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    Default Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Hey guys,
    I need help. I feel a little bit out of my depth here because I'm used to going after girls who are looking for a relationship. This one definitely isn't. (She says she doesn't do the whole relationship thing and constantly refers to the fact that she has "all the boys" after her... she does but, that's beside the point ) Anyway, our background is that I met her briefly while ordering at the bar. She was the bartender and without me asking, she handed over her number told me to remember to text.

    I did. Our conversations are flirty, sexual and fun. She's not looking for a relationship, thinks I'm sexy and is obviously looking for a root. Only thing is, she keeps mentioning "her other boys" (making me jealous? Not really sure what she's playing at).

    We've been chatting like that for a couple of days now, and I've decided to make a little trip to where she lives (45min away). I suggested that we go to the beach if it's warm or rent a movie and snuggle if it's cold. She suggested seeing 22 jump street at the cinemas. I rolled with it - I'm actually a bit of a movie buff and have waiting for this movie.

    I guess I have a couple of questions for you guys. First of all, I have to get some sort of sexual Kino going before we get back to her place. How should I go about this in the theatre? Next, I'm a virgin. She most certainly isn't. Any tips on how to seduce her at her own place? I kinda know the theory, just haven't practise. I only really came to the mental conclusion about a week ago to proactively look for sex. It's very clear that she is looking for a purely physical relationship and that's all I want too. It's just whether or not I can get it right on the day hhaha. Anyway, thoughts?
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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Every time I've gotten in bed with someone in one night, I typically tease her so that she tries to tease me back and turns it into a playful wrestling type thing (typically they'll say something along the lines of "I'm going to beat your ass") in the car. Also, do Kino with them like you would one of your guy friends. What I mean by this is like if you say something funny about them, like do the play punch you do with your bro's. This always works for me because I have both male and female friends and I act the same with both of them so when I meet a romantic interest and am feeling confident I can easily apply kino. I just have issues doing it in front of people, I'm better off in a one on one situation.

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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Act the same way you would over text, flirting and laughing with her. 22 Jump Street is hilarious so I wouldn't even worry that much about anything in the movie theater. If she want's purely physical, don't put your arm around her or anything, I would stick with touching her leg while she's sitting down.

    If you look needy or act like your in a relationship, then she's going to think you have the wrong idea and leave.

    After the movie theater say lets go to my place for a drink.

    Honestly, if she gave you her number you just gotta sit back and enjoy the ride. She's pursuing you, and all you really have to do is keep relaxed, flirty, and funny. Not awkward or clingy. She'll do the rest.

    Oh and at your place, after the drink, sit down on the couch and start making out, then escalate from there. Should be golden pony boy!
    It's not a task, its a pleasure. Enjoyment reached from strengthening the foundation, not a new coat of paint.

    Oh, and getting laid is pretty farking awesome too!

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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Thanks for the advice guys! Funnily enough trickster, she actually said something along those lines. "I'm going to bash you with your own tennis racket... in my undies" were her exact words haha.

    And gotcha Sleath, stay away from the relationship vibe. I can't bring her back to my place because I live about 40 minutes away. So I'm thinking I'll just have to come up with some random excuse to come inside (pun intended). I have a couple of ideas but, because I'm driving back afterwards I can't exactly invite myself over for a drink. I'm thinking something stupid like, "you need to show me your tennis racket! I'm not about to get bashed by some $20 Kmart bat!"
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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Quote Originally Posted by Thommo98 View Post
    I have a couple of ideas but, because I'm driving back afterwards I can't exactly invite myself over for a drink. I'm thinking something stupid like, "you need to show me your tennis racket! I'm not about to get bashed by some $20 Kmart bat!"
    I think you can invite yourself over for a drink, or at the very least have somewhere to go after the movie for a drink, and to talk about the movie. Preferably somewhere close to her place. Keep the line in your back pocket, cause it is good and playful and will probably work. And remember to relax and have fun.
    Last edited by daffyff; 06-19-2014 at 11:47 PM. Reason: wording

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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Ask her directly if you can stay the night. If she really is just looking for sex, and is as experienced as you suggest, she won't have an objection to this and might like your confidence. She might also like that your a virgin if it comes up

    Just be yourself and have fun.

