Money, Looks, Game: Protecting the Status Quo
So there you have it.
Do looks matter?
I don't know why this question contains so much negative sentiment from the masses but good looks are not that common place for most males. This is why most women will settle for a well dressed man who is physically fit and stays in shape. In fact I saw an out of shape dude (sporting a nice belly) with a total bombshell today at Church but just saying.
Do looks matter? Yes they friggin matter. Women have chased me most my life because of my looks. All the new girls at work will be eyeing my jock the minute they see me walk in and ignore the rest of the bros until they shot at me. Women are friggin shallow. Sometimes I have a whole upper room in the Club just oogling me like crazy and it's degrading. I hate going to the Club and having my butt slapped by strangers, having random 6's try to hookup with me, Drunk 7's nearly pass out when I dance with them, it gets annoying. The 8-10's are the only ones that don't panic but they still scope me out hard.
But no looks aren't everything. I feel like I am a normal dude and nowhere close to where I want to be in my appearance as a man. Looks get you in the door but they don't get you in the proverbial house. I can't tell you how many times I have been played, rejected, turned down, ignored, shut down for another less attractive male. So essentially looks are shallow because it is always my game getting me farther and farther with women. I sometimes hate going out to the night spots for this reason since I am used to being violated.
Money, does it matter? Any sensible women will appreciate a man of wealth. But as the saying goes money can't buy love unless you are talking to a hooker or shallow gold digger. Money keeps the females around a lot longer than looks ever could but without game the gig is up and the women will just see you as some weak wuss hiding behind his Benjamin's. I have regularly pulled VIP table girl's, Cocktail Waitresses, Bartender's phone numbers not for my money or looks but for my game. My car? Never comes up before they reject me. My pad? They refused to come over when I was on my own. So I moved back in with Mom. For the next two years until I get my car paid off and garnishments done with. Then I can buy a new car and move out. My brother just started buying apartments so he offered one up at a discount when I am ready. Also I might have a big opportunity to become a Club Promoter next year when a new Super Club in my area opens. Either way I won't quit my day job and work two jobs if I have to since I know a a Club gig is not going to give me longevity and only for when I am young and pretty.
Either way I am happy regardless since I can always get a 2nd job somewhere else. But that's not the end of it. Since even the 45yr old cougar didn't care about my living situation. I had chicks after me like crazy while I was homeless even in my younger days and I think a stable place that let's me go out and party and pick up chicks whenever I want is pretty sweet. I didn't have this freedom at home when I was 19. But now they said I am a "grown man" and I can do whatever the fark I want as long as I don't bring them home.
Which brings me to my next point. I COULD live on my own and live with my Gay Best Friend but he has the same rule of do whatever you want but don't bring them home. So as long as I frame it right I can still be pulling hotties left and right. There's hotels, their place, camping, which gives me plenty of opportunity to snag some lays.
What about Game?
As you can see I am not anywhere close to where I want to be in life. But my Game is starting to catch fire. Which is why I am starting a dating blog eventually. But either way I am happy where I am at. But I have 5-6 tatts planned, need a new car, my own pad, etc. But my game? Getting good.
Sometimes we rate 6-10. 5 is usually a no fly zone. I have numerous chicks at work vying for my time and attention who have houses and nice cars at work who know I live at home but still want me. A 5 just asked me for the 3rd time at work for me to go to the Bar with her! 3rd time and she still can't let it go. She has a BF and a house, knows I live at home but somehow fell in love with me. I knew she would ask again I knew it. Either way I have started to rate on a curve since I have pretty good game now pretty much any girl's attention I want I can have. The 9's and 10's are a little harder so I usually only would hookup with no less than an 8. So I wouldn't fark a 7. But also some 9's are boring as fark so I wouldn't fark then either. But some 9's make me horny as hell we'll call them solid 9's and the ones I don't like 9.0's.
But this whole rating system is getting out of control since I am starting to get in touch with my emotions (inner game) I sometimes rate a chick as a 1 or 0. 1 yes would bang and 0 no would not bang. The reason for this is some advice I got since the rating system while works rating stunners it doesn't work for hipsters. I am currently dating a hipster who I met at work. We haven't been on an actual date because the poor weather screwed up our master plan but we are taking it slow and I rescheduled for another time. I can't rate this chick on the stunner/bombshell/knockout scale. But yes I would definitely hit it so she is a 1 to me to make things easier I will deploy the use of both scales.
