to create an emotional connection"

    Congruence & confidence.
    THAT is what makes or breaks a guy.

    If you F**K up a few times, does that mean you should GIVE UP?

    I'm saying "no".
    But if you disagree, then by all means... give up & don't come back here.

    Or at least, skip past MY advice from now on.


    I'm gonna tell you flat out what I KNOW FROM EXPERIENCE... based on MY OWN circumstances.
    If you don't like it? Fair enough.

    I honestly don't have the time to care.

    My posts are out there for the guys who WANT TO be successful by having FUN.
    Yeah, there are other ways to success... But I personally want the quickest, easiest, most FUN way to success... And that's what I'm sharing with y'all.

    Take my advice or leave it.
    I'm STILL getting the same amount of sleep each night.


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