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    Thanks for the advice guys. I'm super keen for the weekend to start! Undoubtedly, this is going to be fun. And really, she's been chasing me. All I need to do is let her chase.
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    don't bring up the virgin thing--if anything own it. be proud of it, sometimes your weaknesses are your strengths. if she does ask--say something like "yeah, i'm a virgin. there's a first time for everything and i'm gonna own it--tonight, i'm going to own you". if you say something like this she's bound to be surprised and taken back--so that's when you make your move for a kiss / make out. as i look back at my first time i wished i was much more cleaver to say something like this because women love seeing a guy in his element. with this Mindset of owning your moment with her--its ok to tell her to do certain things if she's obviously picked up the queue that it's going to get steamy. i think a great move to escalate is much like how you can undo a bra--if she's wearing a top with straps--pull one of her straps off her shoulder and see how she reacts--don't rip it off but show that you're escalating. if she's wearing a dress--rub your hand on her legs--stroking it. and you can always escalate by moving her hair away from her ears--all of these 3 things you can do are pretty close to heavy Kino--but they're clear signs that you're looking to at least kiss and could go more if she's open to it.

    the bonus to being a virgin with a more experienced girl... i never got laid till i was 23--only kissed by a friend once a few years before that. funny enough was that the girl who i lost it to was older who let me try just about anything--from there i've been 100% comfortable in bed from animal sex to love making. when you're having sex just do what you've been doing in your game with the girl and continue to apply that knowledge of Push Pull and leading her in the sack because you know things will be much better if you're taking the lead. read her body language and face--you'll know if you're doing something right or wrong--never ask yes or no questions in bed--make it more questions that will make it about options in bed like "harder", "softer", "faster", and "slower"...

    as for the relationship thing.. i just want to rant for a bit even though you didn't really ask for help on this.. if she's not looking for a long term thing cool--if you want it to be that--all you have to do is keep playing with the push and pull attraction models out there and keep her on her toes about who you are to her. if a girl really likes you she'll pine for you trying to get your attention every moment she can. there's a good chance she's just the kind of girl that doesn't like labels--or is scared of labels. most people are scared of these things. if you look at some people who've been dating for years--some never get married because they don't like labels or scared of what that idea means to them. the idea of commitment is pretty powerful especially if they've been socially conditioned to think so. having talked to some people who have been married or are married--marriage isn't what it used to be in the 1940's to 1960's with the golden aged dream of a perfect family. in today's function of marriage it's an agreement that benefits both parties the best--in most occasions it's a mutually intimate relationship. but in the last 5 years i've met many--many couples who get married so they can both live their lives independently. they don't hide it from their girlfriends. they don't see it as a big deal because they still live their own lives--i'd say roughly every few months they check in with each other at the very least.. often my friends who do this are married to their best friends so they both can mutually benefit. so how does this all apply into thinking about long term relationships? labels aren't as important as most people put it out there to be--if you like the girl just be with her. if she wants to put a label on it then cool. if you need a label so you can move on to other things in your life then tell her. make your choice.
    Every moment counts, get out of your head and enjoy it.

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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Thanks Artandale and thanks everyone else for your advice. It seems like I won't be needing it on this occasion as she's now ignoring my texts. I sent her one ironing out the details for tomorrow and she hasn't replied. I also sent her one on facebook (just in case - Vodafone has been having some problems lately) but no response. Seen, but nothing back. I'm not really sure why she's not replying but, I'm not having any of it. I've deleted her number and un-friended her on facebook. She's obviously not as interested as I thought in meeting up.
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    Default Re: Going after a girl much more experienced than me

    Quote Originally Posted by Thommo98 View Post
    I'm not having any of it. I've deleted her number and un-friended her on facebook. She's obviously not as interested as I thought in meeting up.
    That's a shame, what a tease. Still I commend you for being brave, deleting her and moving on. A lot of experienced guys can't do that!

    I see you're in Brisbane. I lived there once when I was younger. Its full of cute girls who are fairly easy to pick up! Good luck!


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