Wanna create that seemingly "elusive emotional connection" with a girl?
Here's the way to do it...
First of all, save "conversations" for a later time...
The ONLY thing you need to do in the very beginning is FLIRT. Period.
"Attraction" will get you much further along than rapport, in the beginning stages.
Flirting is FUN... and when a girl is having fun, she's going to be more agreeable to your suggestions.
"Dates" almost always go wrong or fizzle out when a guy rushes to set it up. He wants to ":ask her out" right away because he's all excited... but he fails to build any attraction / curiosity but rather, he has "good conversations" about work, or school, or common interests like music & movies... etc.
That's FANTASTIC..... if you want to be her "friend".
But if you wanna be MORE THAN that, you have to make it clear from the very beginning. You have to be confident, bold & FUN.
Why do people play games(whatever type they may be)?
Because, they're meant to be FUN! So, why would fun be excluded from THIS game?
It shouldn't be.
If you're rushing into the meetup with a girl, you're missing a HUGE part of the fun... the flirting!
Flirting is mental & emotional foreplay... which is MUCH more effective than physical foreplay.
THAT is how you establish an emotional connection.
The mind & emotions are interconnected... which also magnifies physical attraction / connection.
Remember this: "Stimulate the mind & the body will follow"
"Seduce the mind & you can have the body"
Learn the art of teasing / anticipation.
Learn to become bolder & more confident.
Express your ideas, thoughts & opinions freely, but tactfully. (Nobody likes an overbearing, belligerent @sshole.)
However; a confident, well-spoken man, who also has a sense of humor & a knack for sarcasm & quick witted intelligence, is a CHICK MAGNET.
Drop the interview conversations you seem to be having, and concentrate on FUN interactions. It's OK to push the limits a little.. just don't be overtly sexual at first, or it will be creepy.
"Cocky-funny" does work like a charm in moderation, as long as you have confidence to back it up. (But you STILL need some humbleness & humility.)
Women are attracted to confidence, humor, and leadership ability. (Alpha qualities) "Looks" are NOT as important as a guy might originally think. Looks are like a nice "side dish" or "appetizer" to accompany the "main course".
(They're nice to get, but not necessary for an amazing meal)
But, to sum it all up:
Avoid the mundane, boring, every-day chit chat about school, work, music, movies, TV, weather, etc...
(Anything that sounds / feels remotely like a job interview.)
Why? How do YOU feel when people ask YOU about those things?
However; if someone made comments to you that you're such a klutz / accident prone if you spill a drink... how do you feel? Probably get a quick adrenaline surge & butterflies in your stomach?
Or.... what if you make some other mistake & someone "teases" you about it?...
Do you get a little red faced & a little "hot flash?"
Probably... and THAT is an emotional connection / reaction.
When a GUY can make a GIRL have those same feelings, she's gonna notice him, because he's not the typical, boring schmuck who always talks about work, school, music, movies. etc.
It's exciting when someone notices something different about you... or is bold enough to say something to catch you off-guard occasionally. "Excitement" is an emotion.
It's totally OK to make semi-sexual comments / innuendos in the very beginning. Just don't give off The Vibe that you're nervous about doing that; if you do, you're screwed! (& not in a good way!)
All this said- the most important thing to remember is, AVOID THE TYPICAL.
Whatever seems "safe" is gonna make things harder for you.
Step up, Man up & leave the lame crap for the lame guys.
It's YOUR choice / decision as to what your success is.
Are you gonna play it safe & make "minimum wage" all your life?
Or are you gonna rock the boat a little bit, and shoot for the "big paycheck"?