So, there is this chick that I met 2 months ago. We had several things in common and we seem to hit it off pretty well.
Then, one day, she sent me this awkward message:
"Hi xxx, thanks for the very nice message and sorry to be answering only now. I was out all day (not studying!). Just in case I have to let you know that I recently started dating someone (sounds like a cliché but true!). However I really enjoy talking to you and hope that this will not be in the way. You are very easy to talk to. Anyway hope to meet for lunch in the week!! Have a nice day!"
I didn't like the way she worded it and it also seemed as she was trying to double-date until she decided whom to keep. I immediately lost interest in her upon seeing that text and I was kinda busy with my exams anyway. I didn't comment about the bf part but I told her I was busy but that we could meet after I was done with my exams. Of course I never bothered calling her back.
One month later, she appears again out of the blue asking me to meet for lunch and, if not possible, to meet for drinks. I don't have the message anymore to copy the content, but it seemed kinda needy. I showed it to several friends and they all agreed that she probably got dumped and that I was her B-plan. The thought of being someone's back-up plan is a bit humiliating but I accepted to meet. I had nothing to lose after all...
So we meet a couple of days ago. I took her to a really fancy place, acted my usual self (cocky and funny) but didn't try to directly flirt with her as I wanted to observe her intentions first.
I would like to ask for your feedback concerning 3 points. Did I game her right or could I have done things differently? This is important as I have no one to provide me concrete advice on bad/good things I do.
1) Just after meeting her, I was telling her how energetic I felt because of the sunshine and that I was doing all sorts of activities. And then I told her how I felt my energy being sucked up on cloudy days. At this point, she said "oh yeah! I know exactly the feeling! I am exactly the same!". She kinda emphasized this point (even said it twice), so I suspect she tried to establish some sort of connection. She is half-Danish, half-Italian, so I said commented how her Italian side was predominant. I didn't insist more on the connection thing as it felt forced. Should I have used that to my advantage?
2) She said she owed me a lunch (because I paid for the last one we had) and I made fun of her and called her a feminist. She then tried to justify herself and said she wasn't that bad a feminist, as if she was trying to get validation from me. I made a quick joke about it but didn't insist further. Should I have taken advantage of that moment of weakness (her trying to validate herself)?
3) After the drinks, we each went our own way and I received a text from her just a few minutes later "oh, and thanks for the drinks! :-)".
I waited a couple of hours before responding her and wrote the following
"don't mention it... BUT I will be expecting some Danish Snaps or Italian Grappa when I see you again Take care and enjoy the holidays!"
This was some sort of inside joke as we were talking about those specific drinks, so it did make sense that I mention them. Of course, I meant it as a joke and never expected her to bring me anything. To be honest, I don't care that much about that girl, so I decided to act randomly and write something playful.
"ok!! enjoy the holidays too!"
I am not sure she got the joke. Would be funny if she really brought me something, lol
Did I handle this well or was it crap?
Anyway, she told me her bday was coming up and she asked me to book the date for her party. She definitely wants to see me again.
I wonder if I should write something around the middle of August to show interest. or is that too needy?
Sorry for the long post but any help/advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot, bros