I realized a lot with this one since I noticed I have a huge tendency to over-pursue. By texting everyday and multiple times a day since I feel stagnant by getting no responses following what's called a Freeze Out. This method has proved excessively ineffective. So sometimes it is great to engage the target by phone same day you score the number. Say you meet her day drinking and want to pivot her to the bar that night. Great reason! But not just to get your jollies off texting back and forth validation texting (with no meet up in sight). I call this Nice Guy texting and I have done it far too often. I get a girl's number and wait till next day to validation text her (approval seek) which turns them off like wildfire.
Sadly yes getting laid for me will take time and money. Why? Because girls are super attentive to me when I am setting dates and even better when I set the date before scoring the number. Until I figure SNL game it is true playing the Dating Game is a validation quest overload. Since I mostly sought validation starting out now I am upgrading my tactics as dating and it has proven to begin to work wonders for me. Now that I am all warmed up for Summer I am already potentially dating someone. I set up the date and the weather screwed it up so I left a VM day off. This was actually the first time I called (after waiting 3 days) reviving the Player rules a bit but remember pivots you can text same day and I preach very strongly to text Club rats next day and never wait longer since they have short attention spans due to lots of male competition. But for chicks like Daygame not being used as a pivot for ONS and seeing her as a good girl then you should wait 3 days to play the long game of dating and scoring later.
So with that I no longer feel the need to be validated by having a serious GF. That creates jealousy and as a PUA I need to keep up the single freedom persona especially if I want to be a Club Promoter. So yes I can have GF's but not like you think. More like FWB since a serious guy looking for a serious relationship as in Marriage wants monogamy. I however want freedom so I will keep my heart on my sleeve and be honest if I have to. The reason I think most guys play the Nice Guy route is because they are using their hard wired Marriage pursuit mentality. Yes if you want Marriage or serious GF you should absolutely be a Nice Guy BUT take it slow. Over-pursuing only works for hooking up like you met a girl that day and you want to pivot her for that night out so you text or call. A Club rat you should also pursue more aggressively since you will quickly fall by the wayside so you have to text or call the next day for a meetup proposal for the following weekend or come 3 days if validation texting and approval seeking she will reject you. I noticed quick calculated effort works wonders. I met up with my Cougar for a date the next day after I met her. Then lead her on for an entire month! But everytime I waited say a week to ask them out I got the shaft. There is something powerful about the meet up mentality. Whether you are running a pivot, planning a week out, or taking it slow (by waiting 3 days to call or text for a date) you should constantly deploy the meet up method. I don't know about online world since I have yet to score a number there and the real world is a far more lucrative playground. It seems getting chicks of FB is a lost cause, at least for me.
I think where most guys get stuck is wanting a GF so they over-pursue and White Knight the chick but in a needy way. The hipster chick from work is digging on me because I White knighted her correctly. I lurked (white knighting) around her a lot. We spent an hour and a half in her car last week. She texted me a huge text (at least 80% interest level type of text) but this was because I took it slow waited 3 days to call but to cancel our date since the weather was bad and she said it was okay we can try again another time. So the door is still open for me. And I haven't hit her up since. Since I am taking it slow I am only going to hit her up for meeting up and potentially only going to use the phone for this reason unless some flirting is going on.
But where most guys get caught up is White Knighting but never asking them out which is why they get ignored. Granted you can do your own thing I am just saying the meet up Mindset is giving me enough validation and more than enough I may only used the phone for this reason since me texting then constantly only creates a needy frame for me and insecurities. So they should be texting me if they just want to talk. But I won't do that jazz anymore at least while this keeps working. This is kinda like abundance mentality and the old Player frame. Using the phone to get them out and then letting them come to you. After all if they want you they'll be texting you. But I have seen so many guys fail by over-pursuing by constantly texting then falling head over heels before a date and then gushing to the target how much they adore them. Girls hate this . They need our affections to be proven with time equaling time spent with them. This is why now I must qualify the chicks I want to hang with from the ones I don't want. Since dating is expensive and no girl I know will just meet up for a fark unless some attachment and time investment is already there.
When you let go of your feelings you can really then embrace your surroundings
Love is a game that's why I don't worry about it anymore. When you let go of your feelings you find your meaning.