So recently, I was able to get arrange dates with girls I met online.
We go on a 1st date, then when I try to keep in touch with the girl, either she stops responding to messages or if the girl is nice she will tells me:
"I'm not feeling any chemistry..sorry" or
"you're down to earth, but I don't feel we'll click"...bla bla bla
This situation happened to me with 5 different girls even though all the girls I met had similar interests or life pattern like me.
It's really hard to be rejected, and it starts to get into me a little bit. If anyone can give any advice I will really appreciate it. The problem I have nooo idea what I am doing wrong.
Here are some random facts I do on the date maybe one of these things I do is wrong:
-I know the importance of body language, and that I should be confident, and keep the conversation positive.
-I make sure not to be late, and I try to end up the date on a high energy.
- I walk with the girl to her car and I message her after she gets home and ask her if she arrived.
-I dress nicely and I make sure my hair is not messy and that I smell good to my dates
-I am aware that I need to take in consideration the girl's personality and calibrate based on that. I usually make the girl comfortable with me so she won't mind to hold hands when we walk for example.
-I go for ice cream or some drinks..no restaurents.
-I noticed myself last date that I was laughing on her silly jokes (maybe I shouldn't be doing that?)
-I'm not really good at flirting, but i usually compliment the girl on her dress when i first sees her...(maybe that's not enough?). I compensate about that in my conversation. For example, on last date, the girl even sang for me, and I definitely made sure to genuinely compliment her on that
-I make sure to keep the conversation with the girl on the first date light, far from interview mode, a little bit funny, and she does most of the talk while she knows a little about me.
-I ask her qualifications questions.
-I don't know how to do Push-Pull so I don't do any of that.
any comments or any advice about something I am missing or something I am doing wrong is highly appreciated. Thank you!